# Men and Anal Sex **URL:** \ **Category:** Great Debates\ **Created:** [May 9, 2004, 6:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-and-anal-sex/244316 "2004-05-09T18:43:37Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Rashak\_Mani](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ea666f/32.png) [@Rashak\_Mani](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rashak_Mani)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2004, 8:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-and-anal-sex/244316/61 "2004-05-13T20:40:20Z")
Talked with my ex-GF last night… and she did mention she misses the Anal Sex and the Animal Sex we had together… opposed to our current mates who are more prudish (her BF) or less experienced (my GF). So women can like Anal sex… not all though. ``` Well back to the OP... why do we men reject being the anus in the anal sex ? ``` ---
**Author:** ![Stoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stoid/32/272_2.png) [@Stoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stoid)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2004, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-and-anal-sex/244316/62 "2004-05-13T21:07:34Z")
> [@Rashak Mani](#): > > Please clarify “Both ways” means YOUR both ways or HIS both ways ? 🙂 He likes giving and gettin’. We enjoy using all our bits. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![ComeToTheDarkSideWeHaveCookies](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@ComeToTheDarkSideWeHaveCookies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ComeToTheDarkSideWeHaveCookies)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2004, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-and-anal-sex/244316/63 "2004-05-13T22:05:50Z")
I’ve always been surprised by the stigma that manages to remain around anal sex within the lesbian crowd. I’m sure I’ve cracked this joke on these boards before, but oh well. I’m always thrown for a loop by the sheer number of lesbians that I’ve encountered who have absolutley no interest in anything anal. There’s this bumpersticker that says something to the effect of “Eat Lamb: 20 million coyotes can’t be wrong.” This is exactly how I preach the anal gospel to my sisters. “Anal Sex: 20 million gay boys can’t be wrong.” We might not have the prostate going for us, but there’s still plenty of never endings in the area to make things fun. In case it isn’t obvious, I’m quite fond of anal play myself, on both the giving and receiving end, and (since we’re all such a close and intimately bonded group) I’ll say that most of my enjoyment comes from the sheer power of merely the _idea_ of anal sex, when it comes to fantasizing during masturbation. Some folks may also find it interesting that vaginal penetration is actually quite low on my hot-list. I’m much more interested in attention being paid to my ass and clit. ---
**Author:** ![alaricthegoth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/4bbf92/32.png) [@alaricthegoth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alaricthegoth)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2004, 10:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-and-anal-sex/244316/64 "2004-05-13T22:31:54Z")
> [@Rashak Mani](#): > > and the Animal Sex huh? Is this where we get the answer to that age old question, what do you do with the chickens? ---
**Author:** ![Spiritus\_Mundi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c68b51/32.png) [@Spiritus\_Mundi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spiritus_Mundi)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2004, 10:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-and-anal-sex/244316/65 "2004-05-13T22:37:29Z")
Straight Male. I like giving on occasion. My wife enjoys getting, on occassion. I never worry about “dirty”. That’s why showers exist. Also, there’s that loveley homeostasis phenomenon and the realization that those germ don’t exactly restrict themselves to the inside of the anal cavity anyway. I also enjoy receiving anal stimulation during oral sex. A “licked wet” finger does me quite nicely, thank you very much. I’ve never been on the catching side of a strap-on, mostly because none of my partners has ever shwn any desire to strap one on. If my wife asked, I would let her try. But I am pretty sure there would be lots of whiskey and foreplay inolved. ---
**Author:** ![Spiritus\_Mundi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c68b51/32.png) [@Spiritus\_Mundi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spiritus_Mundi)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2004, 10:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-and-anal-sex/244316/66 "2004-05-13T22:38:55Z")
> [@alaricthegoth](#): > > what do you do with the chickens? Duct tape. ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2004, 10:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-and-anal-sex/244316/67 "2004-05-13T22:48:03Z")
> [@Spiritus Mundi](#): > > But I am pretty sure there would be lots of whiskey and foreplay inolved. Hell, even in anal sex between gay men there’s usually quite a bit of booze and foreplay involved. Mostly vodka rather than whiskey, but… ---
