# May We Have Some Updates, Please? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 11, 2004, 5:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-some-updates-please/239474 "2004-04-11T17:47:45Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![papergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/aca169/32.png) [@papergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/papergirl)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2004, 2:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-some-updates-please/239474/41 "2004-04-18T02:09:04Z")
Oh, honey. I am SO relieved to hear you and your sweet guy are okay. šŸ™‚ Things here are goodā€¦much, much better than a couple of years ago. I thank God every single day of my life that I got out (of the very bad marriage) while I still had a little sanity and a little self-respect left. The ex is on a more even keel now, too, so I donā€™t have to be afraid of delivering papers on those dark back streets like I was for a while. I could ramble, but Iā€™ll stop for now. Just know that you and yours have been in my thoughts all this time. ---
**Author:** ![Kyla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/eada6e/32.png) [@Kyla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kyla)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2004, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-some-updates-please/239474/42 "2004-04-18T02:13:03Z")
What a nice thread this is. The picture of Baby Erin and the bear cracked me up, and seeing Emma Kate doing so well at two and a half makes me wonder where the time went. ---
**Author:** ![TeaElle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8491ac/32.png) [@TeaElle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TeaElle)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2004, 6:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-some-updates-please/239474/43 "2004-04-18T06:25:00Z")
> [@Shayna](#): > > And since itā€™s been over a year since that happened, youā€™ve obviously had your baby, which I also must have missed the announcement of, so congratulations! Did you have a boy or a girl? Any pictures youā€™d be willing to share? There was an announcement, let me see if I can find it without killing any hamstersā€¦ yep, [here ya go](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=216341). No pics online, though. I may be paranoid, but the idea of putting my kids pics up on the web skeeves me out. Maybe one day. Speaking of babies, itā€™s great to hear good news from **evilbeth** and **kal and washte**. Hurray for healthy, happy bunchkins! ---
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2004, 1:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-some-updates-please/239474/44 "2004-04-18T13:24:15Z")
:::bump:::: As I want to find out if **inkleberry** did pick a new last name. ---
**Author:** ![misstee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/958977/32.png) [@misstee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/misstee)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2004, 6:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-some-updates-please/239474/45 "2004-04-19T06:51:39Z")
From [this thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?p=4650331#post4650331), I was wondering how things were going for **Blonde** , **Salem** and **Shannablu**. Also, I havenā€™t seen **Qazzz** around since the alien/sister thing. ---
**Author:** ![Tentacle\_Monster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ba9def/32.png) [@Tentacle\_Monster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tentacle_Monster)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2004, 7:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-some-updates-please/239474/46 "2004-04-19T07:03:57Z")
**Scylla** , did you ever vanquish the Evil Nazi Groundhogs? (Iā€™ve been a lurker for a LONG freakinā€™ time) ---
**Author:** ![TwistofFate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/cdc98d/32.png) [@TwistofFate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TwistofFate)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2004, 12:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-some-updates-please/239474/47 "2004-04-19T12:37:11Z")
I think Scylla sold the farm. ---
**Author:** ![JeffB](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jeffb/32/188_2.png) [@JeffB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JeffB)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2004, 12:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-some-updates-please/239474/48 "2004-04-19T12:50:58Z")
As long as he didnā€™t buy the farm. ---
**Author:** ![SuperNova](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea666f/32.png) [@SuperNova](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuperNova)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2004, 11:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-some-updates-please/239474/49 "2004-04-19T23:10:59Z")
> [@TwistofFate](#): > > I think Scylla sold the farm. Where is Scylla anyway? I havenā€™t seen the name around for at least a month. ---
**Author:** ![xash](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/x/c6cbf5/32.png) [@xash](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/xash)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2004, 11:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-some-updates-please/239474/50 "2004-04-21T11:01:40Z")
> [@SuperNova](#): > > Where is Scylla anyway? I havenā€™t seen the name around for at least a month. I donā€™t believe heā€™s returning. I might start a new thread shortly just to beg him, and other classic dopers, to stay. Itā€™s sad, but true, that we will lose some great posters after the switch. ---
**Author:** ![j\_sum1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/8baadc/32.png) [@j\_sum1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/j_sum1)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2004, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-some-updates-please/239474/51 "2004-04-23T15:29:41Z")
::bump:: Back after two week vacation and wondered what was happening. Cute kid **Kal**. Iā€™d still love to hear from **hyperjes**. ---
