# Men who think pregnant women are gross **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 1, 2009, 3:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-think-pregnant-women-are-gross/494978 "2009-05-01T15:41:43Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2009, 3:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-think-pregnant-women-are-gross/494978/81 "2009-05-05T15:15:54Z")
> [@Sunspace](#): > > I’m amazed that men would actually take steps to chat up a pregnant woman. I’m not. Pregnant women are frequently horny, for one thing, and for another are obviously not going to be worried about getting knocked up and consequently are somewhat less likely to be concerned about condoms. And not all pregnant women are faithful to their partners (or have a partner to be faithful to), just as not all non-pregnant women are unfaithful or lack a partner. And, lastly, if you don’t try, you’ll never know. ---
**Author:** ![Small\_Hen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ad7895/32.png) [@Small\_Hen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Small_Hen)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2009, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-think-pregnant-women-are-gross/494978/82 "2009-05-05T15:24:13Z")
> [@runcible\_spoon](#): > > What, you mean to maximize my parasite-to-host ratio? You know, you’re right! I’m a productive member of society! Better go off myself, I guess. With any luck, reincarnation happens, and I can spend another few years mooching off the folks… I meant that if you consider someone who can’t use the toilet by themselves to be a social parasite, then you should probably hope you die young, before disease and senility turn you worthless. Spinal cord accidents, MS, and ALS could be problematic too. ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2009, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-think-pregnant-women-are-gross/494978/83 "2009-05-05T15:24:39Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > I’m not. Pregnant women are frequently horny, for one thing, and for another are obviously not going to be worried about getting knocked up and consequently are somewhat less likely to be concerned about condoms. And not all pregnant women are faithful to their partners (or have a partner to be faithful to), just as not all non-pregnant women are unfaithful or lack a partner. And, lastly, if you don’t try, you’ll never know. Ah. Clearly I’m not devious enough in my general affairs. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2009, 3:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-think-pregnant-women-are-gross/494978/84 "2009-05-05T15:25:47Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > I’m not. Pregnant women are frequently horny, for one thing, and for another are obviously not going to be worried about getting knocked up and consequently are somewhat less likely to be concerned about condoms. Really? Is this something you’ve observed or just assumed (with a stranger, not a partner)? Because getting an STD that could harm your fetus just doesn’t seem like a risk most happily pregnant women would be willing to take. From [here](http://pregnancy.about.com/library/blstdfacts.htm) > [@](#): > > Among the additional consequences pregnant women may suffer from STDs are early onset of labor, premature rupture of the membranes surrounding the baby in the uterus, and uterine infection after delivery. > > How can a pregnant woman’s baby become infected? > STDs can be transmitted from a pregnant woman to the fetus, newborn, or infant before, during, or after birth. Some STDs (like syphilis) cross the placenta and infect the fetus during its development. Other STDs (like gonorrhea, chlamydia, hepatitis B, and genital herpes) are transmitted from the mother to the infant as the infant passes through the birth canal. HIV infection can cross the placenta during pregnancy, infect the newborn during the birth process, and, unlike other STDs, infect an infant as a result of breast-feeding. > > How can STD’s affect the fetus or newborn? > Harmful effects on the baby may include stillbirth, low birth weight, conjunctivitis (eye infection), pneumonia, neonatal sepsis (infection in the blood stream), neurologic damage (such as brain damage or motor disorder), congenital abnormalities (including blindness, deafness, or other organ damage), acute hepatitis, meningitis, chronic liver disease, and cirrhosis. Some of these consequences may be apparent at birth; others may not be detected until months or even years later. I don’t doubt that it happens, just as some women smoke and drink their way through pregnancy, but just being horny wouldn’t be enough for plenty of women to risk giving birth to a happy, bouncing, herpes-encrusted infant. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2009, 3:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-think-pregnant-women-are-gross/494978/85 "2009-05-05T15:49:51Z")
> [@Cat\_Fight](#): > > Really? Is this something you’ve observed or just assumed (with a stranger, not a partner)? Because getting an STD that could harm your fetus just doesn’t seem like a risk most happily pregnant women would be willing to take. Observed and taken advantage of, back in the days when I was a perfect shit. You’re right that a \*happily _pregnant woman isn’t going to want to take the risk. But not all pregnant women are happy about it. They may be desperate to have a baby because they think it’ll fix their shitty_ lives. They may have gotten pregnant accidentally and bbeen prevented by circumstances from getting an abortion, or their husbands or boyfriends may have left them, or they may be mad at their husbands or boyfriends and looking for revenge. There’s lot of reasons people do foolish things. \*No, I’m not saying that all pregnant women have shitty lives, or that pregnancy makes life shitty. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2009, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-think-pregnant-women-are-gross/494978/86 "2009-05-05T15:55:52Z")
> [@overlyverbose](#): > > This was my experience, too, particularly during my last pregnancy. I remember sitting next to the pool waiting for a lane to open up. I was about 7 months pregnant and some guy sits down next to me on the bench and starts chatting me up. Eventually, he’s sidled up next to me and asks to to touch my belly. I was saved by a lane opening, but it really freaked me out. As I got up, he asked for my number. I said no. Oh, I’m so reminded of “Fargo” when the Frances McDormand character, who’s pregnant, gets hit on by that former classmate of hers. So awkward and creepy. Not because she’s pregnant so much, but because he’s so…skeevey. ---
