# Men in their 40's or above, how do you stay attracted to women your own age? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 19, 2017, 3:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-in-their-40s-or-above-how-do-you-stay-attracted-to-women-your-own-age/791623 "2017-07-19T03:47:25Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 30
**Author:** ![Shagnasty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9dc877/32.png) [@Shagnasty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shagnasty)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2017, 1:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-in-their-40s-or-above-how-do-you-stay-attracted-to-women-your-own-age/791623/582 "2017-08-30T13:48:54Z")
> [@Robot\_Arm](#): > > As with many things in life, I am simultaneously skeptical and curious. Don’t be that skeptical. It really is a skill that isn’t that hard to get much better at. I was late to that game due to circumstances but I have begun to good fairly good at least for getting dates. It isn’t “one weird trick”. It is a whole strategy with several different parts but it still isn’t that hard. I am a great opener but I still struggle with closing. That is, I can get dates on demand and make sure we have a good time doing something we both like but I am not very good at making bold moves in person. I am so self-conscious about offending someone that it is hard for me to tell when to go for a first kiss or even holding hands. It works naturally sometimes but I know I have missed really good opportunities before because I didn’t read signals correctly. ---
**Author:** ![Lemur866](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lemur866/32/434_2.png) [@Lemur866](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lemur866)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2017, 4:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-in-their-40s-or-above-how-do-you-stay-attracted-to-women-your-own-age/791623/583 "2017-08-30T16:31:40Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > I don’t live in Boston proper. I live in Franklin well to the southwest close to Rhode Island. I know you complain that you have bad luck with the ladies. I once did too but it is a very easy problem to solve. There is a formula involved and I would be happy to teach you how to do it for free. A true lady’s man taught me how to do it and the biggest problem I have is that it is too successful. Like I said before, please never change Shagnasty. ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2017, 4:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-in-their-40s-or-above-how-do-you-stay-attracted-to-women-your-own-age/791623/584 "2017-08-30T16:49:04Z")
Sometimes it is hard to tell parody or self-parody from reality. ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2017, 5:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-in-their-40s-or-above-how-do-you-stay-attracted-to-women-your-own-age/791623/585 "2017-08-30T17:13:32Z")
> [@Grrr](#): > > Right? All you need to know is this “one weird trick” and you too will have these gorgeous, worldly women lining up to date you. “One weird trick” = “Baggie of Coke” ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2017, 10:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-in-their-40s-or-above-how-do-you-stay-attracted-to-women-your-own-age/791623/586 "2017-08-30T22:56:17Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > I don’t live in Boston proper. I live in Franklin well to the southwest close to Rhode Island. I know you complain that you have bad luck with the ladies. I once did too but it is a very easy problem to solve. There is a formula involved and I would be happy to teach you how to do it for free. A true lady’s man taught me how to do it and the biggest problem I have is that it is too successful. I am not a pickup artist but I can promise you that there are an excess of women in the Boston area that just want a decent date for an event and you can have one any day of the week if you know what you are doing. Um, ew. ---
**Author:** ![Gyrate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gyrate/32/3588_2.png) [@Gyrate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gyrate)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2017, 11:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-in-their-40s-or-above-how-do-you-stay-attracted-to-women-your-own-age/791623/587 "2017-08-31T11:57:35Z")
I once clicked on one of those “one weird trick for a huge penis” links because I thought “Hey - _I’ve_ got a huge penis and it’d be neat to teach it a trick”. ---
**Author:** ![Wesley\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wesley_clark/32/20581_2.png) [@Wesley\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wesley_Clark)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2017, 9:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-in-their-40s-or-above-how-do-you-stay-attracted-to-women-your-own-age/791623/588 "2017-08-31T21:38:58Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > Maybe they do realize it? People generally don’t want to be around other people who harbor grudges for months and years waiting for the opportunity to “hurt them” over a perceived slight as insignificant as “not calling you back”. Hes got a point **Shag**. I like you and all, but if I were dating a woman who implied she did stuff like this (tried to get revenge over something minor) I’d probably ghost on her too. ---
**Author:** ![astorian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ad7895/32.png) [@astorian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astorian)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2017, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-in-their-40s-or-above-how-do-you-stay-attracted-to-women-your-own-age/791623/589 "2017-09-04T20:59:39Z")
I’m 56 and a high school history teacher. I work with pretty teenage girl s every day, the kind I would have drooled over at 16. Are they still attractive to me now? Sure, until they talk. Then, I’m immediately reminded we’d have nothing to say to each other! Their Moms, on the other hand… last week’s Parent Night was fun. ---
**Author:** ![Lemur866](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lemur866/32/434_2.png) [@Lemur866](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lemur866)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2017, 3:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-in-their-40s-or-above-how-do-you-stay-attracted-to-women-your-own-age/791623/590 "2017-09-05T03:47:31Z")
That reminds me, school is starting tomorrow around these parts. Maybe I’ll head down to the high school and check out all the hot young moms dropping their teenagers off at school. ---
