# Meage a trois - Every man's fantasy? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 19, 2000, 2:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091 "2000-07-19T14:42:09Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Eve](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Eve](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eve)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2000, 8:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/21 "2000-07-19T20:07:06Z")
" . . . although it was fun, I don’t want to do it again . . . " “Hello, Shayna? It’s Eve. Nah, it’s off for this weekend. Yeah, Mr. Cynical says he’s not interested. OK, you wanna go have pizza instead?” ---
**Author:** ![pldennison](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/9fc29f/32.png) [@pldennison](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pldennison)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2000, 9:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/22 "2000-07-19T21:12:21Z")
I’d be willing to try it once either way (MFM or FMF), but the chances my wife would be interested are somewhere in the neighborhood of zero, so the point is moot. ---
**Author:** ![Arnold\_Winkelried](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Arnold\_Winkelried](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arnold_Winkelried)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2000, 9:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/23 "2000-07-19T21:34:23Z")
I personally would be interested in a “ménage à trois”, but using the other meaning of the french word “ménage”. Namely I would love to be doing housecleaning with three people instead of two! We would go 1.5 times faster. 😃 And the plus side of it is, I bet my fiancée would be all for it, even if it were two girls and one guy. ---
**Author:** ![Stuffy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f17d59/32.png) [@Stuffy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stuffy)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2000, 10:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/24 "2000-07-19T22:12:54Z")
Did it twice enjoyed it, FMF, the two were intersted in each other anyway. Wouldnt do it again though cause Im married. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Cynical](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ee59a6/32.png) [@Mr.Cynical](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Cynical)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2000, 10:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/25 "2000-07-19T22:37:30Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Eve \* > \*\*" . . . although it was fun, I don’t want to do it again . . . " > > “Hello, Shayna? It’s Eve. Nah, it’s off for this weekend. Yeah, Mr. Cynical says he’s not interested. OK, you wanna go have pizza instead?” \*\* I hereby retract every statement I have ever made that insinuates that I would not want to get some funky three-way lovin’ with Eve and Shayna. In fact, I would like to state that if given the opportunity to have a threesome again in my meager little life, these would definitely be the ones I would want it with. ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2000, 10:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/26 "2000-07-19T22:46:26Z")
I had a four girl, one guy thing once. But they started fighting so it didn’t last too long. ---
**Author:** ![Sn-man](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8dc957/32.png) [@Sn-man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sn-man)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2000, 11:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/27 "2000-07-19T23:14:36Z")
Oh to be young, dumb, and full of…. One of my friends and I built patio decks for extra cash when we were 18 years old. We did a job for one lady, who after the job wanted to thank us both, together. It was different; I prefer one on one myself ---
**Author:** ![SuaSponte](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/67e7ee/32.png) [@SuaSponte](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuaSponte)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2000, 11:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/28 "2000-07-19T23:29:47Z")
Might I just say Arrrrrrghhhhhhhhhhhh! April 1990. Missy, Stephanie (both women I’ve lusted after) and myself hanging out in the student club office one evening. Missy and Steph start looking over at me, whispering to each other, and giggling. Missy suggests a backrub chain. I figger, no big deal, we do this a lot – that is, until Steph got up and locked the office door. The backrubs start to get a little more interesting … but then Aleksandra starts pounding on the door. We let her in, and continue with more sedate backrubs. Aleks is just standing there, until I tell her that we are about to have a threesome, so could she either join us or leave. She just giggles and stays. :mad: Later that night, Missy, Steph and I end up back at Steph’s place, in Steph’s bed. Missy passes out, and Steph and I end up fooling around a bit, but not too much, as Steph didn’t want to wake Missy. The worst part was one year later, Missy (who by now was dating a friend, and I was also involved) sez to me: “Vince, if I knew about you then what I know about you know, I would have had that threesome with you!” Ladies, DO NOT SAY SUCH THINGS!!! July 1991. Christopher and Noelle are staying at my place. Our mental states are all a bit adjusted, and Chris and Noelle invite me to join them. Noelle and I had fooled around a bit before she and Chris started dating, so I’m more than willin’. Things start out real well, but Noelle freaked and called it off. Probably the best thing for our (ongoing) friendship, but still … ARGGHHHHHH! In conclusion, ARRRRGGGGGGHHHHHH! Sua. ---
**Author:** ![Eutychus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a3d4f5/32.png) [@Eutychus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eutychus)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2000, 11:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/29 "2000-07-19T23:34:21Z")
I’m up for it! (So to speak …) ---
**Author:** ![sailor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a587f6/32.png) [@sailor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sailor)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2000, 2:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/30 "2000-07-20T02:23:48Z")
Where do I sign up? ---
**Author:** ![SuaSponte](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/67e7ee/32.png) [@SuaSponte](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuaSponte)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2000, 7:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/31 "2000-07-20T19:31:46Z")
I just gotta say that all the men in this thread who deny they’d like to be in a threesome are probably the same ones who tell pollsters they don’t masturbate. 😉 SUa ---
**Author:** ![Trout\_Mask\_Replica](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a88e57/32.png) [@Trout\_Mask\_Replica](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Trout_Mask_Replica)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2000, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/32 "2000-07-20T19:51:20Z")
I’d do it. It’s always been a fantasy of mine to disappoint two women at once. ---
