# Mild Pitting - posters asking for advice and then ignoring it **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [November 27, 2008, 8:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mild-pitting-posters-asking-for-advice-and-then-ignoring-it/474735 "2008-11-27T20:10:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Sapo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ec9cab/32.png) [@Sapo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sapo)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2008, 10:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mild-pitting-posters-asking-for-advice-and-then-ignoring-it/474735/81 "2008-11-30T10:13:25Z")
> [@Chimera](#): > > Some people are just stupid, and you can’t fix stupid. Mallets, it can be done with very large mallets. ---
**Author:** ![wring](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/838e76/32.png) [@wring](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wring)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2008, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mild-pitting-posters-asking-for-advice-and-then-ignoring-it/474735/82 "2008-11-30T15:29:09Z")
> [@Sapo](#): > > Mallets, it can be done with very large mallets. Trial & error- mullets didn’t work ---
**Author:** ![criminey.jicket](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@criminey.jicket](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/criminey.jicket)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2008, 3:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mild-pitting-posters-asking-for-advice-and-then-ignoring-it/474735/83 "2008-11-30T15:50:04Z")
> [@Sapo](#): > > Mallets, it can be done with very large mallets. Sort of like Whack a Troll? ---
**Author:** ![Heffalump\_and\_Roo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/heffalump_and_roo/32/7691_2.png) [@Heffalump\_and\_Roo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Heffalump_and_Roo)\ **Post date:** [December 2, 2008, 6:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mild-pitting-posters-asking-for-advice-and-then-ignoring-it/474735/84 "2008-12-02T06:43:27Z")
And now the same guy has this little gem going on in IMHO: [How can I soothe and prevent my coin slot irritation?](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=495554) So many potential jokes. So inappropriate. So unfair. :mad: ---
**Author:** ![Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hazle_Weatherfield)\ **Post date:** [December 2, 2008, 6:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mild-pitting-posters-asking-for-advice-and-then-ignoring-it/474735/85 "2008-12-02T06:55:51Z")
Now, I’m either really confused or just stupid. Isn’t “coin slot” a name for girl parts? Is s/he a lesbian? ---
**Author:** ![Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hazle_Weatherfield)\ **Post date:** [December 2, 2008, 9:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mild-pitting-posters-asking-for-advice-and-then-ignoring-it/474735/86 "2008-12-02T09:31:27Z")
I, for one, am sick of Freejooky and have no intentions of reading any more of his/her threads. He’s having too much fun at our expense. Oh, wait…this is the Pit. Die, troll! (Also works auf Deutsch!) ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [December 2, 2008, 2:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mild-pitting-posters-asking-for-advice-and-then-ignoring-it/474735/87 "2008-12-02T14:49:48Z")
> [@AuntiePam](#): > > What bugs me more is the ones where the poster doesn’t return to share what happened. I’m **still** curious about the guy who was gonna tell his friend that his wife was cheating. Me too! ---
**Author:** ![Santo\_Rugger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e95f7d/32.png) [@Santo\_Rugger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Santo_Rugger)\ **Post date:** [December 2, 2008, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mild-pitting-posters-asking-for-advice-and-then-ignoring-it/474735/88 "2008-12-02T15:26:27Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > WTF? I wasn’t commenting on the sincerity-I was making a point that the situations are a HELL of a lot different. You’re right, somebody else was. It doesn’t fucking matter that the situations are different, because the thing being bitched about is people not taking your (and others) advice. My point was that I don’t understand the sentiment of feeling disrespected when somebody doesn’t heed the advice. I just don’t get it. ---
**Author:** ![LavenderBlue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e95f7d/32.png) [@LavenderBlue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LavenderBlue)\ **Post date:** [December 2, 2008, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mild-pitting-posters-asking-for-advice-and-then-ignoring-it/474735/89 "2008-12-02T17:55:58Z")
> [@Klaatu](#): > > Freejooky just wanted to mention Mensa, as if that is some Galactic Badge of Honor. > > “Thank God for Mensa” he said. Dude, you are still a moron. > > :rolleyes: Because nothing says Mensa member like being twenty-seven and dating a sixteen year old. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2008, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mild-pitting-posters-asking-for-advice-and-then-ignoring-it/474735/90 "2008-12-03T03:34:26Z")
> [@Santo\_Rugger](#): > > You’re right, somebody else was. It doesn’t fucking matter that the situations are different, because the thing being bitched about is people not taking your (and others) advice. My point was that I don’t understand the sentiment of feeling disrespected when somebody doesn’t heed the advice. I just don’t get it. Maybe your advice isn’t the premium, high-quality stuff that mine is. ---
**Author:** ![Santo\_Rugger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e95f7d/32.png) [@Santo\_Rugger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Santo_Rugger)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2008, 4:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mild-pitting-posters-asking-for-advice-and-then-ignoring-it/474735/91 "2008-12-03T04:41:40Z")
> [@featherlou](#): > > Maybe your advice isn’t the premium, high-quality stuff that mine is. We can agree on that one. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Sapo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ec9cab/32.png) [@Sapo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sapo)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2008, 9:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mild-pitting-posters-asking-for-advice-and-then-ignoring-it/474735/92 "2008-12-03T09:18:48Z")
