# Men - Have you ever been seduced? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 21, 2016, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-have-you-ever-been-seduced/757986 "2016-06-21T21:40:23Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![dracoi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/90db22/32.png) [@dracoi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dracoi)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2016, 4:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-have-you-ever-been-seduced/757986/41 "2016-06-22T16:31:11Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > I’d like to know exactly what your definition of being seduced is. I’ve never exactly been shy to let a man know I wanted to go to bed with him, and as I always tended to date the quiet reserved types often would instigate matters anyway. If I waited for them I might still be waiting. > > But I always waited until there was at least some indication of interest on the other side. Yeah, I was wondering about this too. When I think seduced, I’m thinking a situation where it’s not exactly against his will, but she would be counting on inciting a strong emotional response that would cause him to do things he wouldn’t otherwise. (She/he picked based on the OP’s subject). I don’t normally apply the word seduced to situations like a woman batting her eyelashes at some guy in a singles bar, or inviting him up for coffee after a ride home. If the word seduced is expanded to cover every example of telling someone you are interest in them or want to sleep with them, it’s practically meaningless ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2016, 4:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-have-you-ever-been-seduced/757986/42 "2016-06-22T16:31:17Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > Later that evening, a room was gotten. Do you really think this is the right time for the passive voice? ---
**Author:** ![Lemur866](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lemur866/32/434_2.png) [@Lemur866](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lemur866)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2016, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-have-you-ever-been-seduced/757986/43 "2016-06-22T16:55:35Z")
Right. “Seduced” implies a level of, “I knew I shouldn’t have sex with her because of various reasons, but then she did X, Y or Z after which I had sex with her even though I believed I shouldn’t have.” If it’s just “She asked me to have sex and I said yes,” that’s not being seduced. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2016, 4:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-have-you-ever-been-seduced/757986/44 "2016-06-22T16:59:39Z")
Nope. Can’t be done. ---
**Author:** ![outlierrn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/outlierrn/32/3005_2.png) [@outlierrn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/outlierrn)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2016, 5:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-have-you-ever-been-seduced/757986/45 "2016-06-22T17:41:08Z")
> [@Lemur866](#): > > Right. “Seduced” implies a level of, “I knew I shouldn’t have sex with her because of various reasons, but then she did X, Y or Z after which I had sex with her even though I believed I shouldn’t have.” Yep, that’s my story. ---
**Author:** ![kenobi\_65](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kenobi_65/32/13178_2.png) [@kenobi\_65](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kenobi_65)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2016, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-have-you-ever-been-seduced/757986/46 "2016-06-22T18:47:13Z")
Definitely, at least once in my life, by the woman who became my first girlfriend. I was 18, had barely dated, and certainly never had an ongoing relationship. I was in a Dungeons & Dragons group, most of whom were in their 20s and early 30s. Two members of the D&D group were getting married, and another member of the group (a very attractive 32 year old divorced woman) invited me to help her make a cake for the wedding (it was a _very_ informal wedding and reception). So, I went over there, not expecting _anything_ other than cake-baking. I got pounced on, and snogged…which led, a few weeks later, to her deflowering me in the back seat of her car. I was by no means an unwilling seducee, but she was absolutely, positively, the one running the show. We wound up dating, on and off, for about a year and a half (much to my parents’ chagrin), but the relationship eventually broke down, as we were just in different places, due to the age difference. ---
**Author:** ![Jophiel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jophiel/32/66_2.png) [@Jophiel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jophiel)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2016, 7:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-have-you-ever-been-seduced/757986/47 "2016-06-22T19:26:55Z")
Twice I’ve had a woman (once a boss, once a woman who watched my kid when I was single) in a difficult marriage say to me about how they should have an affair with someone to teach their husband a lesson. Both times, it was years later when I realized what they were suggesting and that people don’t casually remark to the other sex that they’re open to having an affair just to make conversation. Both times it was probably for the best anyway. But, still, I’m pretty oblivious. ---
**Author:** ![Doyle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doyle/32/439_2.png) [@Doyle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doyle)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2016, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-have-you-ever-been-seduced/757986/48 "2016-06-22T19:33:34Z")
When she puts her hand on my thigh and then sticks her tongue in my ear, I’m guessing that she is seducing me. As easy as it comes. ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2016, 8:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-have-you-ever-been-seduced/757986/49 "2016-06-22T20:50:01Z")
Sure, since my idea of seduction was to punch girls in the arm and then guffaw like a moron. ---
**Author:** ![actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e79b87/32.png) [@actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/actualliberalnotoneofthose)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2016, 1:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-have-you-ever-been-seduced/757986/50 "2016-06-23T01:48:12Z")
Yes. Otherwise I would be a childless virgin. I haven’t been a virgin in about 20 years and I had my first child carried to term almost a decade ago. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-have-you-ever-been-seduced/757986.md?page=2)