**Author:** ![Shagnasty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9dc877/32.png) [@Shagnasty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shagnasty)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2018, 6:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-in-their-40s-or-above-how-do-you-stay-attracted-to-women-your-own-age/791623/592 "2018-01-27T18:49:19Z")
I need to correct myself in this thread and apologize because it turns out that I was more wrong than Rosie Rosie O’Donnell in a tutu. The gods are smiting me because as soon as I started this thread, I started getting sent really hot women over 40. My ex-wife and I had to share a hotel suite at the Arizona Grand last weekend because our daughter was competing in a national gymnastics tournament. Now, I already knew that my ex-wife is objectively hot. It is just a shame that personality transplants haven’t been invented yet. We got into a fight yet again because we can’t be alone with each other without adult supervision and I ended up sleeping on the couch just like we were married again. I got pissed off in the middle of the night and left the room to go to the perpetual firepits outside of the main lobby. I saw a really hot blonde sitting next to the fire and joined her. She was as sweet as apple pie and only told me her name was Amanda from Ohio. It took me an embarrassingly long time to realize that she was Gold Medal Olympian [Amanda Borden](https://www.google.com/search?q=amanda+bordem+images&oq=amanda+&aqs=chrome.0.69i59j69i57j69i59j69i60l3.2183j0j4&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8). Awesome person, over 40 and gorgeous. Don’t worry, I didn’t hit on her although she is my friend now. I just told her stupid stories like I do here. She is married and her husband joined us later but she did provide a good reference point. When I got back home, I still had my Russian poker player/millionaire although that was starting to get a little shaky. We weren’t really getting anywhere except for a lot of expensive dinner and casino dates. I finally decided to call it last night and just tell her that I wanted a relationship. The first bomb she dropped on me was that she is really 49 instead of 43 like she claimed before. Not having the sense god gave a goose, I was unphased because she looks like she is in her late 30’s at the most and gorgeous. I went back to her mansion to give her a back rub and was not prepared for her skills when she got turned on. I am honestly wondering if she is a former porn star, if not, she missed her true calling. I am lucky I can still type this retraction. She rode me like a rodeo bull and won. It wasn’t even close. Most women over 40 are disgusting but certainly not all of them if you know where to look. I was in Arizona with a group of gymnastics moms that fit all of my stereotypes and made it difficult to even finish dinner but I but I could always wander off to talk to the good ones like Amanda or call my Russian poker player when they became too oppressive. It turns out the solution was just to know who to pick and I am getting much better at that. ---
**Author:** ![Procrustus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/procrustus/32/2994_2.png) [@Procrustus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Procrustus)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2018, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-in-their-40s-or-above-how-do-you-stay-attracted-to-women-your-own-age/791623/593 "2018-01-27T19:27:59Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > Most women over 40 are disgusting… and quite a few under 40 too, right? My god, man, why did you feel the need to share this? ---
**Author:** ![Shagnasty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9dc877/32.png) [@Shagnasty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shagnasty)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2018, 7:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-in-their-40s-or-above-how-do-you-stay-attracted-to-women-your-own-age/791623/594 "2018-01-27T19:38:27Z")
> [@Procrustus](#): > > and quite a few under 40 too, right? > > My god, man, why did you feel the need to share this? Read the forum title. Yes, you are correct. I want to start a charity that recycles treadmills and beauty supplies for those in need because a whole lot of them need all the help they can get. Such a waste. I am heading down to confession soon and I am not even Catholic. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2018, 2:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-in-their-40s-or-above-how-do-you-stay-attracted-to-women-your-own-age/791623/595 "2018-01-28T02:18:17Z")
> [@Procrustus](#): > > and quite a few under 40 too, right? > > My god, man, why did you feel the need to share this? Why does he feel the need to share any of the shit he does? ---
**Author:** ![TubaDiva](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tubadiva/32/507_2.png) [@TubaDiva](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TubaDiva)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2018, 4:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-in-their-40s-or-above-how-do-you-stay-attracted-to-women-your-own-age/791623/596 "2018-01-28T04:22:42Z")
Hey shag, you left something out! “_Dear Penthouse Forum:_ …” ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2018, 5:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-in-their-40s-or-above-how-do-you-stay-attracted-to-women-your-own-age/791623/597 "2018-01-28T05:29:49Z")
Yuk! Not again! ---
**Author:** ![stolatt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b5e925/32.png) [@stolatt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stolatt)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2018, 7:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-in-their-40s-or-above-how-do-you-stay-attracted-to-women-your-own-age/791623/598 "2018-01-28T07:08:31Z")
No. No. No. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2018, 7:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-in-their-40s-or-above-how-do-you-stay-attracted-to-women-your-own-age/791623/599 "2018-01-28T07:23:39Z")
So basically you watched Russian MILF porn and fapped. With or without subtitles? ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2018, 7:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-in-their-40s-or-above-how-do-you-stay-attracted-to-women-your-own-age/791623/600 "2018-01-28T07:31:31Z")
It’s very unfortunate that you have named a real people in your on-line masturbation thread. ---
**Author:** ![Lamoral](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lamoral/32/16078_2.png) [@Lamoral](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lamoral)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2018, 8:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-in-their-40s-or-above-how-do-you-stay-attracted-to-women-your-own-age/791623/601 "2018-01-28T08:31:30Z")
I fuckin’ hate having to see this guy’s name and “gymnastics” in the same post. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2018, 8:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-in-their-40s-or-above-how-do-you-stay-attracted-to-women-your-own-age/791623/602 "2018-01-28T08:44:05Z")
Can someone find out about the Olympian woman he was drooling over. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-in-their-40s-or-above-how-do-you-stay-attracted-to-women-your-own-age/791623.md?page=29) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-in-their-40s-or-above-how-do-you-stay-attracted-to-women-your-own-age/791623.md?page=31)