Might be a mid-year crisis (June mini-rants thread)

The mortgage payment has been interest only for 14 years on a 30-year mortgage, and it’s paid through a social lending manager. Yes, the house has lost value. The IRA isn’t worth what it was, either (yay, having to depend on the fucking stock market), and I think there’s a 10% penalty on it, but at this moment I’m not sure I care.

I’m also not sure I’m ready to permanently cut ties, either. I do, after all, love them. And it’s also possible that if I permanently cut all the other ties, she could demand immediate repayment and I’d have to raid either the IRA or the current 401K, so rock, meet hard place.

Why do they make it so damn hard to report misdelivered mail? And why don’t they have even a semi-decent way of handling it?

For the third time this month, I got mail that belongs elsewhere. For envelopes, it’s no big deal: shove it back in the box.

But this was a carton, like maybe 18" X 24" X 36", and heavy. This address is clearly printed, and sorta like mine. Like if my address was 123 Spring Brook Street, this package was supposed to go to 123 Brook Field Drive. Well, they got the number right, and they both have ‘Brook’ in the street name, right? Nevermind that that address is nearly SEVEN miles from here, and cannot possibly be on the same mail delivery route. Oh, and the names are not at all the same. That name is “Lu” and mine is a scrabble dump of 13 letters, nearly all consonants, and no “L” or “U” anywhere in it.

Printed all over the box is the name of the manufacturer, an electronics brand, so at a guess the whatever is relatively expensive and on the ‘needs careful handling’ end of the spectrum.

But is there a phone number of any kind? For the Post Office, or the shipping entity, or even the customer? Hah.

So it’s google time, then call the Post Office. No, make that try to call. There’s two listed numbers, a local one and a 1-800 one. The local number is ‘not in service’ of course. The 800 one offers five options, none of them anything close to ‘report a misdelivery’ so I punch zero a few times and eventually get a ‘transferring to customer service agent’ message.

Maybe ten minutes later the call is finally picked up. I tell the person “a package was misdelivered to [my address] and I need someone to pick it back up and take it where it belongs.” Simple, yes?

No. First we have to go through a whole series of info about me: my address, again, my name, my phone number…I finally rebelled when they asked for my email address. What the fuck? I bet they plan to send me a ‘satisfaction survey’ or some such crap.

And then they weren’t satisfied with the name and address the package should be sent to. Oh, no. They wanted their zillion digital/letter tracking code, which of course I had to go back outside to get.

And after that the flunky just tells me “It will be taken care of.” WTF? “Just give it back to the mailman tomorrow and explain it to him.” Uh, why the hell did I have to give you all that info for, if you’re not going to actually do anything with it?

More importantly, I could count the number of times I see my mail carrier face to face in the course of a year on one hand, and have a couple of fingers left over! My kitchen, living room, and office, the rooms I spend time in, are all on the back side of the house. The mail box is on the front of the garage. Most of the time I’m not even aware of them being there. Do they think I am going to spend hours (literally could be hours, I’ve gotten deliveries as early at 9 am and as late as 2:30pm. I don’t think we even have a regular carrier right now.) hanging out at my mail box to handle this?

I explain this to the CS dweeb, and there’s some silence. “Well, why don’t you just put the box out somewhere near the mail box?”

Sure. Why not? It’s not like there haven’t been dozens of boxes stolen from porches in this area. Why would any thieves want a big mystery box of electronic gear?

Never mind that the forecast calls for scattered thundershowers. That won’t bother a cardboard box of electronics, right?

Sorry, Mr./Ms. Lu.

Could you google the family name of the customer with the street address to get the phone number? Whitepages should let you do that for free.

Put a note in your mailbox asking the carrier to come to the house to pick up a misdelivered package and raise the flag if there is one.

I tried a couple of sites before I went the Post Office route, but couldn’t get a listing. Probably they only have cell phones, it seems those numbers are guarded more closely.

Anyway, I’ll stick the box out early tomorrow, hopefully the mail man will arrive before any casual thieves.

Hey, asshole, did you not hear me say that I am the daughter-in-law of the deceased? I don’t know who you are, and if you must introduce yourself, can you wait until I come out of the viewing room? I am clearly trying to have a private moment with my father-in-law, the last I’ll ever have with him. Will you STFU and go elsewhere?

Yes, I did say “I’m trying to have a private moment with Federico,” and you backed off. But should I really have had to say that?! Who the ever-loving fuck tries to make small talk in the presence of the deceased?!

Idiots, apparently, that’s who. How fucked up!

@Morgyn {{ huggzzz }}

Morgyn, I was poking around online and found silicone “distraction” mats for dogs. They have a raised grid and you smear gooshy fud in the holes (kinda like butter on a waffle), and pet has to lick at it for a while to get the food out.

I thought about our snarf and barf kitty, then about your old guy. Would something like that help keep food where he could see it?

BBQ propane tanks are a mystery. The last two times I had it filled (sometime last summer, and today) I had a hell of a time getting the barbecue to work again. You have to fiddle with the hose attachment a bit to get it aligned so it screws on properly, but you know when you’ve got it because it rotates easily several turns and then firmly tightens up. Great. Except the barbecue doesn’t fucking light – no gas is coming out of the burners.

So I try it again. And again. And again. Nothing. Last time I got so frustrated that I took the tank off the hook thingie that holds it to the barbecue frame, placed it on the ground, and tried again, and it worked. So with the hose still attached, I mounted it up on the hook thingie again and it’s been working ever since, until I refilled it today, and same old story.

