# Men who stare... and act ashamed about it. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [March 15, 2013, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020 "2013-03-15T16:55:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Euphonious\_Polemic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/euphonious_polemic/32/3002_2.png) [@Euphonious\_Polemic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Euphonious_Polemic)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 6:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/21 "2013-03-15T18:06:22Z")
> [@Donna\_Lange](#): > > [For the straight dope 1](http://farm9.staticflickr.com/8390/8560437740_e9e3f55697_z.jpg) > > [For the straight dope 2](http://farm9.staticflickr.com/8389/8559329391_88fd9f825d_z.jpg) > > And yes, I agree with Chimera, if someone shows her stuff of deliberately then they really shouldn’t bitch when other people look. \ Thanks for the mammaries.. \ ---
**Author:** ![Doctor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Doctor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doctor)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/22 "2013-03-15T18:07:14Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > I’d look away from those. My eyes!!! :eek: Oh, God!! Where is the brain bleach! ---
**Author:** ![voltaire](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voltaire/32/313_2.png) [@voltaire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/voltaire)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/23 "2013-03-15T18:07:52Z")
> [@Donna\_Lange](#): > > [For the straight dope 1](http://farm9.staticflickr.com/8390/8560437740_e9e3f55697_z.jpg) > > [For the straight dope 2](http://farm9.staticflickr.com/8389/8559329391_88fd9f825d_z.jpg) > > And yes, I agree with Chimera, if someone shows her stuff of deliberately then they really shouldn’t bitch when other people look. I hope that’s not permanent marker! And, out of curiosity, did you write that yourself, or did you have some help? P.S. The “cleaved O” was a nice touch! ---
**Author:** ![Donna\_Lange](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Donna\_Lange](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Donna_Lange)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/24 "2013-03-15T18:08:31Z")
> [@Doctor](#): > > My eyes!!! :eek: Oh, God!! Where is the brain bleach! _hands it too you, still showing cleavage_ Here you go! _traumatizes you some more with my horrid boobs_ ^\_- Edit, I wrote that myself real quick and took some shots with my cellphone. Its a mascara marker and it wipes off very easily with water. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 6:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/25 "2013-03-15T18:09:42Z")
> [@Donna\_Lange](#): > > [For the straight dope 1](http://farm9.staticflickr.com/8390/8560437740_e9e3f55697_z.jpg) > > [For the straight dope 2](http://farm9.staticflickr.com/8389/8559329391_88fd9f825d_z.jpg) Definitely 'shopped. You can tell by the pixels. ---
**Author:** ![Donna\_Lange](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Donna\_Lange](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Donna_Lange)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 6:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/26 "2013-03-15T18:13:44Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > Definitely 'shopped. You can tell by the pixels. The words? LMAO! You really ARE a skeptical bunch! Fine, I’ll take my camera later and make a video of it, all jiggle and everything. If THAT doesn’t convince you then you have some serious issues. Hell, I’ll write your name on them too. 🙂 [For the straight dope 2.1](http://farm9.staticflickr.com/8381/8560438386_83fa19d568_z.jpg) This pic had the O better adjusted, but it was a bit closer than I wanted in the shot. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/27 "2013-03-15T18:17:07Z")
> [@Donna\_Lange](#): > > The words? LMAO! You really ARE a skeptical bunch! Fine, I’ll take my camera later and make a video of it, all jiggle and everything. If THAT doesn’t convince you then you have some serious issues. Hell, I’ll write your name on them too. 🙂 > > [For the straight dope 2.1](http://farm9.staticflickr.com/8381/8560438386_83fa19d568_z.jpg) > > This pic had the O better adjusted, but it was a bit closer than I wanted in the shot. Please stop. ---
**Author:** ![Peremensoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ce7236/32.png) [@Peremensoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Peremensoe)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 6:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/28 "2013-03-15T18:18:08Z")
“You can tell by the pixels” is a joke on photo-debunkers, not an actual debunk. Still, I’m sure a video with “Vinyl Turnip”-inscribed bounce would go over well. > [@Giraffe](#): > > It’s refreshing to see a large-breasted attractive woman offering helpful advice to guys on the Internet on how to behave around them. She hasn’t claimed to be attractive. ---
**Author:** ![voltaire](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voltaire/32/313_2.png) [@voltaire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/voltaire)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 6:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/29 "2013-03-15T18:19:11Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Please stop. Quit acting ashamed! ---
**Author:** ![Donna\_Lange](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Donna\_Lange](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Donna_Lange)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 6:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/30 "2013-03-15T18:19:14Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Please stop. I will, since you asked nicely! But… why are you looking at it considering what the other two were ^\_- lol ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/31 "2013-03-15T18:31:38Z")
Okay, fine. I’ll concede that you’re either an actual female, or a guy with an extremely cooperative— and probably confused— mom. ---
