# Men, does this get you off? (A slightly TMI poll)
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-does-this-get-you-off-a-slightly-tmi-poll/475546
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion
**Created:** [December 3, 2008, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-does-this-get-you-off-a-slightly-tmi-poll/475546 "2008-12-03T18:58:05Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@NurseCarmen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NurseCarmen)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2008, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-does-this-get-you-off-a-slightly-tmi-poll/475546/21 "2008-12-03T21:01:12Z")
A woman having an orgasm is the hottest part of sex, I don’t give a shit if she brings a jackhammer to the party. Now of course as a true male, I’d prefer it be me having the orgasm. But the thing about a woman having an orgasm is we men like to think she’ll come back for another!
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### Author:  [@KneadToKnow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KneadToKnow)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2008, 9:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-does-this-get-you-off-a-slightly-tmi-poll/475546/22 "2008-12-03T21:04:51Z")
> [@Uncommon\_Sense](#):
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> the tight time
Paging Dr. Freud.
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### Author:  [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2008, 9:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-does-this-get-you-off-a-slightly-tmi-poll/475546/23 "2008-12-03T21:05:02Z")
> [@Earthworm\_Jim](#):
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> The biggest sex organ is the one between your ears.
Who you callin’ a dickhead?
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### Author:  [@MikeG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MikeG)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2008, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-does-this-get-you-off-a-slightly-tmi-poll/475546/24 "2008-12-03T21:13:15Z")
> [@ShibbOleth](#):
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> Wow, not very long from this: [Whoooo! I got a date this weekend!](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=483934) to this:
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> I think you’re just braggin’. We were wondering how the date turned out, btw.
> And as to the OP, female masturbation is hot.
Yeah I was wondering if I was going to get an answer to my request for an update:)
We’re in the same position, her fingers are always welcome to join the party. Watching your partner cum is the biggest turn on and sure to send me over the edge.
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### Author:  [@RedRosesForMe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RedRosesForMe)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2008, 10:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-does-this-get-you-off-a-slightly-tmi-poll/475546/25 "2008-12-03T22:28:47Z")
He said it wasn’t the extra hotness, because I, being one of the majority who needs a little extra to get off, masturbate a lot in front of him. He said he could feel what I was doing and that got him off.
As to the really belated update, I actually got stood up for that date (thanks to you guys I was not too upset by this) but I scheduled a new date later that night with a new guy I had been talking to from OKCupid. We met at a diner, talked all night, and then, um, did something else for a couple of hours. Yes, that’s right, I did it to him on the first date :o but it my defense it was a 7 hour date. And to be honest, he had gotten in my pants the moment he said he spoke Korean.
So, yeah, now I want to marry this guy. Seriously. I’ve never felt this way about anyone before. He’s head over heels too. Last week we were shopping and he just randomly said, “When we have little ones, I just want you to know I want to spend some time with them every day reading to them, or playing chess, or listening to classical music.” I, of course, said, “Duh. As long as we get some art time too.” Swoon.
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### Author:  [@Critical1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Critical1)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2008, 10:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-does-this-get-you-off-a-slightly-tmi-poll/475546/26 "2008-12-03T22:30:00Z")
> [@control-z](#):
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> I would add that maybe you don’t want to do the finger stimulation every time or even most of the time, because your SO might start thinking that his equipment isn’t doing the job.
since I was around 17-18 I always figured the whole entire point was to see how many times you could get _her_ off, and if it gets her off then its fair game as far as I am concerned. whats that saying? The harder they cum the harder they fall? something like that.
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### Author:  [@KneadToKnow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KneadToKnow)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2008, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-does-this-get-you-off-a-slightly-tmi-poll/475546/27 "2008-12-03T22:39:06Z")
> [@RedRosesForMe](#):
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> We met at a diner, talked all night, and then, um, did something else for a couple of hours. Yes, that’s right, I did it to him on the first date :o but it my defense it was a 7 hour date.
Good for you! My girlfriend and I had a 23-hour first date, the last 12 or so of which were spent more or less in bed.
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### Author:  [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2008, 10:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-does-this-get-you-off-a-slightly-tmi-poll/475546/28 "2008-12-03T22:53:48Z")
OP: Works for me. Its’ more a psychological thing than a physical one. See, with doggy it can be hard to tell how she’s doing because, well, her face is being pushed into a pillow and facial expressions are hard to read through the shoulder blades. But this gives a little confirmation that, Yep, she’s still into it. Which is always encouraging.
