# Men, ever fake an orgasm? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 25, 2012, 8:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-ever-fake-an-orgasm/616788 "2012-03-25T20:33:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![tim\_duncan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/3bc359/32.png) [@tim\_duncan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tim_duncan)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2012, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-ever-fake-an-orgasm/616788/61 "2012-03-29T16:35:08Z")
No, but I’d like to try and see if I could Too bad I’ll never get the chance to do that… ---
**Author:** ![StephanieLeMonstre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e36b37/32.png) [@StephanieLeMonstre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StephanieLeMonstre)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2012, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-ever-fake-an-orgasm/616788/62 "2012-03-29T20:22:53Z")
> [@drastic\_quench](#): > > Because it hits a woman right in the self-image. The last thing we guys should be doing is tampering with your sexual confidence – even inadvertently. No amount of reassurances that “it’s not you it’s me” or rational thinking is going to countermand that ding. Totally understandable… Eh, I guess I’m just different… ---
**Author:** ![MyFootsZZZ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/myfootszzz/32/12580_2.png) [@MyFootsZZZ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MyFootsZZZ)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2012, 8:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-ever-fake-an-orgasm/616788/63 "2012-03-29T20:28:49Z")
I do it for that reason… I don’t want to offend women. Though there have been times where I’ve been honest, and the women didn’t take it well. ---
**Author:** ![Arrendajo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Arrendajo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arrendajo)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2012, 2:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-ever-fake-an-orgasm/616788/64 "2012-03-30T02:38:21Z")
Once, yes. ---
**Author:** ![RickJay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/bb73d2/32.png) [@RickJay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RickJay)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2012, 3:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-ever-fake-an-orgasm/616788/65 "2012-03-30T03:27:16Z")
> [@MyFootsZZZ](#): > > Thanks **RickJay**! > > I’m ‘in my head’ too much to orgasm while having sex sometimes. I just can’t do it. I take meds that don’t help. I have been told Cialis is almost insanely effective and more convenient/less likely to have nasty side effects. You might wish to look into that. All guys go through a time when they have this sort of thing and of course it feeds on itself and gets into your head. I know a guy who used Viagra a few times and never had to use it again because it just restored his confidence in himself, or something other mental effect, I dunno. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2012, 5:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-ever-fake-an-orgasm/616788/66 "2012-03-30T17:57:36Z")
Never had a reason to . . . but I have faked erections. ---
**Author:** ![Jasper\_Kent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a9a28c/32.png) [@Jasper\_Kent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jasper_Kent)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2012, 7:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-ever-fake-an-orgasm/616788/67 "2012-03-30T19:26:14Z")
> [@MyFootsZZZ](#): > > Does Viagra help with getting an orgasm, or does it just help getting men erect? Just erect. The only 2 times I’ve faked was on Viagra. ---
**Author:** ![MyFootsZZZ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/myfootszzz/32/12580_2.png) [@MyFootsZZZ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MyFootsZZZ)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2012, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-ever-fake-an-orgasm/616788/68 "2012-03-30T19:36:00Z")
Thanks for the info. ---
**Author:** ![zoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zoid/32/336_2.png) [@zoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zoid)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2012, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-ever-fake-an-orgasm/616788/69 "2012-03-30T19:36:22Z")
Yep. Sometimes it just wasn’t happening and I didn’t want to hurt the girls feelings. Other times I felt pressured into it in the first place, didn’t really want to do it and just wanted it to be over and her to leave but oddly enough didn’t want to appear rude. I guess I’m all kinds of nuts. ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2012, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-ever-fake-an-orgasm/616788/70 "2012-04-02T03:46:43Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > Never had a reason to . . . but I have faked erections. I am intrigued by your ideas and want to subscribe to your newsletter. ---
**Author:** ![What\_the](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f4b2a3/32.png) [@What\_the](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/What_the)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2012, 11:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-ever-fake-an-orgasm/616788/71 "2012-04-02T11:53:30Z")
No… but I’ve faked not having an orgasm… until I got bored after about 15 seconds. ---
**Author:** ![Max\_Torque](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Max\_Torque](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Max_Torque)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2012, 1:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-ever-fake-an-orgasm/616788/72 "2012-04-02T13:57:44Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > Never had a reason to . . . but I have faked erections. Never worked for me. Like stuffing a marshmallow into a piggy bank. ---
**Author:** ![StusBlues](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2012, 2:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-ever-fake-an-orgasm/616788/73 "2012-04-02T14:20:08Z")
Guilty. My first time, too. It’s still very difficult for me to complete proceedings with a condom on. ---
**Author:** ![Woeg](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/df705f/32.png) [@Woeg](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Woeg)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2012, 6:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-ever-fake-an-orgasm/616788/74 "2012-04-02T18:06:38Z")
I will note that there have been times where I just couldn’t reach climax, and I was totally honest about it. With the exception of my (now) wife, girls seem to take it as an insult/slight against their attractiveness/abilities in bed. It lead to hurt feelings, and no repeat performances. Thankfully, the girl who would become my wife was understanding. At the time, I was on antidepressants that completely blocked my ability to orgasm. It had nothing to do with her - I could have been having sex with big breasted bisexual sorority girl triplets trained in every aspect of the Kama Sutra whose sole goal in life was to bring me to the big O and not have gotten off. Having been on such anti-depressants, she completely sympathized. ---
**Author:** ![drastic\_quench](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e36b37/32.png) [@drastic\_quench](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drastic_quench)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2012, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-ever-fake-an-orgasm/616788/75 "2012-04-02T18:08:45Z")
> [@Woeg](#): > > I will note that there have been times where I just couldn’t reach climax, and I was totally honest about it. With the exception of my (now) wife, girls seem to take it as an insult/slight against their attractiveness/abilities in bed. It lead to hurt feelings, and no repeat performances. > > Thankfully, the girl who would become my wife was understanding. At the time, I was on antidepressants that completely blocked my ability to orgasm. It had nothing to do with her - I could have been having sex with big breasted bisexual sorority girl triplets trained in every aspect of the Kama Sutra whose sole goal in life was to bring me to the big O and not have gotten off. Having been on such anti-depressants, she completely sympathized. While I’m sure you made the right choice for you, I would have married one of those sorority sisters. ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2012, 7:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-ever-fake-an-orgasm/616788/76 "2012-04-02T19:26:01Z")
Yup. ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2012, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-ever-fake-an-orgasm/616788/77 "2012-04-02T19:30:05Z")
yes…YES!..YES!!! ---
**Author:** ![BMalion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e274bd/32.png) [@BMalion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BMalion)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2012, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-ever-fake-an-orgasm/616788/78 "2012-04-02T21:35:14Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > yes…YES!..YES!!! I’ll have what she’s having. ---
**Author:** ![Woeg](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/df705f/32.png) [@Woeg](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Woeg)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2012, 2:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-ever-fake-an-orgasm/616788/79 "2012-04-03T14:18:20Z")
> [@drastic\_quench](#): > > While I’m sure you made the right choice for you, I would have married one of those sorority sisters. With the exception of the triplet thng, I did. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![MyFootsZZZ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/myfootszzz/32/12580_2.png) [@MyFootsZZZ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MyFootsZZZ)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2012, 2:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-ever-fake-an-orgasm/616788/80 "2012-04-03T14:37:08Z")
> [@Woeg](#): > > With the exception of the triplet thng, I did. 😉 Wow. _high five_ [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-ever-fake-an-orgasm/616788.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-ever-fake-an-orgasm/616788.md?page=5)