# Match.com and Yahoo problem **URL:** \ **Category:** Factual Questions\ **Created:** [July 7, 2003, 2:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/match-com-and-yahoo-problem/186692 "2003-07-07T02:58:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![annaplurabelle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/919ad9/32.png) [@annaplurabelle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/annaplurabelle)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2003, 11:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/match-com-and-yahoo-problem/186692/21 "2003-07-07T23:45:31Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by ntucker \* > \*\*As it turns out, this isn’t actually a very good test. In my situation, that test would have passed with flying colors. It was **responses** to my messages that weren’t getting through. I suspect it has something to do with a bug in the “this person can’t email you unless you’ve emailed them first” logic. (initial contact with someone must be through the web form. after that (or maybe after they respond), you can email them using their [match.com](http://match.com) alias from your email program, and the system forwards it to them as long as certain criteria are met). \*\* Interesting. I was on match last year, and a few responses claimed that they’d written to me once before - at the time, I thought it was just a standard chat up line to increase the chances of a reply… When I was new to online dating, I used to reply to all, even if only to say “Thanks, but…”. I figured it was better than leaving someone to wonder. I stopped doing it, because it was perceived as either encouragement to try again, or led to nasty “Who cares - you’re not so hot anyway” parting shot mails… BTW… “awwwwwwww” 🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/match-com-and-yahoo-problem/186692.md?page=1)