**Author:** ![Edwardina](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Edwardina](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Edwardina)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2000, 9:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/33 "2000-07-20T21:08:29Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Trout Mask Replica \* > \*\*I’d do it. It’s always been a fantasy of mine to disappoint two women at once. > \*\* Trout Mask, you poor thing! God, this just cracked me up! In response to the OP, I have always been curious about a MFM troika. I have tried to imagine/fantasize what it might be like. I think it would probably go either amazingly well (the two guys comfortable with themselves and each other) or mind-numbingly awful (out come all the hang-ups!). I’m sure part of my derangement comes from too many Robert Heinlein books at too young an age, but if I wasn’t so shy (and so content with my steady), I would actively seek this experience. It would be the ultimate flattery to have two guys both interested and willing to share. Of course, I would have to be comfortable with them, too. I’ve been involved in a semi-threesome (I was the least participatory participant) with a dear female friend of mine and a guy she wanted to seduce. It was alright, but I felt awkward and uptight, not wanting to appear overly involved with what was supposed to be her deal (the guy kind of fixated on me, to her dismay), but I think it could be much more fun with a more uninhibited group. All in all, though, I’m not interested in sex with a woman, I just think it’s kind of fun to exalt in one’s feminity with a good friend, while some poor helpless shmuck lies there feeling soooooo lucky. I wouldn’t want to do anything actually _to_ her though, just _with_ her, and once again, it would have to be someone I felt really comfortable with. In the FMF, the guy doesn’t really matter too much, as long as you can trust him not to be a dork. It’s the relationship/trust/friendship between the women that really gets it’s chance to shine, IMHO. ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2000, 11:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/34 "2000-07-20T23:30:59Z")
Perhaps me, msyself & I? At any rate, here is what this phrase is supposed to actually mean: me•nage a trois -a-"trwa\ noun [F, lit., household for three] (1891) : an arrangement in which three persons (as a married pair and the lover of one of the pair) share sexual relations esp. while living together ©1996 Zane Publishing, Inc. and Merriam-Webster, Incorporated. All rights reserved. Doesn’t seem like any answers qualify…sigh ---
**Author:** ![Peta\_Tzunami](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/b487fb/32.png) [@Peta\_Tzunami](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Peta_Tzunami)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2000, 12:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/35 "2000-07-21T00:55:23Z")
When your grinning husband saunters into the room and asks if you’ve read the “menage a trois” thread on the Straight Dope board… :o ---
**Author:** ![Occam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Occam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Occam)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2000, 8:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/36 "2000-07-21T08:10:24Z")
I’ve done it also. It involved my long time girlfriend and a very close friend of hers. It was alright and I still can imagine them eating each other out like it was yesterday. I think guys like to see girl on girl stuff because: 1.) It involves sex and most importantly 2.) There’s no other guy. If you look at a porno movie it’s easier to imagine yourself in between two girls going at it then imaging your the guy in the film banging away. ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2000, 4:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/37 "2000-07-21T16:24:38Z")
Quite a lot of people seemed horrified of people who have done it with more than one other person at the time. It can effect your future possible relationships. ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2000, 4:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/38 "2000-07-21T16:49:04Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Gazoo \* > \*\* Actually, in our discussion last night (which lead to the thread) the girls were turned off by the idea of watching two guys go at it as well, so I don’t think it’s just us men. \*\* They can speak for themselves. Two guys, both beautiful, at least one of whom I was in love with, and the only thing I regret is all they did was kiss. handy- good point. And if I brought it up and they were horrified, I would know this was not a relationship i wanted to pursue either. ---
**Author:** ![PRISM02](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ba9def/32.png) [@PRISM02](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PRISM02)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2000, 5:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/39 "2000-07-21T17:36:49Z")
Threesome? 😃 Ah yes, in my days of working in a porn shop. (plug: See post by pkbites 'smut shop employees). Two beautiful ladies, a couple of bottles of booze, a few joints, assorted toys, assorted lotions, my big water bed, the rainbow selection of condoms and me. It was one of the best nights of my life! It happened when I was still young, able to go the distance 3 or 4 times, and could be active all night long. Much sex. Much cuddling. Much raiding of my refrigerator for energy snacks. Wonderful awaking in the late morning between two beautiful women, still nude – and trying like hell to creep out of the bed and into the can and not show that **every damn muscle and joint** is aching! I had sore muscles in areas that I did not think got involved in sex. I was even a little achy [i/there\* for a couple of hours! I had another 3 some several months later, but it was not as fantastic as that first, and no, I never did it with another guy involved. That creeps me out. Ah, memories. It has been a long, long time since I’ve been ‘threesome-able.’ ---
**Author:** ![nashiitashii](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/7c8e57/32.png) [@nashiitashii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nashiitashii)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2000, 5:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/40 "2000-07-21T17:45:47Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by horowitz \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > \*Originally posted by Gazoo \* > > **Anyway, based on our discussion, the men were in favor of two girls with one guy, but not so keen on two guys with one girl.** > > Me and a buddy of mine, while loaded, have kicked the idea around of doing one girl at the same time. Our general conclusion is that as long as there is a torso in-between us no harm no foul. > > Now we just need a really drunk girl. \*\* I’ve always thought that I might like to be fucked by two guys at once. Something I’ll have to try with a couple friends with looser morals and about equal staying power. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091.md?page=3)