# Misogyny on the SDMB, Sept. 2018 edition

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**Created:** [September 25, 2018, 5:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/misogyny-on-the-sdmb-sept-2018-edition/821899 "2018-09-25T17:45:19Z")\
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**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\
**Post date:** [September 27, 2018, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/misogyny-on-the-sdmb-sept-2018-edition/821899/71 "2018-09-27T18:55:28Z")

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So, Shodan makes a joke that implies that one of Kavanaugh’s alleged victims was attending parties in the hopes that she’d get gang-raped. He draws a warning for it. His response?

> [@Can Democrats actually stop the nomination of Brett Kavanaugh?](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/can-democrats-actually-stop-the-nomination-of-brett-kavanaugh/820733/4139):
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> It’s a fair cop. I withdraw the joke, and apologize to the SDMB.
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> Regards,  
> Shodan

As awful as the original post was, I want to commend Shodan for his response, and draw it to the attention of other posters who have said similarly terrible things.

Notice that when you get called out for saying something gross or terrible, **you don’t need to double down**. You don’t need to defend your misbehavior to the death. You can apologize for it and do better.

With the understanding that Shodan’s gonna do better, I appreciate his response.

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