# Misogyny and Moderation, again

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**Created:** [August 10, 2019, 4:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/misogyny-and-moderation-again/838462 "2019-08-10T16:43:29Z")\
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**Author:** ![MandaJo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ac91a4/32.png) [@MandaJo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MandaJo)\
**Post date:** [August 10, 2019, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/misogyny-and-moderation-again/838462/8 "2019-08-10T17:30:31Z")

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> [@Sunny\_Daze](#):
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> I agree that it was good to leave it open. I found the discussion interesting.

What I really would have liked is a mod note on the first post and a warning on the second–though the second might not have happened if their had been a mod note on the first.

But apparently we can’t mod that sort of thing–it’s been discussed to death. Look how careful engineer\_comp\_geek is here not to actually condemn nate’s behavior:

> [@I have a confession to make. When I see an attractive woman, in any context, my concentration shifts](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-confession-to-make-when-i-see-an-attractive-woman-in-any-context-my-concentration-shifts/838395/77):
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> **Moderator Note**
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> Second, while the OP certainly has some issues, I think overall everyone has done very well with this thread. I think the best thing to do under the circumstances is just to let the thread continue. Hopefully **nate** will take the time to carefully read all of the responses, both to understand why his response is not the same as 98% of males out there, and also to understand why many in this thread are finding his post to be so offensive.

See how passive that is? “understand why many in this thread are finding his post to be so offensive”. If I were hosting a party and someone said "Man, I get so distracted by ass. All I can think is “I want to hit that”, I wouldn’t get bogged down by “some may find your remarks offensive”. That’s weasel words. That’s “it’s not my place to say if this is offensive”

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> We really do not want to encourage posts along the lines of “women make me want to have sex”, and we definitely do not want to encourage men’s locker room types of posts where men just talk about who they want to have sex with and why. But if we can have more discussions like this one where people actually explain the issues and try to give some enlightenment and understanding to those who are clearly lacking in it, I think that’s actually a good thing.

Here, again, focusing entirely on whether the issue/topic might be interesting, and nothing about the offensive way it was phrased. No suggestion demeaning descriptions of women and objectifying idioms are a problem at all.

And, again, the topic was fine–though I don’t think the OP wanted to do anything but get off by telling stories about his incredibly masculine response to female bodies. But again and again and again in these threads the topic is all that is evaluated: the phrasing doesn’t even register to the mods.

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