# Men, have you ever gotten a bad blowjob? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 18, 2010, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-have-you-ever-gotten-a-bad-blowjob/529541 "2010-02-18T21:58:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Ephemera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8baadc/32.png) [@Ephemera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ephemera)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2010, 10:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-have-you-ever-gotten-a-bad-blowjob/529541/61 "2010-02-21T22:28:41Z")
I am mostly straight, and mostly indifferent to blowjobs. I’ve only had one that really did it for me, and it was more about the person doing it than the act itself. ---
**Author:** ![TV\_time](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f17d59/32.png) [@TV\_time](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TV_time)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2010, 11:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-have-you-ever-gotten-a-bad-blowjob/529541/62 "2010-02-21T23:16:22Z")
I love them and I have had many and I cannot remember a bad one. Possibly the girls/women giving them detected how much I was enjoying them and joined in the enthusiasm. ---
**Author:** ![SandyHook](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dec6dc/32.png) [@SandyHook](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SandyHook)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2010, 3:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-have-you-ever-gotten-a-bad-blowjob/529541/63 "2010-02-22T03:15:57Z")
I’ve gotten a couple in the long-ago past that were less than inspired. There’s more to BJ’s then just vigerous head bobbing. But even a poorly done blow-job is still a blow-job. ---
**Author:** ![Chicagojeff](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/b19c9b/32.png) [@Chicagojeff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chicagojeff)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2010, 4:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-have-you-ever-gotten-a-bad-blowjob/529541/64 "2010-02-22T04:36:22Z")
> [@GameHat](#): > > My longtime ex-girlfriend was fucking terrible at BJs > > In her defense, she didn’t like to give them. > > But Jesus. > > Men, let me tell you what a bad blowjob is. And I speak from experience. > > It’s bad when the woman isn’t into it. She’s doing it grudgingly. So it’s a half-hearted affair. She puts it in her mouth, but won’t do much else. It’s fairly dry. She’s terrified of the climax. She awkwardly goes up and down but avoids much friction. She won’t use her hands at all. You run your hands through her hair once, and she freaks - “I _KNOW_ how to do it! You don’t have to _RAM_ my head down!” > > Most of the time, you have to “help”. As in, jerk off until the moment, when she reluctantly gives “light kisses” to the unit in question while you guiltily orgasm. > > Then she tells you how gross the whole process is. > > Fuck her, she was the worst lover ever. But she is a great example of how a BJ can be a terrible and sad experience. OHH fuck .. Dude I’m really sorry but i busted a freakin gut reading your post.. ---
**Author:** ![Aghris](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecccb3/32.png) [@Aghris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aghris)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2010, 10:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-have-you-ever-gotten-a-bad-blowjob/529541/65 "2010-02-22T10:59:22Z")
While mostly gay, I have had BJs from women. They really put effort in them, but they weren’t to the standard of those that a man gives to another man. Still, I don’t think they were bad. The worst BJ I’ve had was actually from another gay man. He was enthousiastic about it, but for some reason he didn’t know where the good spots were, and I couldn’t get him to understand. I wish I could give myself head though. I’ve been told my BJs are the best anyone has ever had. ---
**Author:** ![Wheelz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wheelz/32/5718_2.png) [@Wheelz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wheelz)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2010, 2:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-have-you-ever-gotten-a-bad-blowjob/529541/66 "2010-02-22T14:57:50Z")
I voted “No such thing as a bad BJ,” as I’ve never had a bad one. (Though I do believe it’s _possible_ to get a bad one – biting, for example – I suppose I’ve been relatively lucky.) It’s true that I’ve had some that were, shall we say, less enthusiastic than others. But “_bad_”? Never. First off, I’m with somebody I’m attracted to (and let’s face it, it wouldn’t be happening if I wasn’t), and she _willingly takes my dick into her mouth_. That, in and of itself, is a gigantic turn-on. So every BJ starts out as “good.” It can stay “good,” or it can sometimes go from there to “great,” “outstanding,” or “mind-blowing,” but it would take a whole lot to devolve into “bad.” I have to say I’m surprised at the number of guys who say a BJ can’t get them off. I _love_ BJ’s. I love 'em so much that I sometimes have a hard time _not_ getting off too quickly. And, I’m very fortunate that the only woman I’ve been with for the past 16 years still loves to give them. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2010, 3:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-have-you-ever-gotten-a-bad-blowjob/529541/67 "2010-02-22T15:30:38Z")
I hate hate hate getting them from girls with tongue rings. They always pinch. ---
**Author:** ![brujaja](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4af34b/32.png) [@brujaja](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brujaja)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2010, 8:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-have-you-ever-gotten-a-bad-blowjob/529541/68 "2010-02-22T20:48:39Z")
My best guess is that the declining prevalence of tonsillectomies in recent years has resulted in a sorry state of affairs. As it were. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![squeegee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/squeegee/32/14537_2.png) [@squeegee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/squeegee)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2010, 10:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-have-you-ever-gotten-a-bad-blowjob/529541/69 "2010-02-22T22:02:54Z")
I had a girlfriend a long ways back who just didn’t get the concept of a blowjob. She enjoyed doing it for me, at least in concept, but she’d basically put it in her mouth and do pretty much nothing. Perhaps she was running her tongue around in there or something, but I couldn’t feel it. I gently tried making suggestions, all for nothing. Thank goodness she was great in the sack in other ways, but oral was just beyond her. ---
**Author:** ![GameHat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ed655f/32.png) [@GameHat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GameHat)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2010, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-have-you-ever-gotten-a-bad-blowjob/529541/70 "2010-02-23T02:13:20Z")
> [@Chicagojeff](#): > > OHH fuck .. Dude I’m really sorry but i busted a freakin gut reading your post.. In hindsight, I laugh too. She was terrible on so many levels, not just sexual ones. I like to think my traumatic relationship experience is good - as a teaching tool. The more you know! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-have-you-ever-gotten-a-bad-blowjob/529541.md?page=3)