# menage a trois'-who's really done it? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 5, 2001, 2:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/menage-a-trois-whos-really-done-it/97024 "2001-12-05T14:13:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![TV\_time](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f17d59/32.png) [@TV\_time](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TV_time)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2001, 11:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/menage-a-trois-whos-really-done-it/97024/41 "2001-12-05T23:56:47Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by plnnr \* > **Me and "Bjorn and Ilsa."** Any post that starts out this way has got to be a good one. In regard to the OP, a couple of times. My lady at the time met a friend who was a photographer friend of hers who wanted some shots of my ladyfriend. She began taking them. They became nude shots and the three of us were the logical step. When I left to go overseas a month or so later they became a couple and are still together years later. My wife saw a woman who intrigued her. I happened to know the woman in question and invited her over and we hit it off with her. I was surprised how comfortable this one was. The first one seemed, I don’t know, like we were trying too hard to perform or something. TV ---
**Author:** ![Weirddave](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/919ad9/32.png) [@Weirddave](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Weirddave)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2001, 12:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/menage-a-trois-whos-really-done-it/97024/42 "2001-12-06T00:21:36Z")
Yup. And here’s a bit of info you won’t get from adult movies: DP is a lot more awkward than it looks. You have 2 people moving into a rather limited ammount of real estate, things get tight. ---
**Author:** ![Jet\_Black](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ecc23a/32.png) [@Jet\_Black](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jet_Black)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2001, 12:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/menage-a-trois-whos-really-done-it/97024/43 "2001-12-06T00:29:42Z")
Yes. Five times. 1 - College: my buddy and I with a teacher’s aide. She was cool…especially with two guys. Usually, I hear it’s the other way around. 2 - In my 20’s: My daughter’s 2nd grade teacher, and another friend (who sadly has passed away). 3 & 4 - Sex Club: I used to belong to an alt. sex club, and it was common practice to find three, or more, engaged in sexual activities…hell, that’s one of the reasons why you joined. I just joined in with a few strangers. They didn’t mind. (the latter I was invited) 5 - Sex Club: Again, but my most unique threesome. An older couple in their 60’s, I was 30. However, it might not count, being that the older man (who was married to the woman) was merely watching, and stroking himself. Clearly, this was a situation where he liked to watch his wife get it. A few times he would caress her, or hold her head in position for my BJ, but he never really touched me, beyond a few caresses along my back while the erm…“action” was going on. He sat on the edge of the bed. I guess that counts as a threesome. Interesting. Nice folks, though. Jet Black ---
**Author:** ![BelZarak](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ea666f/32.png) [@BelZarak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BelZarak)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2001, 2:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/menage-a-trois-whos-really-done-it/97024/44 "2001-12-06T02:34:48Z")
A few times, both MMF and FFM. Of course, this all happened in my younger days and long before I met my wife. -Belz ---
**Author:** ![Reeder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c6cbf5/32.png) [@Reeder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Reeder)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2001, 2:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/menage-a-trois-whos-really-done-it/97024/45 "2001-12-06T02:39:58Z")
FMF and MFM With the FMF she got pissed…with the MFM she fell in love with the other guy. Go figure. ---
**Author:** ![JimOfAllTrades](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@JimOfAllTrades](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JimOfAllTrades)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2001, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/menage-a-trois-whos-really-done-it/97024/46 "2001-12-06T03:34:44Z")
A few times for me, both MMf and FFM. The first time my (now ex-) wife had been out drinking and dancing with one of her girlfriends (I’ve never been much for either). About midnight they came back, and they were both a little tipsy. We all sat around talking, and the talk turned to sex. Suddenly, my wife blurts out she always wondered what it was like to have sex with a woman. The girlfriend says “Me too”. We all kind of looked at each other for a minute, and then the wife gets up and kisses the girlfriend. They tell me to wait there, and they hit the bedroom, and after a few minutes I hear lots of moans and groans. They called me in about 30 minutes later, and we all had much fun! Over the course of the next few months, we tried FFM two or three more times, with different women. Then one night we were at a party where the host was a guy we both knew very well. After everyone else had gone home, the three of us all got in the hot tub, and since we hadn’t brought any suits, we were all naked. After a half hour or so, the flirting got a little more serious, and then she grabs the other guy by the horn, so to speak, pulls him up on the side of the hot tub, and proceeds to, ahhhh…. wet his whistle. While doing that, she told me to get up behind her, and who was I to argue? Again, much fun was had by all! Over the next year we had several more threesomes with the same guy, a couple of foursomes when he had a willing woman there, and we swapped with him a couple of times. All in all, I liked the MMF better, mostly because the (now ex-) wife enjoyed it so much. Plus, as much fun as two naked women are (which is a bunch of fun!), one guy trying to keep up with two horny women is pretty much a lost cause. I damn near wore the little guy off a couple of times trying to keep my end up, if you’ll pardon the pun. And the ex absolutely loved being sandwiched, she would orgasm a dozen times in a row. Ugly ---
**Author:** ![vix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/a88e4f/32.png) [@vix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vix)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2001, 4:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/menage-a-trois-whos-really-done-it/97024/47 "2001-12-06T04:28:11Z")
No actual sex, but I once took a very steamy shower with three others. We had all gone to the annual “naked party” at school. It’s exactly what it sounds like - everyone is nude. (Less exciting and more smelly than you might think). At this particular naked party, there was lots of body painting going on. Not to mention co-ed naked twister. Ahem. Anyway, afterwards, another couple and a guy I was seeing and I hopped into one of those huge dorm showers and soaped each other down quite… thoroughly. ---
