# Memorial service for danceswithcats **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 21, 2009, 3:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/memorial-service-for-danceswithcats/507205 "2009-08-21T15:28:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![TwoTrouts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a9adbd/32.png) [@TwoTrouts](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TwoTrouts)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2009, 2:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/memorial-service-for-danceswithcats/507205/41 "2009-08-28T14:17:44Z")
I will not be able to atttend, unfortunately. I will be there in spirit. I need to go to Calif and help my mother cope with the recent passing of my father. What a bummer of a summer. ---
**Author:** ![Scuba\_Ben](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@Scuba\_Ben](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scuba_Ben)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2009, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/memorial-service-for-danceswithcats/507205/42 "2009-08-28T15:26:33Z")
> [@TwoTrouts](#): > > I will not be able to atttend, unfortunately. I will be there in spirit. I need to go to Calif and help my mother cope with the recent passing of my father. What a bummer of a summer. Ow. My condolences, **TwoTrouts**. ---
**Author:** ![BiblioCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ed8c4c/32.png) [@BiblioCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BiblioCat)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2009, 3:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/memorial-service-for-danceswithcats/507205/43 "2009-08-28T15:56:14Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss, **TwoTrouts.** ---
**Author:** ![MsRobyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/90ced4/32.png) [@MsRobyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsRobyn)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2009, 4:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/memorial-service-for-danceswithcats/507205/44 "2009-08-28T16:03:10Z")
**TwoTrouts** , you have my deepest sympathy. ---
**Author:** ![MsRobyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/90ced4/32.png) [@MsRobyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsRobyn)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2009, 10:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/memorial-service-for-danceswithcats/507205/45 "2009-08-29T22:41:19Z")
One final bump as a reminder. DocCathode, please check your PMs. I can pick you up, but I need some details on where and when to pick you up. If I don’t hear from you by tomorrow morning, I will assume you won’t need a ride. ---
**Author:** ![BiblioCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ed8c4c/32.png) [@BiblioCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BiblioCat)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2009, 1:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/memorial-service-for-danceswithcats/507205/46 "2009-08-30T01:26:59Z")
And one more bump. If anyone who is coming wants my cell number for ‘just in case’, please PM me as soon as possible. I’ll be leaving tomorrow morning about 10:15 and will make one last check here right before I leave. ---
**Author:** ![Anita\_Vacation](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Anita\_Vacation](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anita_Vacation)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2009, 1:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/memorial-service-for-danceswithcats/507205/47 "2009-08-30T13:49:02Z")
BiblioCat, Please let everyone know that my thoughts are with you and all the MADS who mourn Paul’s passing. Without exaggeration, Paul was one of my most favorite people in the world and he earned a great deal of admiration from me. He was a welcome guest in my home many times and he always knew where my fire extinguisher was. He was kind and thoughtful and very, very funny. I miss him very much now and will remember him always. ---
**Author:** ![BiblioCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ed8c4c/32.png) [@BiblioCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BiblioCat)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2009, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/memorial-service-for-danceswithcats/507205/48 "2009-08-31T03:03:17Z")
I need to bump this one last time. I want to express my thanks everyone who came to the memorial or sent personal wishes, and to those who got me there and back. I want to thank everyone who shared a story or memory - it all means a lot to me. I’m still amazed at how many lives he touched, at how many times he was there to lend a helping hand, and how often he made others laugh with his infectious humor. And I’m grateful to those who didn’t care that I cried all over them. I need to thank **Scuba\_Ben** for organizing this, and especially for doing my reading for me, when I was unable to do so. Thank you all. ---
**Author:** ![carnivorousplant](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnivorousplant/32/3563_2.png) [@carnivorousplant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnivorousplant)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2009, 3:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/memorial-service-for-danceswithcats/507205/49 "2009-08-31T03:13:59Z")
I am glad it went well. Best wishes. ---
**Author:** ![Scuba\_Ben](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@Scuba\_Ben](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scuba_Ben)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2009, 1:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/memorial-service-for-danceswithcats/507205/50 "2009-08-31T13:41:51Z")
My deep thanks to: [ul] [li]Everybody who attended the memorial service yesterday[/li][li]Everybody who wanted to attend, but logistics didn’t cooperate[/li][li]Our host for the meal of consolation // wake // get-together[/li][/ul] ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2009, 4:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/memorial-service-for-danceswithcats/507205/51 "2009-08-31T16:46:22Z")
> [@BiblioCat](#): > > And I’m grateful to those who didn’t care that I cried all over them. > Thank you all. If I’d been there, we could have cried all over each other! I have a rule: when I’m in the room, no one cries alone! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2009, 9:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/memorial-service-for-danceswithcats/507205/52 "2009-08-31T21:54:42Z")
We all cried. It was a very healing thing, I think, to be able to cry together with other people who love Paul. Thank you, Ben, for putting this together. ---
**Author:** ![Scuba\_Ben](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@Scuba\_Ben](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scuba_Ben)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2009, 1:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/memorial-service-for-danceswithcats/507205/53 "2009-09-01T13:26:13Z")
You’re welcome, **Opal**. You want crying together with **danceswithcats z’'l** ’s friends? I have already noted that Gettysdope will be lessened this year without Paul. AOP: The z’'l is a Hebrew abbreviation: May his memory be for a blessing. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/memorial-service-for-danceswithcats/507205.md?page=2)