> [@LavenderBlue](#): > > Because nothing says Mensa member like being twenty-seven and dating a sixteen year old. in Spanish it does: [**menso,-a** m,f _LAm fam pey_ dummy, jerk](http://www.wordreference.com/es/en/translation.asp?spen=mensa) ---
**Author:** ![Gyrate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gyrate/32/3588_2.png) [@Gyrate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gyrate)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2008, 11:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mild-pitting-posters-asking-for-advice-and-then-ignoring-it/474735/93 "2008-12-03T11:10:30Z")
> [@LavenderBlue](#): > > Because nothing says Mensa member like being twenty-seven and dating a sixteen year old. Intellectually smug? Check. Emotionally insecure? Check. Unable to attract a girl old enough to know better? Check. Sounds like your average male Mensa member to me. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2008, 12:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mild-pitting-posters-asking-for-advice-and-then-ignoring-it/474735/94 "2008-12-03T12:01:30Z")
> [@AuntiePam](#): > > What bugs me more is the ones where the poster doesn’t return to share what happened. I’m **still** curious about the guy who was gonna tell his friend that his wife was cheating. Refresh my memory-got a link? 😕 ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2008, 3:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mild-pitting-posters-asking-for-advice-and-then-ignoring-it/474735/95 "2008-12-03T15:19:20Z")
> [@featherlou](#): > > Maybe your advice isn’t the premium, high-quality stuff that mine is. Does yours do windows? I’ve been searching for advice that does windows. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2008, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mild-pitting-posters-asking-for-advice-and-then-ignoring-it/474735/96 "2008-12-03T19:21:37Z")
My advice does windows, rotates your tires, and has a hot meal waiting for you when you come home. And yet people still spurn it. 😕 ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2008, 8:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mild-pitting-posters-asking-for-advice-and-then-ignoring-it/474735/97 "2008-12-03T20:11:26Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > Refresh my memory-got a link? > > 😕 [Here ya go.](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=466058) ---
**Author:** ![UltraVires](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ecccb3/32.png) [@UltraVires](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UltraVires)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2008, 3:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mild-pitting-posters-asking-for-advice-and-then-ignoring-it/474735/98 "2008-12-05T03:29:26Z")
In case no one has said it already, people ask for “advice” to try to reassure themselves that what they are doing is okay. Obviously, the other OP feels tinge of guilt for dating a 16 year old, so he comes on here hoping to catch something, anything that will ease his mind and convince himself that what he is doing is okay. ---
**Author:** ![saoirse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/5daacb/32.png) [@saoirse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/saoirse)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2008, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mild-pitting-posters-asking-for-advice-and-then-ignoring-it/474735/99 "2008-12-05T16:39:43Z")
> [@jtgain](#): > > In case no one has said it already, people ask for “advice” to try to reassure themselves that what they are doing is okay. > > Obviously, the other OP feels tinge of guilt for dating a 16 year old, so he comes on here hoping to catch something, anything that will ease his mind and convince himself that what he is doing is okay. Alternatively, he could be asking for negative advice that he hadn’t already considered. I would assume that if you were drawing up a list of reasons not to date a 16-year-old, “I could get arrested and sent to jail” would be the first one you thought of. Since all of the “advice” that OP got in his thread basically amounted to that, I would say he had already considered that objection before he started the thread. ---
**Author:** ![wring](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/838e76/32.png) [@wring](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wring)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2008, 10:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mild-pitting-posters-asking-for-advice-and-then-ignoring-it/474735/100 "2008-12-05T22:12:06Z")
> [@saoirse](#): > > Alternatively, he could be asking for negative advice that he hadn’t already considered. I would assume that if you were drawing up a list of reasons not to date a 16-year-old, “I could get arrested and sent to jail” would be the first one you thought of. Since all of the “advice” that OP got in his thread basically amounted to that, I would say he had already considered that objection before he started the thread. Except that I do not think he was aware of all of the possible ways he could get arrested. Most folks (even that guy) seemed to be aware that “having sex with an underaged person can get me into trouble”. However, I suggested he investigate the laws more carefully, cause in my jurisdiction stuff that folks think of as ‘heavy petting but not sex’ can also get them into jail. And, I saw no reason to believe that the guy took that advice, either. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mild-pitting-posters-asking-for-advice-and-then-ignoring-it/474735.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mild-pitting-posters-asking-for-advice-and-then-ignoring-it/474735.md?page=6)