**Author:** ![Genseric](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Genseric](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Genseric)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2001, 11:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/menage-a-trois-whos-really-done-it/97024/48 "2001-12-06T11:26:14Z")
Never done it, but I often fantasize about disappointing two women at the same time. Really though, as far as MFF, I like to concentrate my attention on one thing. Trying to spread the lovin’ would be too much trouble, I think. Or the ladies would get going with each other and ask me to take off for a couple hours. MMF? Forget about it. One dick per fantasy for me thanks anyway. I’d say “Uh, dude, can you, you know, piss off, I’m busy here, and you’re getting in the way.” ---
**Author:** ![Badtz\_Maru](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e36b37/32.png) [@Badtz\_Maru](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Badtz_Maru)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2001, 12:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/menage-a-trois-whos-really-done-it/97024/49 "2001-12-06T12:29:11Z")
Me and a sorta-friend of mine doubled up on a cute little red-headed 30-something piece of trailer trash whose daughter he was also screwing. I didn’t care for it, took me a long time to get it up due to drugs and when I did manage to I lost interest after less than a minute of penetration, so I let the two of them go at it while I went and watched TV in the other room. ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2001, 12:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/menage-a-trois-whos-really-done-it/97024/50 "2001-12-06T12:48:09Z")
A threesome. Just what I need. The opportunity to disappoint twice as many women at a time! ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2001, 12:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/menage-a-trois-whos-really-done-it/97024/51 "2001-12-06T12:49:22Z")
Shit. **Genseric** beat me to it. ---
**Author:** ![Bluesman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/97f17d/32.png) [@Bluesman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bluesman)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2001, 4:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/menage-a-trois-whos-really-done-it/97024/52 "2001-12-06T16:24:31Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Geobabe \* > \*\*Yeah, I’ve done it. I’ve posted about it too, so you can look it up if you really wanna know. \*\* Must…have…link…need… **LINK!!!** ---
**Author:** ![Geobabe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/geobabe/32/3908_2.png) [@Geobabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geobabe)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2001, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/menage-a-trois-whos-really-done-it/97024/53 "2001-12-06T16:29:36Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Bluesman \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > \*Originally posted by Geobabe \* > > \*\*Yeah, I’ve done it. I’ve posted about it too, so you can look it up if you really wanna know. \*\* > > Must…have…link…need… **LINK!!!** \*\* Nope. You gotta do the work yourself, punkin. I’m not gonna give you everything for free, ya know. ---
**Author:** ![Bluesman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/97f17d/32.png) [@Bluesman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bluesman)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2001, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/menage-a-trois-whos-really-done-it/97024/54 "2001-12-06T16:38:32Z")
I love it when you’re cruel to me. 😃 Lessee, 2000+ threads…hell, I don’t need no stinkin’ sleep! ---
**Author:** ![Pucette](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/278dde/32.png) [@Pucette](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pucette)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2001, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/menage-a-trois-whos-really-done-it/97024/55 "2001-12-06T16:44:33Z")
Pssst. Bluesman. Do a search on keyword “threesome” and user name “Geobabe,” in MPSIMS. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![elelle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f0a364/32.png) [@elelle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elelle)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2001, 5:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/menage-a-trois-whos-really-done-it/97024/56 "2001-12-06T17:04:20Z")
Geo, Honey, you gonna bust the search engine. :eek: ---
**Author:** ![Diane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2acd7d/32.png) [@Diane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diane)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2001, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/menage-a-trois-whos-really-done-it/97024/57 "2001-12-06T18:10:38Z")
Damn Ugly, I never would have thought. . . . 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Xploder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/x/a183cd/32.png) [@Xploder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Xploder)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2001, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/menage-a-trois-whos-really-done-it/97024/58 "2001-12-06T18:42:29Z")
Sure. Many times both FFM and MMF. My wife and I were members of a sex club for a LONG time. Lots of fun and never any problems. PLUS, we always stayed good friends afterward. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Geobabe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/geobabe/32/3908_2.png) [@Geobabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geobabe)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2001, 10:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/menage-a-trois-whos-really-done-it/97024/59 "2001-12-06T22:18:27Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by elelle \* > \*\*Geo, Honey, you gonna bust the search engine. :eek: \*\* Nah, you do the search like **Pucette** said, only comes up with a few hits (unlike combining my name with “sex” which apparently, as another Doper has informed me, gets many, many hits :o)\* [sub]\* And no comments from the peanut gallery about the connotations of the :o face either! Please?[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Twilight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/73ab20/32.png) [@Twilight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Twilight)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2001, 10:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/menage-a-trois-whos-really-done-it/97024/60 "2001-12-06T22:19:47Z")
A number of times, in different constellations. Weirdest must be the time me and my at-that-time lover were going at it when the door-bell rang. It was his old girlfriend asking if she could join - apparantly she had watched us for some time through the window. That was fun 🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/menage-a-trois-whos-really-done-it/97024.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/menage-a-trois-whos-really-done-it/97024.md?page=4)