# MAY we have a new Mini-Rants thread now? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [May 2, 2022, 11:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-a-new-mini-rants-thread-now/963800 "2022-05-02T11:57:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![scareyfaerie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scareyfaerie/32/3135_2.png) [@scareyfaerie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scareyfaerie)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2022, 1:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-a-new-mini-rants-thread-now/963800/101 "2022-05-11T13:35:56Z")
My workplace seems to have gone completely overboard on equality/diversity/inclusion just recently. I truly have no issue with EDI, I work in academia and we have an extremely diverse environment here which is great and should be encouraged, celebrated and protected. My boss has been off sick since December, so we have a stand-in manager who is a lovely person but really annoys me on one minor level. We have been instructed to change our email signature blocks to something standard across College, which is fine. In the block, it specifically states our preferred pronouns. Mine are she/her. It’s very obvious. Stand-in manager insists on referring to me as “they” when I have made it clear that’s not my preferred pronoun. If they want us to state our preferences, bloody well use them! ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2022, 6:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-a-new-mini-rants-thread-now/963800/102 "2022-05-11T18:03:06Z")
Nothing mini about this, but I don’t know another forum that fits my emotional state, and I don’t have the energy to write about it right now, so here goes: GODDAMNIT, I was supposed to get thirty-six years with you, Joan, not less than TEN WEEKS! Joan M-A Brooks Brown 10 July 1951 - 10 May 2022 ---
**Author:** ![slalexan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e47c2d/32.png) [@slalexan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/slalexan)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2022, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-a-new-mini-rants-thread-now/963800/103 "2022-05-11T18:20:21Z")
_hugs_ **kaylasdad99** _hugs_ I wish there was something I could say or do to make it better. ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2022, 6:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-a-new-mini-rants-thread-now/963800/104 "2022-05-11T18:41:15Z")
Thank you, but I just needed to vent some more. Just the fact that the forum is here helps. But only a very little. ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Drake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ad7895/32.png) [@Dr.Drake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Drake)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2022, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-a-new-mini-rants-thread-now/963800/105 "2022-05-11T18:44:32Z")
Oh, that’s awful. I’m so sorrt. Edit: I left the typo in, just in case it amuses. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2022, 6:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-a-new-mini-rants-thread-now/963800/106 "2022-05-11T18:45:14Z")
Holy shit. ---
**Author:** ![Yllaria](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yllaria/32/3452_2.png) [@Yllaria](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yllaria)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2022, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-a-new-mini-rants-thread-now/963800/107 "2022-05-11T18:47:26Z")
So sorry for your loss, **kaylasdad99**. ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2022, 7:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-a-new-mini-rants-thread-now/963800/108 "2022-05-11T19:23:23Z")
So sorry. Hope you’ll keep posting, to vent or rage or to distract yourself. (Said a prayer, but it was only “What the fuuuuuuuu…?”) ---
**Author:** ![Ulf\_the\_Unwashed](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Ulf\_the\_Unwashed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ulf_the_Unwashed)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2022, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-a-new-mini-rants-thread-now/963800/109 "2022-05-11T20:09:56Z")
Oh man, I’m so very sorry. What a thing. ---
**Author:** ![Icarus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/icarus/32/72_2.png) [@Icarus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Icarus)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2022, 8:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-a-new-mini-rants-thread-now/963800/110 "2022-05-11T20:33:58Z")
> [@scareyfaerie](#): > > Stand-in manager insists on referring to me as “they” when I have made it clear that’s not my preferred pronoun. If **they** want us to state our preferences, bloody well use them! Are they using the term as a generic pronoun, as it appears you are here? Do they use it as a generic pronoun for everyone? I don’t know that I would even notice the use of “they/them”, as they can be neutral generic? ---
**Author:** ![Atamasama](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/atamasama/32/12961_2.png) [@Atamasama](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Atamasama)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2022, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-a-new-mini-rants-thread-now/963800/111 "2022-05-11T21:07:44Z")
> [@kaylasdad99](#): > > Thank you, but I just needed to vent some more. Vent away. This is the place. ---
**Author:** ![Drsunflower1](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drsunflower1/32/12711_2.png) [@Drsunflower1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drsunflower1)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2022, 10:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-a-new-mini-rants-thread-now/963800/112 "2022-05-11T22:27:06Z")
@kaylasdad99 my condolences and a big hug. How awful. ---