**Author:** ![Baby\_Fish\_Mouth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a8b319/32.png) [@Baby\_Fish\_Mouth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baby_Fish_Mouth)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2004, 1:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-and-anal-sex/244316/68 "2004-05-14T01:44:31Z")
> [@](#): > > Originally posted by **Stonebow** > So, in sum, I can say that there are apparently real physical reasons for why it might be pleasurable, but also that you should never underestimate what a woman will put up with, or even find pleasurable, if she feels like she is really desired by her partner. Female here and couldn’t have said it better–and would also add that mutual trust goes a long way too. It can be very enjoyable, but only with someone with whom I’ve built a real sense of trust and intimacy. For me, it’s just too intimate an act (not to mention potentially painful) to be done with the wrong person. ---
**Author:** ![Rashak\_Mani](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ea666f/32.png) [@Rashak\_Mani](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rashak_Mani)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2004, 5:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-and-anal-sex/244316/69 "2004-05-14T05:18:03Z")
> [@Baby Fish Mouth](#): > > Female here and couldn’t have said it better–and would also add that mutual trust goes a long way too. It can be very enjoyable, but only with someone with whom I’ve built a real sense of trust and intimacy. For me, it’s just too intimate an act (not to mention potentially painful) to be done with the wrong person. ``` So as a male if I'm not willing to be on the receiving end (by a woman) I haven't built a real sense of trust and intimacy ? I feel I'm pretty open and adventurous male... but I can't make that leap. I haven't been asked to (unlike other SMDB members it seems) so I've avoided this dilemma... :D Also I've had anal sex with 3 women so far... and none of these required Lube or exaggerated care with penetration. It was once a week with my ex and she never had pain or problems. ``` ---
**Author:** ![Baby\_Fish\_Mouth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a8b319/32.png) [@Baby\_Fish\_Mouth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baby_Fish_Mouth)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2004, 11:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-and-anal-sex/244316/70 "2004-05-14T11:09:37Z")
> [@](#): > > Originally posted by **Rashak Mani** > So as a male if I’m not willing to be on the receiving end (by a woman) I haven’t built a real sense of trust and intimacy ? I feel I’m pretty open and adventurous male… but I can’t make that leap. I haven’t been asked to (unlike other SMDB members it seems) so I’ve avoided this dilemma… See the words “ **For me** ” in my post. I wasn’t speaking for all men or women. ---
**Author:** ![Magiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/4491bb/32.png) [@Magiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Magiver)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2004, 12:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-and-anal-sex/244316/71 "2004-05-19T00:20:44Z")
> [@Zagadka](#): > > This distinction has always interested me. > > If you were shown a picture of a nice bare ass with no indication of gender, you would get excited either way. There is something conscious in most people that, when they are told it is a man’s ass, makes them switch this attraction “off”… I want to know what that is. It may have a great deal to do with physiology, but this does not really explain the outright REVOLTION at it being a man’s ass. You may stop being so attracted to it, but there is somewhere where that stops being hard wiring and starts being a psychological distinction, or even a conscious choice (as in men who are homosexuals but refuse to admit it who do this). > > I describe myself as “mostly straight,” with everything that implies - I call a nice ass a nice ass, either way. 😉 More to enjoy in the world that way. I am in the opposite camp. I’ve never thought someone’s ass was great but rather the blending into the rest of the body that was great. Different asses look better on different body’s. Can’t ever remember seeing a guy’s ass and thinking it looked good. Chest or arms maybe, but that would be envy and not desire. I will admit that the backside is squeezably soft. I just never associated it with the rectum. In fact, any thoughts of that are a deal killer. I don’t want to see it, hear it, smell it or touch it. ---
**Author:** ![catsix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e19b73/32.png) [@catsix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/catsix)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2004, 12:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-and-anal-sex/244316/72 "2004-05-19T00:36:41Z")
I’ve liked anal sex since the first time I tried it. Even without a prostate, there are all kinds of wonderful sensations that happen during anal sex that just don’t happen with regular vaginal sex or oral sex. It’s always seemed to work just fine for me with a lubricated condom, which I insist on because I use condoms with any kind of penetrative sex act. Haven’t really had a problem with things being ‘messy’, although I do know some people who swear by having an enema first, and some of them even include enemas in their sex play. ---
**Author:** ![Apos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/838e76/32.png) [@Apos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Apos)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2004, 1:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-and-anal-sex/244316/73 "2004-05-19T01:13:26Z")
> [@](#): > > Let’s see, a hole without any natural lube–unless you consider diarrhea a lubricant. No sir, a simple twat suits me just fine. Sweat. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-and-anal-sex/244316.md?page=3)