# Meage a trois - Every man's fantasy? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 19, 2000, 2:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091 "2000-07-19T14:42:09Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Athena](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/35a633/32.png) [@Athena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Athena)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2000, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/41 "2000-07-21T17:55:10Z")
\ It appears that I’m doomed to go through life never finding a couple of guys willing to do the MFM thing with me. And yes, I’d want the guys interested in each other. I can just see a couple of guys who are deathly afraid of accidentally touching each other trying to do the menage a trois thing! I’ve tried to sell this idea to SO, but he’s emphatically NOT interested. He also says it’d be just fine if I brought a girl home, though. Alas, that doesn’t seem nearly as fun… ---
**Author:** ![Sledman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/839c29/32.png) [@Sledman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sledman)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2000, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/42 "2000-07-21T18:47:47Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Gazoo \* > \*\*Last night a group of friends and I went out for a couple of beers, and somewhere along the line the conversation turned to sex. At this point it was revealed by myself and the other guy in the group that it’s a big male fantasy to have two women at the same time… > > Anyway, based on our discussion, the men were in favor of two girls with one guy, but not so keen on two guys with one girl. The women in our group (bless their little hearts) also seemed to take to the two girls with one guy scenario over the two guys to one girl idea (although the girls seemed to prefer the old one-on-one to a menage a trois, even in fantasyland). > \*\* Sure Gazoo, I go out of town for 3 days and this comes up with my Fiancee… God knows I know her opinion. Anyway, in retrospect, me and a college buddy could have had a 4 way with 2 chicks but didn’t(before I met the soon to be Missus). Were we ever stupid. Now I’ll never know. However, I also wouldn’t if the opportuniy presented itself now. That was a time of unbridled lust without a significant other(a lot of others maybe but none of them significant). I am now happily monogamous. ---
**Author:** ![Michi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c37758/32.png) [@Michi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Michi)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2000, 6:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/43 "2000-07-21T18:49:19Z")
Well, if I ever thought there was a possibility that I might have sex again before I die…I might like to try a MFM. BUT, I don’t want the men to do much beyond pay attention to me. I don’t mean they should freak out if the should happen to touch, but I really don’t have an interest in seeing 2 guys go at it with one another. ---
**Author:** ![donnie\_rotten](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/71e660/32.png) [@donnie\_rotten](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/donnie_rotten)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2000, 8:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/44 "2000-07-21T20:55:51Z")
Once, two girls and me… and for the first five minutes, it was great… Problem is, the girls had “body image issues”, so the lights had to be out, and the curtains closed. So, it was absolutely dark, couldn’t see a thing, and like I said for five minutes, I was enjoying myself. “I am such a stud,” I thought to myself. “Two Girls! KEWL!” But then, what with the darkness and all, I lost track of where _ahem_ “I” was… Let me tell you, that’s a not-so-pleasant feeling, not knowing exactly where Lil’ Abner is. I like to know where he is at all times. And five minutes into this encounter, I have no idea what he’s doing, or to who he’s doing it. A very disturbing feeling. Unless the lights were on, never again. ---
**Author:** ![Sealemon88](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c68b51/32.png) [@Sealemon88](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sealemon88)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2000, 7:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/45 "2000-07-22T19:09:12Z")
> [@](#): > > I just gotta say that all the men in this thread who deny they’d like to be in a threesome are probably the same ones who tell pollsters they don’t masturbate. Not necessarily. I just know how focused I get: I can’t see myself being able to divide my time between two women. I’d rather be with one woman for twice as long. I can’t say 100% that I wouldn’t do it, but overall the thought of it doesn’t do anything for me, esp. now that I’m in a serious relationship with someone I’m not willing to share. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![redtail23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/3e96dc/32.png) [@redtail23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/redtail23)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2000, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/46 "2000-07-22T19:59:02Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by handy \* > \*\*At any rate, here is what this phrase is supposed to actually mean: > > me•nage a trois -a-"trwa\ noun [F, lit., household for three] > > Doesn’t seem like any answers qualify…sigh \*\* Huh? What part of “But then again, I live this way! _grin_ Three’s not a crowd, it’s my family.” didn’t you understand? I mean, I’m used to people not figuring out what’s going on as long as I don’t actually tell them, but not figuring it out AFTER I’ve explicitly stated it is a little thick, don’t you think? Once more for the slow…I live in a three-adult relationship, generally as what’s called a polyfidelitous trio. (Although we make the occasional exception to that ‘fidelity’ part; one of the best parts of poly is that you get to make up your _own_ rules! 😃 ) All day, every day; laundry & housecleaning & yardwork included - all the joys of domesticity, just with three instead of two. (And Arnold, you’re right…3 can clean a house amazingly quickly. Leaves more time for fun!) How does that work? Quite nicely, thank you! ---
**Author:** ![Feynn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ecb155/32.png) [@Feynn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Feynn)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2000, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091/47 "2000-07-22T21:53:38Z")
I’m a serial monogamist. Nuff said. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/meage-a-trois-every-mans-fantasy/26091.md?page=2)