# Men, you are asked to stop in mid coital frenzy **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 8, 2010, 7:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-you-are-asked-to-stop-in-mid-coital-frenzy/563455 "2010-12-08T19:28:13Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Flying_Dutchman)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2010, 7:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-you-are-asked-to-stop-in-mid-coital-frenzy/563455/1 "2010-12-08T19:28:13Z")
For what ever reason. You are halfway to O She just says stop, please get off me. You… ---
**Author:** ![Chessic\_Sense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7c8e57/32.png) [@Chessic\_Sense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chessic_Sense)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2010, 7:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-you-are-asked-to-stop-in-mid-coital-frenzy/563455/2 "2010-12-08T19:34:42Z")
…stop. Happens on a regular basis in my household. ---
**Author:** ![KneadToKnow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kneadtoknow/32/3999_2.png) [@KneadToKnow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KneadToKnow)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2010, 7:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-you-are-asked-to-stop-in-mid-coital-frenzy/563455/3 "2010-12-08T19:35:59Z")
… stop.\* To do otherwise is to risk being charged with rape. - Unless there is a prior understanding that this is an BDSM-type situation in which non-consent is part of the game, in which case she would have to use her safe word. ETA: stating “There is a poll on the way” would have been good. ---
**Author:** ![Skammer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skammer/32/143_2.png) [@Skammer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skammer)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2010, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-you-are-asked-to-stop-in-mid-coital-frenzy/563455/4 "2010-12-08T19:36:26Z")
Wait, me and you are mid-coital? No offense but you should buy me dinner first. ---
**Author:** ![Gus\_Gusterson](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/85f322/32.png) [@Gus\_Gusterson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gus_Gusterson)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2010, 7:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-you-are-asked-to-stop-in-mid-coital-frenzy/563455/5 "2010-12-08T19:37:53Z")
> [@Chessic\_Sense](#): > > …stop. Happens on a regular basis in my household. Same here. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Flying_Dutchman)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2010, 7:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-you-are-asked-to-stop-in-mid-coital-frenzy/563455/6 "2010-12-08T19:38:39Z")
Fuck ! the Title should be Men, you are asked…? ---
**Author:** ![gurujulp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ba9def/32.png) [@gurujulp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gurujulp)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2010, 7:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-you-are-asked-to-stop-in-mid-coital-frenzy/563455/7 "2010-12-08T19:49:03Z")
I selected withdraw immediately, but it would be one of the top two. Need multiple choices. Depends on how she said it, and possibly what we had discussed before or during… ---
**Author:** ![Ludovic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ab992/32.png) [@Ludovic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ludovic)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2010, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-you-are-asked-to-stop-in-mid-coital-frenzy/563455/8 "2010-12-08T19:51:06Z")
> [@KneadToKnow](#): > > ETA: stating “There is a poll on the way” would have been good. Because if you don’t give advance warning, you can be charged with rape. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2010, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-you-are-asked-to-stop-in-mid-coital-frenzy/563455/9 "2010-12-08T19:51:48Z")
> [@gurujulp](#): > > I selected withdraw immediately, but it would be one of the top two. Need multiple choices. Depends on how she said it, and possibly what we had discussed before or during… Yeah, there’s a lot of missing information. I picked the second option because I’d take second or two to say “What? Really?” If she was emphatic, there’s no way I’d continue on until orgasm. ---
**Author:** ![BigBertha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/d78d45/32.png) [@BigBertha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigBertha)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2010, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-you-are-asked-to-stop-in-mid-coital-frenzy/563455/10 "2010-12-08T19:55:11Z")
> [@Gus\_Gusterson](#): > > Same here. Really? I’ve never heard of this. I can only assume (I am female) that there is some unexplained pain. ---
**Author:** ![phungi](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/phungi/32/395_2.png) [@phungi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phungi)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2010, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-you-are-asked-to-stop-in-mid-coital-frenzy/563455/11 "2010-12-08T19:58:28Z")
> [@BigBertha](#): > > Really? I’ve never heard of this. I can only assume (I am female) that there is some unexplained pain. seconded, but as a male… can someone explain the circumstances surrounding the ongoing need to stop mid-coitus? ---