**Author:** ![Donna\_Lange](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Donna\_Lange](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Donna_Lange)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 6:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/32 "2013-03-15T18:36:37Z")
Funny you assume I’m that young! My mother (no lie) is over 59 and has some serious granny tits going on. To be fair to her, I will unfortunately be heading that way myself at her age. But hey, you can still pretend I’m a guy if it makes your argument feel more valid ^_^ And its why I put it in the BBQ pit, cause I knew I would be called a man or something worse immediately ^_- No hard feelings though! ---
**Author:** ![Euphonious\_Polemic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/euphonious_polemic/32/3002_2.png) [@Euphonious\_Polemic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Euphonious_Polemic)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/33 "2013-03-15T18:37:06Z")
**Donna Lange** , you clearly have a great sense of humor - good for you to not be insulted by a few boobs here on the SDMB. I like the cut of your jib. Er… I mean “way to go”. ---
**Author:** ![Molesworth\_2](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9dc877/32.png) [@Molesworth\_2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Molesworth_2)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/34 "2013-03-15T18:40:36Z")
Honestly, OP, I do appreciate the invitation to just avidly stare. I have even once or twice entertained the idea of asking a woman who is obviously and rightfully proud of her appearance if I could just unashamedly look her up and down for a second or two. But there is no way in hell I would ever want to come across as that creepy. When I was a mid-20’s male with a decent body I might have appreciated that kind of request myself. You may have to just resign yourself to the sad fact that your mounds of magnificence may not be appreciated as much as they could have been. ---
**Author:** ![Donna\_Lange](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Donna\_Lange](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Donna_Lange)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 6:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/35 "2013-03-15T18:41:18Z")
> [@Euphonious\_Polemic](#): > > **Donna Lange** , you clearly have a great sense of humor - good for you to not be insulted by a few boobs here on the SDMB. > > I like the cut of your jib. Er… I mean “way to go”. Why thank you! _hugs_ But we all know that if you can’t take the jabs with humor then you will just get hurt ^\_- Gotta roll with the punches so they say! And yes Turnip. I will be doing that video for you sweetie 🙂 And you can just think its my mom TOO if that helps 😃 To Voltaire: Thanks! I thought it would be a cute touch myself. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/36 "2013-03-15T18:44:25Z")
I like your sense of humor, too, Donna Lange. Welcome to the Dope. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 6:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/37 "2013-03-15T18:49:50Z")
_stares at **Anaamika** _ ---
**Author:** ![Donna\_Lange](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Donna\_Lange](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Donna_Lange)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/38 "2013-03-15T18:51:40Z")
> [@Molesworth\_2](#): > > Honestly, OP, I do appreciate the invitation to just avidly stare. I have even once or twice entertained the idea of asking a woman who is obviously and rightfully proud of her appearance if I could just unashamedly look her up and down for a second or two. > > But there is no way in hell I would ever want to come across as that creepy. > > When I was a mid-20’s male with a decent body I might have appreciated that kind of request myself. > > You may have to just resign yourself to the sad fact that your mounds of magnificence may not be appreciated as much as they could have been. But I guess I don’t understand that part. Maybe I’m stupid or just don’t get the “feel creepy” part cause I’m not a male but… I’ve given hugs to random men and even if its an older gentleman I don’t mind if he looks. Maybe its shame that a girl might be out of their league or they are already taken? I suppose I understand the taken part but I told my boyfriend he can stare all he wants as long as he knows that he’s mine. Hell, _I_ stare at really pretty girls and girls with lots of cleavage or big butts. I kinda feel thats kinda the way we evolved to look at healthy attractors and rivals and size them up. But the shame face. It makes me feel like you did something shameful or stole something when I see a guy blush and look away or CLEARLY avert his gaze when he thinks I can see him looking. To: Anaamika: Thank you very much too! Nice to meet you all 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 6:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/39 "2013-03-15T18:52:53Z")
Thanks for the titty pics. ---
**Author:** ![Donna\_Lange](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Donna\_Lange](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Donna_Lange)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2013, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020/40 "2013-03-15T18:58:22Z")
> [@Drunky\_Smurf](#): > > Thanks for the titty pics. You’re very welcome! Hopefully you are drunk enough to not need the brain bleach 😃 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-stare-and-act-ashamed-about-it/653020.md?page=3)