# Men who stare... and act ashamed about it. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [March 15, 2013, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020 "2013-03-15T16:55:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 13
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2013, 4:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/241 "2013-03-22T16:17:26Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > Forget the boobs, why the hell are anime screenshots coming in that search? That’s way more troubling… I’d be more concerned about the mixture. What the hell does Dîck Clark, Lindsay Lohan and Chucky have to do with a **Vinyl Turnip** ’s boobs? Egads! ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2013, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/242 "2013-03-22T16:22:20Z")
> [@gallows\_fodder](#): > > Girl, you need to get a bra that actually fits. Go to Nordstrom or a quality boutique and get a proper fitting (forget Victoria’s Secret; the salespeople aren’t trained well and the bras are poorly made), and your boobs and back will thank you. Uh, pretty sure she’s not wearing a bra there-- which is why she’s hunching forward to make them hang at a better angle. My only real question is: why haven’t you changed your shirt? ---
**Author:** ![Donna\_Lange](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Donna\_Lange](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Donna_Lange)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2013, 5:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/243 "2013-03-22T17:05:44Z")
Consistency really. If I had alternate shirts on every time I would get called out as “Not the same person” Hell, I’v already been called my mom and my sister and I don’t even HAVE a sister! ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2013, 5:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/244 "2013-03-22T17:54:56Z")
I mean, I guess. Most people do change clothes over several days, so that wouldn’t exactly be a surprise. ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2013, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/245 "2013-03-22T18:10:21Z")
> [@Donna\_Lange](#): > > Consistency really. If I had alternate shirts on every time I would get called out as “Not the same person” > > Hell, I’v already been called my mom and my sister and I don’t even HAVE a sister! And of course, it goes without saying that you _have_ to post tons of pictures of your breasts. How else could you get the sweet, sweet attention that you so desperately crave? With your words? ---
**Author:** ![Kimballkid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/b5a626/32.png) [@Kimballkid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimballkid)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2013, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/246 "2013-03-22T18:24:53Z")
Well, she could write about some obscure country singer and use his/her name as her username. ---
**Author:** ![Beastly\_Rotter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/45deac/32.png) [@Beastly\_Rotter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beastly_Rotter)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2013, 6:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/247 "2013-03-22T18:29:09Z")
It’s like watching a time-lapse of continental drift, only without the breathless eroticism. ---
**Author:** ![Troppus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a587f6/32.png) [@Troppus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troppus)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2013, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/248 "2013-03-22T18:35:22Z")
> [@Beastly\_Rotter](#): > > It’s like watching a time-lapse of continental drift, only without the breathless eroticism. You find it erotic? Best I can figure it’s mammalian. Like watching a limping cow hurrying towards the milk shed. ---
**Author:** ![Beastly\_Rotter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/45deac/32.png) [@Beastly\_Rotter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beastly_Rotter)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2013, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/249 "2013-03-22T19:20:58Z")
> [@Troppus](#): > > You find it erotic? Best I can figure it’s mammalian. Like watching a limping cow hurrying towards the milk shed. Read carefully. ---
**Author:** ![Troppus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a587f6/32.png) [@Troppus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troppus)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2013, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/250 "2013-03-22T19:22:22Z")
> [@Beastly\_Rotter](#): > > Read carefully. Ah. Carry on ---
**Author:** ![Nzinga\_Seated](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b5ac83/32.png) [@Nzinga\_Seated](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nzinga_Seated)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2013, 7:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/251 "2013-03-22T19:31:16Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > I mean, I guess. Most people do change clothes over several days, so that wouldn’t exactly be a surprise. I love you so much. While others are judging her body and her age and whatever, a fashionista like you just wants to know what’s up with her wardrobe game. Donna, thanks for my gif! Love it. ---
**Author:** ![Donna\_Lange](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Donna\_Lange](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Donna_Lange)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2013, 7:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/252 "2013-03-22T19:37:34Z")
> [@Nzinga\_Seated](#): > > I love you so much. While others are judging her body and her age and whatever, a fashionista like you just wants to know what’s up with her wardrobe game. > > Donna, thanks for my gif! Love it. I’m glad you like it ^\_- Guess most the guys around here don’t like big boobs, and thats ok. Then again, half the guys here bitching are sending me messages wanting private viewings! Shit in one hand or some such, lol! ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2013, 7:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/253 "2013-03-22T19:38:35Z")