**Author:** ![Gus\_Gusterson](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/85f322/32.png) [@Gus\_Gusterson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gus_Gusterson)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2010, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-you-are-asked-to-stop-in-mid-coital-frenzy/563455/12 "2010-12-08T19:59:47Z")
> [@BigBertha](#): > > Really? I’ve never heard of this. I can only assume (I am female) that there is some unexplained pain. My wife lasts a few minutes before she comes. If I don’t come within a few seconds after she does, she gets extremely uncomfortable and I have to stop. My first wife was the same way. ---
**Author:** ![gurujulp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ba9def/32.png) [@gurujulp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gurujulp)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2010, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-you-are-asked-to-stop-in-mid-coital-frenzy/563455/13 "2010-12-08T20:02:15Z")
> [@Gus\_Gusterson](#): > > My wife lasts a few minutes before she comes. If I don’t come within a few seconds after she does, she gets extremely uncomfortable and I have to stop. My first wife was the same way. I have had a (very few) ex’s soooo sensitive. I had forgotten! Usually the other way around… ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2010, 8:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-you-are-asked-to-stop-in-mid-coital-frenzy/563455/14 "2010-12-08T20:06:43Z")
> [@tdn](#): > > Yeah, there’s a lot of missing information. > > I picked the second option because I’d take second or two to say “What? Really?” > > If she was emphatic, there’s no way I’d continue on until orgasm. Yeah…speaking as a female, sometimes it’s just “Wait a sec, this is kind of uncomfortable.” And sometimes there’s, “No more sex, period.” I don’t think I’ve ever been in a situation where it was the latter but I’ve had the former–sometimes it’s sort of hitting you at a weird angle or your head is against the wall or ow, you’re being crushed (little things bruise easily!). ---
**Author:** ![Chessic\_Sense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7c8e57/32.png) [@Chessic\_Sense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chessic_Sense)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2010, 8:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-you-are-asked-to-stop-in-mid-coital-frenzy/563455/15 "2010-12-08T20:11:19Z")
> [@BigBertha](#): > > Really? I’ve never heard of this. I can only assume (I am female) that there is some unexplained pain. Sometimes it’s unexplained. Most of the time, she’s too dry to continue. Or she loses interest once she comes. Either way, it’s incredibly straining on the relationship. ---
**Author:** ![lisacurl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/41988e/32.png) [@lisacurl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lisacurl)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2010, 8:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-you-are-asked-to-stop-in-mid-coital-frenzy/563455/16 "2010-12-08T20:12:21Z")
On the two occasions when I have had to say “stop immediately,” it was because I was in extreme pain (difficult to continue with coitus when you have a functional ovarian cyst about the size of a grapefruit sharing space in there… I hadn’t realized it was that bad) or about to be very sick (I practically threw the gentleman off me in my run to the bathroom). ---
**Author:** ![Ellen\_Cherry](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellen_cherry/32/3600_2.png) [@Ellen\_Cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ellen_Cherry)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2010, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-you-are-asked-to-stop-in-mid-coital-frenzy/563455/17 "2010-12-08T20:22:54Z")
> [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](#): > > Fuck ! the Title should be > > Men, you are asked…? Title changed from “Me, you are asked..” to "Men, you are asked. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2010, 8:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-you-are-asked-to-stop-in-mid-coital-frenzy/563455/18 "2010-12-08T20:24:48Z")
> [@lisacurl](#): > > or about to be very sick (I practically threw the gentleman off me in my run to the bathroom). Which did marvelous things for his ego. ---
**Author:** ![BigBertha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/d78d45/32.png) [@BigBertha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigBertha)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2010, 8:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-you-are-asked-to-stop-in-mid-coital-frenzy/563455/19 "2010-12-08T20:28:25Z")
> [@Chessic\_Sense](#): > > Sometimes it’s unexplained. Most of the time, she’s too dry to continue. Or she loses interest once she comes. Either way, it’s incredibly straining on the relationship. I’m sorry. I edited this to splain I’m not his partner just sorry that happens to him. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Weird\_One](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7bcc69/32.png) [@The\_Weird\_One](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Weird_One)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2010, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-you-are-asked-to-stop-in-mid-coital-frenzy/563455/20 "2010-12-08T20:34:41Z")
(Female here, so I didn’t answer the poll.) I was once mid-coitus on top of a fellow I’d picked up at a party in college when he suddenly said, “Wait, I shouldn’t, I have a girlfriend.” I hopped off immediately. That was annoying. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/men-you-are-asked-to-stop-in-mid-coital-frenzy/563455.md?page=2)