**Author:** ![Salem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8c91f0/32.png) [@Salem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Salem)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2004, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-some-updates-please/239474/52 "2004-04-23T16:12:44Z")
> [@misstee](#): > > From [this thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?p=4650331#post4650331), I was wondering how things were going for **Blonde** , **Salem** and **Shannablu**. Thanks for asking, **Misstee**. The future ex did finally move out about three weeks ago, nearly six months after he had agreed to a separation. (And nearly four years after I first told him I wanted a separationā€¦long story). Because of his past behavior, I anticipated much worse than what itā€™s been so far. He is still trying to maintain some control over me, but so far has limited his verbal abuse to a few later night phone calls when heā€™s clearly had a few (never when he has had the kids with him). The next morning he has been apologetic. Typical behavior pattern from him, but now I can just hang up and the kids arenā€™t around to hear it. šŸ™‚ Itā€™s been an adjustment period for everyone now that he is physically in another space and the kids are doing the ā€œto Dadā€™sā€ thing. Overall, so far, it seems to be going well, we are more relaxed in the house and he seems to be more patient and actively involved when he has the kids at his place. Heā€™s actually taken them for hikes in the woods and things of that sort. Prior to this, he would spend his non-work time ā€œholding down the couchā€ while watching tv and yelling at the kids if they werenā€™t quiet. :rolleyes: Legally speaking, I have not filed or made an appointment with a mediator yet. He knows it is my intention, but when the reality of it hits him, Iā€™m concerned about his reaction. There have already been some nasty things said. Iā€™m afraid of things getting out of hand when he knows thereā€™s no hope. Itā€™s a difficult hurdle to get over, even though I know it needs to be done. Part of me says let him get used to the idea and adjust to the situation, part of me says get it over with as quickly as possible. He is still not able to see his role in the dissolution of our marriage and is looking to blame me and external factors. The fact that his first wife left him for the exact same reasons seems to be lost on him. But, at least things are moving in a positive direction and I hope we can continue to be mostly civil, which he really has been overall, and keep the kids in the forefront of the discussions. ---
**Author:** ![THespos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8c91f0/32.png) [@THespos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/THespos)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2004, 1:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-some-updates-please/239474/53 "2004-12-28T13:04:15Z")
How did that wedding turn out, you ask? Well, it basically turned out fine, save for few things that were really minor. Thankfully, most of my sisterā€™s friends _did_ make the list after some persuasion tactics were employed. The contest over which parent could get the most friends to attend was really inconsequential in the end. My momā€™s friends stuck to one side of the room and my dadā€™s friends stayed mostly entrenched on the other side. There were enough people not caught in the middle to make it quite the social event, with plenty of dancing and partying. It was actually one of the most fun weddings Iā€™ve ever been to. We had a bit of a scare at the end of the night when my Dad kind of disappeared. I scooped up my GF at the time and took a ride over to his house, which was only a couple blocks away, and found his truck in the driveway, so he made it home alive. ---
**Author:** ![inkleberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/f17d59/32.png) [@inkleberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/inkleberry)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2005, 7:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-some-updates-please/239474/54 "2005-01-11T07:18:56Z")
> [@Mississippienne](#): > > **inkleberry** did you ever choose a new [surname](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=245224&highlight=Ophelia+Snow)? Heh. Itā€™s funny how things turn out. On the day you posted this question (3/24), I concieved my son (a very surprise son, I may add). Anyway, this was the catalyst for me getting married to his father. Now I have a new surname- Austin-Small. Though hyphenated, the entire thing is my husbandā€™s name. ---
**Author:** ![a35362](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@a35362](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/a35362)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2005, 2:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-some-updates-please/239474/55 "2005-01-11T14:37:37Z")
Did **iampunha** every marry his **bunny**? ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2005, 3:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-some-updates-please/239474/56 "2005-01-11T15:01:07Z")
**Salem** , hope things are continuing to progress in a direction thatā€™s best for you and the kids. ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2005, 3:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-some-updates-please/239474/57 "2005-01-11T15:04:05Z")
> [@a35362](#): > > Did **iampunha** every marry his **bunny**? Nope. ---
**Author:** ![Clothahump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2005, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-some-updates-please/239474/58 "2005-01-11T15:29:22Z")
> [@TeaElle](#): > > As a bonus for me, my former martial arts instructor asked me to come in and re-create the incident for a class he was teaching in personal security for women. Since Iā€™m a petite little thing šŸ˜‰ and I was wearing a skirt and heels at the time, he figured it would be very enlightening for the women to see that you can successfully defend yourself physically even if youā€™re a little clothes-horsey girly girl like me. Is there a link to the original story? I teach martial arts as well and stories like this are good. ---
**Author:** ![lno](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/a8b319/32.png) [@lno](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lno)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2005, 3:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-some-updates-please/239474/59 "2005-01-11T15:32:45Z")
[Post #9 in this thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=4746866&postcount=9) had the link, or you can go directly to [Hope You Enjoyed Jail, Overaggressive Security Pipsqueak](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=171818). ---
**Author:** ![a35362](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@a35362](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/a35362)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2005, 9:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/may-we-have-some-updates-please/239474/60 "2005-01-12T21:48:20Z")
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