This time I didn’t take the tank off the frame, I just kept trying over and over to screw on the hose, and suddenly, poof! Full flames on all burners. Once that happens it seems to work reliably until the tank runs out.

Attaching the hose the time that it worked didn’t feel any different than any of the other times (about the same number of turns, about the same resistance and tightness). Scientific conclusion: my barbecue is cursed. This should not be complicated technology! Another reason to get a directly piped-in natural gas barbecue.

Rant but at least with a happy ending. Some asshole left a beautiful tiny kitten on my porch today. It was only about 3-4 weeks old, not even able to walk. I checked with a neighbor whose cat had kittens a while back but it wasn’t his. I don’t think the mother put it there because it cried for hours (a good set of lungs on this one) and she didn’t appear. I had put it in a box with a soft blanket when I discovered it. After a few hours, I put a fuzzy cat toy in with it so it might think that was a sibling and it actually quieted down.

In the meantime, I was calling everywhere I could think of to find someone to take it. Being Sunday, and with covid19 restrictions, I didn’t have a lot of luck. I was resigned to having to call animal services, which I really didn’t want to do. I had put a post on Nextdoor and finally about an hour ago someone offered to bottle feed and keep it. She just picked it up.

I’m emotionally drained. I don’t understand how people can just throw away such a precious little creature. If this was normal times, I would have kept it and gone shopping for all the things I would need to take care of it. But these aren’t normal times and I couldn’t do that. And I hate whoever decided to put me in that position.

If it helps, with those bitty baby kittens, 99% of the time, there wasn’t a human intentionally/directly involved. I mean, there was at some point- someone didn’t spay their cat and someone didn’t neuter theirs and those cats could be the parents or grandparents or great-grandparents. And it’s possible mom got scared while she was moving the kittens or got trapped or got hit by a car. But it’s also possible that this one just wasn’t developing as fast as the other kittens and couldn’t keep up or that mom knew this one was a bad investment or, honestly, that mom was just a crappy/young/unhealthy mom and just abandoned this one. It’s not completely impossible that someone tossed this specific kitten out, but it’s way more likely just a stroke of bad luck for the baby (although hopefully good luck going forward) than anyone’s intentional cruelty.

My last bottle-fed foster baby was found all by herself and, as she got older and did not develop well (something is clearly not quite standard-issue about that child’s DNA) it became obvious that keeping her around would not have been an advantage to any feral mother, especially if she had other kittens. She would definitely not have survived growing up feral. As it is, though, it’s a good thing mom (presumably) left her behind because she got the chance to be babied and protected and medicated and socialized and was able to grow up. She’s healthy now (although still DEFINITELY not typical, physically or behaviorally) and was adopted by someone who adores her, quirks and all.

Sure it’s possible that a mother cat deliberately put it on my porch. But I really don’t think so. If a mother was just going to abandon a kitten, I don’t think she would carry it up the stairs and put it in front of my door. I know all the outside cats in the neighborhood (I feed some of them) and the only pregnant one was my neighbor’s and she had her kittens a while back. I believe it was someone who lives around here and has seen the cats hanging around my yard and, for whatever reason they didn’t want the kitten, thought they would just let me deal with it.

And thank you for fostering kittens. I have a lot of admiration for people who foster kittens and puppies.

It occurs to me that the feral cats in your neighborhood have seen how kind you are to the cats just as much as your neighbors have.

Thanks for saying that. I’m a huge softy when it comes to taking care of the unwanted ones. Cats are smart and stranger things have happened. Maybe one did think I would take care of her baby. There’s a story behind why such a young kitten ended up on my porch and I doubt I’ll ever know what it is.

NC went to universal masking this past Friday at 5 p.m. Saturday I went to Walmart to pick up a few things. Most people were wearing masks. Some people weren’t. (Which brings up the question why were they let in the store?) Some people were holding their mask in their hand like it was a talisman that would protect them just from being nearby.

sigh

Decades ago, I found a tiny kitten in a pile of leaves behind my apartment. It was night, and I heard him mewing; went back with a flashlight and saw two beady little eyes within the leaves. I don’t know where he came from, but I kept him. He bonded with me, and thought I was his “mommy.” He turned out to be one of the best cats I ever had.

It has been stressful at home without school. My daughter’s behaviors have been getting worse and she has been melting down more and things are just rough. Do you know what I don’t say though when we have a bad day. That autism won. What a weird ass thing to say. But lately that phrase has been really popular in one of the Facebook based support groups and people are getting really defensive when called out on it. I, for one, think it’s really offensive. Like “hi child, the way you were born is really cramping my style today.” Yikes.

Aurora, if it was a human, at least they cared enough to put the kitten on your porch. They may not have wanted to deal with it, but they didn’t throw it in a bush, either. The ones I worry about are the ones we never see.

You are right Helena. And today I’m calmer and happy that I was able to find the kitten a good home. Yesterday, I was just really stressed about it and angry that this pandemic has made everything so much harder to deal with. Animals are not having an easy time of it either.

See, I would gently shut the door and introduce mr turkey to mr crossbow and then to mr oven after plucking and gutting … and then wonder how we could get a bambi into the garage =)

Really - I sympathize, we had a barn possum for about 4 years and it actually kept the smaller rodent population down and existed nicely with the various cats on the farm. I would get really miffed at something more destructive than a small nest under the bottom level stairs.