# Men who stare... and act ashamed about it. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [March 15, 2013, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020 "2013-03-15T16:55:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Donna\_Lange](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Donna\_Lange](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Donna_Lange)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/1 "2013-03-15T16:55:15Z")
I preface this with the fact that there are many other women who would keel haul me for even saying what I am about to say and I expect to possible be attacked for it. But here goes… Guys, if I wear a low cut top and you can’t help but look at my cleavage, you don’t have to feel ashamed about it or even hide that you are looking. I find it more annoying when a man looks at them quite obviously and then looks away quickly as if its shameful to look at or think about. Seriously, like a tattoo thats visible or a strange haircut or even a T shirt with words over a girls breasts; I wear the top because I want to and I’m perfectly happy for the attention and I know the kind of attention it will get. If I didn’t want to show off my cleavage I wouldn’t have, ok? So please~ if you are going to look, just look or even say something. I complement guys who are cute or cut and even other girls with great styles and bodies that make me look like trash. So, seriously, look and don’t hide it. ---
**Author:** ![Troppus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a587f6/32.png) [@Troppus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troppus)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 5:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/2 "2013-03-15T17:03:36Z")
You may want to subscribe for a membership if you want to properly promote your porn. Your links may be better suited to the Marketplace, ya freak. ---
**Author:** ![MOIDALIZE](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e274bd/32.png) [@MOIDALIZE](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MOIDALIZE)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 5:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/3 "2013-03-15T17:06:10Z")
You keep your cleavage away from me, [Donna Lange.](http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2263190/Donna-Lange-51-smothers-boyfriend-death-breasts-drunken-row-caravan.html) ---
**Author:** ![hotflungwok](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/edb3f5/32.png) [@hotflungwok](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hotflungwok)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/4 "2013-03-15T17:07:45Z")
From personal experience, women who welcome that kind of constant attention are in the minority. Guy look away quickly cuz there can be consequences for getting caught staring. ---
**Author:** ![Donna\_Lange](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Donna\_Lange](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Donna_Lange)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/5 "2013-03-15T17:12:01Z")
> [@MOIDALIZE](#): > > You keep your cleavage away from me, [Donna Lange.](http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2263190/Donna-Lange-51-smothers-boyfriend-death-breasts-drunken-row-caravan.html) I get that a lot, actually. How I wish she didn’t crush that guy with her boobs! I know, I’m in the minority, but the whole reason I bring it up here is to ask WHY someone who shows off like I do would be angry at people for looking? Hell, if someone looks at a tattoo, is that bad manners? This isn’t like a person with a deformity or serious injury; this was a choice on my part and the part of the girls that dress that way. ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/6 "2013-03-15T17:15:39Z")
Annie Fanny: “Men keep staring at my breasts!” “Because, yours, my dear, are staring back.” ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 5:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/7 "2013-03-15T17:16:39Z")
> [@Donna\_Lange](#): > > you don’t have to feel ashamed about it or even hide that you are looking. In the event a drop of drool falls, would you rather the guy hand you a tissue or just wipe it up himself? ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 5:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/8 "2013-03-15T17:19:29Z")
It’s refreshing to see a large-breasted attractive woman offering helpful advice to guys on the Internet on how to behave around them. So often, these sorts of threads are started by loser guys just pretending to be large-breasted attractive women, but not this time! No, sir. ---
**Author:** ![Donna\_Lange](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Donna\_Lange](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Donna_Lange)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 5:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/9 "2013-03-15T17:21:33Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > In the event a drop of drool falls, would you rather the guy hand you a tissue or just wipe it up himself? If its my own drool, I think I’d just let it fall.. God, the hunky men at the beach… Now if its on my own chest, I’d wipe it off myself. On the floor and its his problem hehe. ---
**Author:** ![MOIDALIZE](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e274bd/32.png) [@MOIDALIZE](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MOIDALIZE)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 5:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/10 "2013-03-15T17:23:21Z")
Hey, leave “her” alone. I want to hear all about the nude pillow fights she routinely has during slumber parties. ---