**Author:** ![Skywatcher](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skywatcher/32/254_2.png) [@Skywatcher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skywatcher)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2022, 11:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-a-new-mini-rants-thread-now/963800/113 "2022-05-11T23:02:15Z")
> [@Skywatcher](#): > > > [@Skywatcher](#): > > > > Comcast/Xfinity has moved moved yet another channel from free to some premium tier. Can’t even find which premium tier unless I call 'em. > > > > > Oh, well. We weren’t really watching MeTV anyway. > > Back to free again. I guess their moving the channel to a four-digit number confused the system for a bit. I wish they’d make up their mind whether or not we can watch MeTV. Meh. I found something better than “M \* A \* S \* H”, anyway; [the Decades channel](https://www.decades.com/schedule) has Ed Sullivan. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2022, 4:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-a-new-mini-rants-thread-now/963800/114 "2022-05-12T04:12:57Z")
Stupid eye place seems to be running a scam. They are making $540 total ($45/month for 12 months), which he admitted was more than he thought. And I’ve looked it up and that is utterly ridiculous for what he is getting. I’m trying to believe it must be some misunderstanding, but I’m pissed. Especially since I finally got an appointment at the same eye place, the one I’ve always used. I’m stressed as fuck about it, too, as I’m afraid Dad is too ashamed to call them and try to straighten it out, and he definitely won’t let me do it. But we really can’t afford this. And he needs to do it quickly. Not asking for advice. I just needed to vent. ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2022, 6:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-a-new-mini-rants-thread-now/963800/115 "2022-05-12T06:27:16Z")
> [@kaylasdad99](#): > > Nothing mini about this, but I don’t know another forum that fits my emotional state, and I don’t have the energy to write about it right now, so here goes: - > > GODDAMNIT, I was supposed to get thirty-six years with you, Joan, not less than TEN WEEKS! > > Joan M-A Brooks Brown > 10 July 1951 - 10 May 2022 I am so deeply sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![scareyfaerie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scareyfaerie/32/3135_2.png) [@scareyfaerie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scareyfaerie)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2022, 9:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-a-new-mini-rants-thread-now/963800/116 "2022-05-12T09:24:08Z")
> [@Icarus](#): > > Are they using the term as a generic pronoun, as it appears you are here? Do they use it as a generic pronoun for everyone? I don’t know that I would even notice the use of “they/them”, as they can be neutral generic? Sorry, my use of “they” was to cover the entire institution. Bit like the royal “we” 🙂 She uses it for everyone and everything - what really got to be was that it went all through the paperwork for my annual review, so before I signed off my bit, I changed all of the “they/their” back to “she/her”. Petty, but it made me feel better. ---
**Author:** ![scareyfaerie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scareyfaerie/32/3135_2.png) [@scareyfaerie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scareyfaerie)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2022, 9:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-a-new-mini-rants-thread-now/963800/117 "2022-05-12T09:25:45Z")
**kaylasdad99** big hugs to you, I wish there was something that would make it hurt less and help the healing but I know there isn’t. Just remember there are people out there thinking of you and wishing you well. ---
**Author:** ![eenerms](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/cdc98d/32.png) [@eenerms](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eenerms)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2022, 9:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-a-new-mini-rants-thread-now/963800/118 "2022-05-12T21:10:15Z")
What’s with politeness gone astray? Even older people. We are staying in mid priced motels that have breakfast. People pushing, knocking into each other and me. No excuse mes, pleases, thank yous to people who are stocking the breakfasts. One guy even asked me to see where the cooked sausages are. WTF! I was standing back so I wouldn’t get spilled on. ---
**Author:** ![Atamasama](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/atamasama/32/12961_2.png) [@Atamasama](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Atamasama)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2022, 9:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-a-new-mini-rants-thread-now/963800/119 "2022-05-12T21:24:53Z")
> [@eenerms](#): > > We are staying in mid priced motels that have breakfast. People pushing, knocking into each other and me. No excuse mes, pleases, thank yous to people who are stocking the breakfasts. [![](https://www.bigfooty.com/forum/attachments/pig-at-trough-gif.632645/) ](https://www.bigfooty.com/forum/attachments/pig-at-trough-gif.632645/) ---
**Author:** ![pipperroo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7feea3/32.png) [@pipperroo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pipperroo)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2022, 2:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-a-new-mini-rants-thread-now/963800/120 "2022-05-13T02:49:12Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > > [@Dr.Drake](#): > > > > For those claiming mayonnaise is a necessary evil for tuna salad, etc., try making those with plain Greek yoghurt instead. > > Greek yogurt is an excellent substitute for mayonnaise or sour cream. just make sure you get unflavored yogurt the time my Mother tried to substitute Vanilla yogurt for sour cream on baked potatoes… [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-a-new-mini-rants-thread-now/963800.md?page=5) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-a-new-mini-rants-thread-now/963800.md?page=7)