**Author:** ![phall0106](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/phall0106/32/5934_2.png) [@phall0106](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phall0106)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2009, 4:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-think-pregnant-women-are-gross/494978/87 "2009-05-05T16:01:16Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > Okay. I’ll make some calls and see if I can call it off. In the meanwhile, _if anybody starts throwing eggs at your hose_, stay inside. Considering the subject nature of this thread, this is the best Freudian slip ever. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2009, 4:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-think-pregnant-women-are-gross/494978/88 "2009-05-05T16:04:46Z")
> [@phall0106](#): > > Considering the subject nature of this thread, this is the best Freudian slip ever. Rhymers don’t make Freudian slips, as we have no subconscious. We do, however, make plenty of typos on account of being easily distractable by–hey, look, a cardinal! ---
**Author:** ![Neverending\_Elbow](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/e274bd/32.png) [@Neverending\_Elbow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Neverending_Elbow)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2009, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-think-pregnant-women-are-gross/494978/89 "2009-05-05T19:33:43Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > Rhymers don’t make Freudian slips, as we have no subconscious. We do, however, make plenty of typos on account of being easily distractable by–hey, look, a cardinal! The bird or a church official? ---
**Author:** ![Ichini\_Sanshigo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/d9b06d/32.png) [@Ichini\_Sanshigo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ichini_Sanshigo)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2009, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-think-pregnant-women-are-gross/494978/90 "2009-05-05T20:21:14Z")
> [@Neverending\_Elbow](#): > > The bird or a church official? Maybe both? I’ve heard the Catholic church is getting a bit desperate for membership these days. ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2009, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-think-pregnant-women-are-gross/494978/91 "2009-05-05T20:22:23Z")
> [@Neverending\_Elbow](#): > > The bird or a church official? Baseball player. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2009, 10:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-think-pregnant-women-are-gross/494978/92 "2009-05-05T22:30:19Z")
> [@Sunspace](#): > > Baseball player. 🙂 I’m way too nerdy to recognize a pro baseball player other than…um… well, there’s none I’d recognize, frankly. ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2009, 10:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-think-pregnant-women-are-gross/494978/93 "2009-05-05T22:42:43Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > I’m way too nerdy to recognize a pro baseball player other than…um… well, there’s none I’d recognize, frankly. I had to look it up on Google. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![zhalaya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/ecccb3/32.png) [@zhalaya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zhalaya)\ **Post date:** [June 1, 2013, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-think-pregnant-women-are-gross/494978/94 "2013-06-01T01:38:50Z")
> [@Cumberdale](#): > > Just curious is this is a widespread feeling. The reason the topic came up is that I was at a restaurant with a female friend the other day and we were waited on by a quite pregnant woman. She had on a big, loose shirt but it was fairly obvious. > > Later on, we met up with her boyfriend after work and the waitress came up in conversation. At some point I mentioned that she was quite attractive and looked like she took care of herself. By his reaction you’d have thought I’d said, “yeah, she has open sores that continually ooze pus, has no hair and constantly belches noxious fumes, but heck, I’d do her.” > > So, out of curiousity, how many men find the fact that a woman is pregnant, excluding spouses and the like, to be a major turnoff. And I don’t mean “turnoff” in a sexual sense, just a general, hey she’s pleasant on the eyes kind of thing. I’m 7 months pregnant myself, my fiance still finds me attractive. Perhaps even more so. Personally I did not find pregnant people unattractive or repulsive before, maybe it’s because I see all women as Maiden, Mother and Crone. Some men are irked by the look of a pregnant woman or fat woman as much as a woman would find a fat man unattractive. It’s just what will float your boat, and I find pregnant women beautiful and sexy. Plus what someone said about pregnant women groping their bellies is gross, I don’t think so. When I feel the baby moving I like to let it know I can feel them, it feels nurturing and bonding. A guy scratching his balls in public is a different matter. But then again girls who wear bad bras are constantly pulling up the straps. ---
**Author:** ![RetroVertigo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b38774/32.png) [@RetroVertigo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RetroVertigo)\ **Post date:** [June 1, 2013, 2:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-think-pregnant-women-are-gross/494978/95 "2013-06-01T02:25:33Z")
The thought of something (which turned out to be my kid) growing inside my wife grossed me out. ---
**Author:** ![DigitalC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ebca7d/32.png) [@DigitalC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DigitalC)\ **Post date:** [June 1, 2013, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-think-pregnant-women-are-gross/494978/96 "2013-06-01T03:03:40Z")
I don’t think pregnant women are sexually attractive but they are certainly not gross. More like cute in a baby bunny non sexual way. ---
**Author:** ![RickJay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/bb73d2/32.png) [@RickJay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RickJay)\ **Post date:** [June 1, 2013, 3:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-think-pregnant-women-are-gross/494978/97 "2013-06-01T03:27:58Z")
Pregnant women are beautiful. There’s a glow, what can I say. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [June 1, 2013, 5:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-think-pregnant-women-are-gross/494978/98 "2013-06-01T05:01:53Z")
I cannot understand how a pregnant woman is gross. If I were into women, I might even think it’s hot. Where the hell do you think you came from? ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [June 1, 2013, 5:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-think-pregnant-women-are-gross/494978/99 "2013-06-01T05:07:53Z")
A woman can look great or she can look like hell. Pregnancy doesn’t matter. ---
**Author:** ![Maiira](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f04885/32.png) [@Maiira](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maiira)\ **Post date:** [June 1, 2013, 5:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-think-pregnant-women-are-gross/494978/100 "2013-06-01T05:51:05Z")
Pregnant ladies look like zombies to me. (Holy cow, this thread is four years old. And here I am still referring to '09 as “a couple years ago.”) [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-think-pregnant-women-are-gross/494978.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-who-think-pregnant-women-are-gross/494978.md?page=6)