**Author:** ![Euphonious\_Polemic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/euphonious_polemic/32/3002_2.png) [@Euphonious\_Polemic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Euphonious_Polemic)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 5:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/11 "2013-03-15T17:23:57Z")
> [@hotflungwok](#): > > From personal experience, women who welcome that kind of constant attention are in the minority. Guy look away quickly cuz there can be consequences for getting caught staring. Yes. Especially around younger women. They want CERTAIN guys to stare, but they certainly don’t want ME to even glance, because that’s just gross. ---
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/12 "2013-03-15T17:30:28Z")
If you’re going to frame the picture, you don’t get to complain when people look at it. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 5:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/13 "2013-03-15T17:52:19Z")
Is it at all possible that they’re thinking “hey bro, what’s with the jugs?” ---
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 5:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/14 "2013-03-15T17:52:23Z")
> [@Giraffe](#): > > It’s refreshing to see a large-breasted attractive woman offering helpful advice to guys on the Internet on how to behave around them. So often, these sorts of threads are started by loser guys just pretending to be large-breasted attractive women, but not this time! No, sir. I was trying to think of some way to say this, and I’m not surprised **Giraffe** beat me to it. ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 5:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/15 "2013-03-15T17:52:34Z")
> [@](#): > > Guys, if I wear a low cut top and you can’t help but look at my cleavage, you don’t have to feel ashamed about it or even hide that you are looking. I find it more annoying when a man looks at them quite obviously and then looks away quickly as if its shameful to look at or think about. I would look away, but not because I’m ashamed. I’d look at your face, too, and when you made eye contact, look away. So would a lot of people. We’re just shy, not ashamed. Oh, yeah, **Vinyl** , \*\*Giraffe \*\*and \*\*Marley \*\*are right. I feel dumb. ---
**Author:** ![Donna\_Lange](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Donna\_Lange](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Donna_Lange)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/16 "2013-03-15T17:55:16Z")
> [@Giraffe](#): > > It’s refreshing to see a large-breasted attractive woman offering helpful advice to guys on the Internet on how to behave around them. So often, these sorts of threads are started by loser guys just pretending to be large-breasted attractive women, but not this time! No, sir. [For the straight dope 1](http://farm9.staticflickr.com/8390/8560437740_e9e3f55697_z.jpg) [For the straight dope 2](http://farm9.staticflickr.com/8389/8559329391_88fd9f825d_z.jpg) And yes, I agree with Chimera, if someone shows her stuff of deliberately then they really shouldn’t bitch when other people look. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/17 "2013-03-15T17:59:40Z")
> [@Donna\_Lange](#): > > [For the straight dope 1](http://farm9.staticflickr.com/8390/8560437740_e9e3f55697_z.jpg) > > [For the straight dope 2](http://farm9.staticflickr.com/8389/8559329391_88fd9f825d_z.jpg) I’d look away from those. ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 6:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/18 "2013-03-15T18:01:37Z")
> [@Donna\_Lange](#): > > [For the straight dope 1](http://farm9.staticflickr.com/8390/8560437740_e9e3f55697_z.jpg) > > [For the straight dope 2](http://farm9.staticflickr.com/8389/8559329391_88fd9f825d_z.jpg) > > And yes, I agree with Chimera, if someone shows her stuff of deliberately then they really shouldn’t bitch when other people look. Touché, I guess. ---
**Author:** ![Donna\_Lange](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Donna\_Lange](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Donna_Lange)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 6:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/19 "2013-03-15T18:01:40Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > I’d look away from those. Hehe, never said I was pretty and as for looking away, thats your choice. But my question is why the shame face? ---
**Author:** ![MOIDALIZE](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e274bd/32.png) [@MOIDALIZE](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MOIDALIZE)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 6:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/20 "2013-03-15T18:04:49Z")
Somebody turn those pics into an animated .gif. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020.md?page=2)