Years ago, I once heard a comedian do a routine about “why do women hate sluts?” The reraders digest answer was basically: “The same reason Mom & Pop shop owners hate Walmart. They’re pratically giving that shit away for free!” I’ll be damned if this thread ain’t proof positive of that. LOL, this thread wins on so many levels. ---
**Author:** ![Inner\_Stickler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inner_stickler/32/318_2.png) [@Inner\_Stickler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inner_Stickler)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2013, 7:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/254 "2013-03-22T19:40:46Z")
I mean, they’re fine, I guess. The few times I’ve made a gif the process has irritated me so much I gave up on half of them so if anything, I appreciate your persistence. ---
**Author:** ![Troppus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a587f6/32.png) [@Troppus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troppus)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2013, 7:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/255 "2013-03-22T19:49:43Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > Years ago, I once heard a comedian do a routine about “why do women hate sluts?” > > The reraders digest answer was basically: “The same reason Mom & Pop shop owners hate Walmart. They’re pratically giving that shit away for free!” > > I’ll be damned if this thread ain’t proof positive of that. > > LOL, this thread wins on so many levels. Slut? She’s completely anonymous! You don’t get to call an online persona a slut. I find her decapitated jiggly crevice more amusing than exciting, and I suspect she’s enjoying the exhibition process even more than her fan club, but this headless, unknown person who seems to have a good sense of humor is not a slut. You idiot. ---
**Author:** ![Nzinga\_Seated](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b5ac83/32.png) [@Nzinga\_Seated](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nzinga_Seated)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2013, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/256 "2013-03-22T19:53:34Z")
Troppus, who DOES one get to call a slut? Just checking, because if you can’t call an online peronality a slut, you are kinda sounding like there are certain non-online personalities that you are willing to call a slut. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2013, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/257 "2013-03-22T19:55:27Z")
I don’t hate her and I don’t think she’s a slut. I don’t think she’s sad or anything. She has a good sense of humor and she doesn’t mind men staring at her tits. More power to her! Why the Hell should I care? Now I am not really a big fan of showing them off, so most of my blouses don’t have much cleavage or only a tiny bit. So I don’t like it when men stare. It’s disgusting and creepy and makes me want to hike my top up. She’s enjoying showing them off so good for her. ---
**Author:** ![AnthonyElite](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b487fb/32.png) [@AnthonyElite](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AnthonyElite)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2013, 7:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/258 "2013-03-22T19:56:24Z")
**Donna** , please address this, and comment :dubious: I don’t think you are doing this just to be an exhibitionist; the web is full of jugs, you could show (really, not show) yours anywhere. Why here? Do you feel it is relevant to the skeptical mind to display them in conjunction with your OP? Or is it merely to prove you are you? Or has it morphed into something more? It makes me laugh that Anon User can bitch in this thread multiple times. If you are above it, why are you in it? I agree with what you are saying wholeheartedly, and would like to focus on a counter-pit to prove your point (I think I’ve seen it here before too): **If you are showing flesh you don’t want to be seen, you are an IDIOT! If it was a mistake that is just that; YOUR MISTAKE. But don’t blame my biological imperative for your inability to cover yourself.** In all likelihood you are purposely showing flesh, then hiding it and acting upset in an attempt to drum up drama and interest in the goods you are lacking. **Donna** , I would stare, and look away when you caught me because I am not single. I can’t help but stare. But I know if I stare and look interested you might consider that an invitation and I can’t have that. Make sense? ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2013, 7:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/259 "2013-03-22T19:56:28Z")
> [@Nzinga\_Seated](#): > > Troppus, who DOES one get to call a slut? Yourself. Or your (own) mom. ---
**Author:** ![Kimballkid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/b5a626/32.png) [@Kimballkid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimballkid)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2013, 7:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/260 "2013-03-22T19:57:37Z")
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