# Men: Would You Date a 40 Year Old Virgin Woman? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 17, 2014, 9:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-would-you-date-a-40-year-old-virgin-woman/701622 "2014-10-17T21:23:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![PastTense](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pasttense/32/14550_2.png) [@PastTense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PastTense)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2014, 9:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-would-you-date-a-40-year-old-virgin-woman/701622/1 "2014-10-17T21:23:10Z")
This is suggested by the other current thread: Would you date a 40-year-old virgin man? > **[Would you date a 40-year-old virgin?](https://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=737464)** > > I am just curious to see how much of a hard time an actual 40-year-old virgin would have in the real world regarding dating. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2014, 10:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-would-you-date-a-40-year-old-virgin-woman/701622/2 "2014-10-17T22:18:25Z")
Yup. For about 15 minutes. 😉 I am irresistable. ---
**Author:** ![Velocity](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/velocity/32/18006_2.png) [@Velocity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Velocity)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2014, 10:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-would-you-date-a-40-year-old-virgin-woman/701622/3 "2014-10-17T22:35:57Z")
If she was a nice person, why not. ---
**Author:** ![Quartz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quartz/32/267_2.png) [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2014, 10:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-would-you-date-a-40-year-old-virgin-woman/701622/4 "2014-10-17T22:41:38Z")
Absolutely. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Other\_Waldo\_Pepper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/the_other_waldo_pepper/32/12370_2.png) [@The\_Other\_Waldo\_Pepper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Other_Waldo_Pepper)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2014, 1:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-would-you-date-a-40-year-old-virgin-woman/701622/5 "2014-10-18T01:25:06Z")
Does she want to _remain_ a virgin? ---
**Author:** ![Morgenstern](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Morgenstern](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgenstern)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2014, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-would-you-date-a-40-year-old-virgin-woman/701622/6 "2014-10-18T01:38:23Z")
Wow, there could be way too much baggage associated with her being a virgin, and it would take too long to find out. My answer is it’s best to avoid that situation. ---
**Author:** ![Indistinguishable](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/90ced4/32.png) [@Indistinguishable](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indistinguishable)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2014, 1:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-would-you-date-a-40-year-old-virgin-woman/701622/7 "2014-10-18T01:58:11Z")
I wouldn’t currently because 40 is too far from my own age. But were there no age difference, then, sure, depending on circumstances. If she was otherwise a good fit, just happened never to have had sex before for whatever reason, and did not wish to remain as such, it would be a picayune issue to make a deal-breaker. ---
**Author:** ![Indistinguishable](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/90ced4/32.png) [@Indistinguishable](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indistinguishable)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2014, 2:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-would-you-date-a-40-year-old-virgin-woman/701622/8 "2014-10-18T02:25:43Z")
(It would be quite odd, of course. I just think I could manage sympathy for someone I otherwise clicked with.) ---
**Author:** ![RealityChuck](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/realitychuck/32/195_2.png) [@RealityChuck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RealityChuck)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2014, 2:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-would-you-date-a-40-year-old-virgin-woman/701622/9 "2014-10-18T02:30:52Z")
A young woman like that? Sure. But, really, I don’t care if she’s a virgin or not, and it would not have the slightest influence on my decision. ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2014, 2:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-would-you-date-a-40-year-old-virgin-woman/701622/10 "2014-10-18T02:53:34Z")
I wouldn’t say never but I couldn’t see it happening. All the most likely reasons would either make her incompatable or just not worth the trouble. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2014, 2:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-would-you-date-a-40-year-old-virgin-woman/701622/11 "2014-10-18T02:54:24Z")
Two 20-year-old virgins would be more preferable. ---
**Author:** ![DCnDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dcndc/32/2842_2.png) [@DCnDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DCnDC)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2014, 3:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-would-you-date-a-40-year-old-virgin-woman/701622/12 "2014-10-18T03:08:01Z")
All other things being equal, I don’t see why not. It’s neither a deal-breaker nor an incentive. ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2014, 3:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-would-you-date-a-40-year-old-virgin-woman/701622/13 "2014-10-18T03:14:33Z")
Assuming that she is personable, bright and attractive, I still would most likely not date her because I’m not interested in someone who would not have personal relationship skills. Be friends with her? Sure. Date her, no. I’m not looking for a rescue project. For casual sex, there’s too high a risk of her being teh crazy. To suddenly want to go from decades of chastity to casual sex doesn’t pass the sniff test. I’d be concerned that casual sex wouldn’t be so casual for her, which could then create an embuggerance for me. Either way, the risk/reward ratio isn’t favourable. ---
**Author:** ![Penfeather](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/penfeather/32/384_2.png) [@Penfeather](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Penfeather)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2014, 3:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-would-you-date-a-40-year-old-virgin-woman/701622/14 "2014-10-18T03:22:51Z")
> [@SiamSam222](#): > > Two 20-year-old virgins would be more preferable. Yes, you’ve made that joke. ---
**Author:** ![Boogly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Boogly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boogly)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2014, 2:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-would-you-date-a-40-year-old-virgin-woman/701622/15 "2014-10-18T14:59:55Z")
If we are only dating why would this matter at all? Isn’t this the part of a relationship where people find out about each other? ---
**Author:** ![pancakes3](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ba9def/32.png) [@pancakes3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pancakes3)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2014, 3:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-would-you-date-a-40-year-old-virgin-woman/701622/16 "2014-10-18T15:39:14Z")
Virginity has nothing to do with if I want to date someone or not. The age is a factor though. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2014, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-would-you-date-a-40-year-old-virgin-woman/701622/17 "2014-10-18T15:55:32Z")
Sure, as long as there’s a possibility for sex somewhere down the line. I wouldn’t date an asexual woman though. ---
**Author:** ![Velocity](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/velocity/32/18006_2.png) [@Velocity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Velocity)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2014, 5:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-would-you-date-a-40-year-old-virgin-woman/701622/18 "2014-10-18T17:08:07Z")
> [@Muffin](#): > > Assuming that she is personable, bright and attractive, I still would most likely not date her because I’m not interested in someone who \*\*would not have personal relationship skills. \*\* Be friends with her? Sure. Date her, no. I’m not looking for a **rescue project.** You’re really stereotyping here. ---
**Author:** ![Emtar\_KronJonDerSohn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/58956e/32.png) [@Emtar\_KronJonDerSohn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Emtar_KronJonDerSohn)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2014, 5:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-would-you-date-a-40-year-old-virgin-woman/701622/19 "2014-10-18T17:49:36Z")
> [@Velocity](#): > > You’re really stereotyping here. You’re allowed to stereotype and discriminate and handwave when you’re dating. It prevents the awkward crisis where you realize you wasted a significant amount of time blazing past red flags to pursue an unhealthy relationship with someone you’re in no way compatible with and don’t even like. ---
**Author:** ![Indistinguishable](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/90ced4/32.png) [@Indistinguishable](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indistinguishable)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2014, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-would-you-date-a-40-year-old-virgin-woman/701622/20 "2014-10-18T18:48:54Z")
You’re allowed to do whatever you want when you’re dating; you have complete veto. But let’s not forget that it rather sucks for the woman if she is ubiquitously stereotyped as something she isn’t. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-would-you-date-a-40-year-old-virgin-woman/701622.md?page=2)