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### Author:  [@kanicbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kanicbird)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2008, 11:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-does-this-get-you-off-a-slightly-tmi-poll/475546/29 "2008-12-03T23:18:54Z")
Scriptural you and him are one in flesh and his pleasure should come from the pleasuring of your body and yours from pleasuring his, and his body is yours and yours his. This depends on a scriptural form of love, if his desire is to pleasure you, instead of the form that corresponds to lust which would be his desire is to pleasure himself through you.
So if you were pleasuring yourself, and his desire is your pleasure I believe he will experience greater pleasure.
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### Author:  [@robertliguori](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/robertliguori)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2008, 11:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-does-this-get-you-off-a-slightly-tmi-poll/475546/30 "2008-12-03T23:27:51Z")
I am a man.
I decree this hot, and encourage it.
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### Author:  [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2008, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-does-this-get-you-off-a-slightly-tmi-poll/475546/31 "2008-12-03T23:35:09Z")
> [@control-z](#):
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> I would add that maybe you don’t want to do the finger stimulation every time or even most of the time, because your SO might start thinking that his equipment isn’t doing the job.
Oh lordy, no. :eek:
Deprive oneself of pleasure because of what one’s partner _might_ think? Communication is the key. Talk about what you enjoy with your partner.
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### Author:  [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)
#### Post date: [December 3, 2008, 11:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-does-this-get-you-off-a-slightly-tmi-poll/475546/32 "2008-12-03T23:40:34Z")
> [@Earthworm\_Jim](#):
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> The biggest sex organ is the one between your ears.
Look, buddy, I don’t know how _you_ do it, but in my neck of the woods we don’t play like that.
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### Author:  [@AllWalker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AllWalker)
#### Post date: [December 4, 2008, 2:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-does-this-get-you-off-a-slightly-tmi-poll/475546/33 "2008-12-04T02:46:42Z")
> [@Earthworm\_Jim](#):
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> The biggest sex organ is the one between your ears.
I dunno. My girlfriend complained the last time I stuck it up her nose.
I’m kidding, of course. I don’t have a girlfriend.
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### Author:  [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)
#### Post date: [December 4, 2008, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-does-this-get-you-off-a-slightly-tmi-poll/475546/34 "2008-12-04T03:03:47Z")
Is anyone else a little afraid of what might be included in a **raunchy** post? 😃
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### Author:  [@outlierrn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/outlierrn)
#### Post date: [December 4, 2008, 3:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-does-this-get-you-off-a-slightly-tmi-poll/475546/35 "2008-12-04T03:22:13Z")
> [@AllWalker](#):
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> I dunno. My girlfriend complained the last time I stuck it up her nose.
> I’m kidding, of course. I don’t have a girlfriend.
and the coffee comes out my nose!
Seriously though, broadly speaking, responsiveness from my partner is smokin’ hot
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### Author:  [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)
#### Post date: [December 5, 2008, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-does-this-get-you-off-a-slightly-tmi-poll/475546/36 "2008-12-05T22:11:39Z")
Dude, your nose isn’t for _coffee_, it’s for _penis_. You sick bastard.
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### Author:  [@mauxlicious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mauxlicious)
#### Post date: [December 5, 2008, 10:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-does-this-get-you-off-a-slightly-tmi-poll/475546/37 "2008-12-05T22:50:14Z")
> [@Uncommon\_Sense](#):
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> Word up!
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> This true.
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> While the OP may not believe that her fingers came in contact with his manhood, there may have been just enough extra pressure or stimulation down their to make a difference.
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> Shit, a feather would make a substantial difference if introduced at the tight time, right?
This for sure.
This discussion reminded of something Dave Chapelle said (paraphrasing) “We just like to know the woman is participating. Shit. I’ll cum on the TV set if she asks me too.”
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### Author:  [@fisha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fisha)
#### Post date: [December 5, 2008, 11:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-does-this-get-you-off-a-slightly-tmi-poll/475546/38 "2008-12-05T23:30:17Z")
> [@outlierrn](#):
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> Seriously though, broadly speaking, responsiveness from my partner is smokin’ hot
Not to be snarky, serious question.
Do you guys have sex with non-responsive women? Often? Is it the exception, or the rule?
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### Author:  [@control-z](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/control-z)
#### Post date: [December 5, 2008, 11:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-does-this-get-you-off-a-slightly-tmi-poll/475546/39 "2008-12-05T23:45:19Z")
> [@fisha](#):
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> Not to be snarky, serious question.
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> Do you guys have sex with non-responsive women? Often? Is it the exception, or the rule?
Not very often. If they’re non-responsive we probably won’t having much more sex.
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### Author:  [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)
#### Post date: [December 6, 2008, 3:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-does-this-get-you-off-a-slightly-tmi-poll/475546/40 "2008-12-06T03:59:10Z")
Well, the morgue ain’t what it used to be.
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