# Missing person **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 30, 2002, 7:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/missing-person/111511 "2002-05-30T07:25:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![TN\_hippie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/858c86/32.png) [@TN\_hippie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TN_hippie)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2002, 7:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/missing-person/111511/1 "2002-05-30T07:25:17Z")
A friend is missing. What should I do? * * * Peace, TN\*hippie ---
**Author:** ![LolaBaby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d2c977/32.png) [@LolaBaby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LolaBaby)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2002, 7:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/missing-person/111511/2 "2002-05-30T07:30:26Z")
How long have they been missing? ---
**Author:** ![LolaBaby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d2c977/32.png) [@LolaBaby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LolaBaby)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2002, 7:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/missing-person/111511/3 "2002-05-30T07:54:40Z")
I guess you’re not _that_ worried? ---
**Author:** ![Rilchiam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/2bfe46/32.png) [@Rilchiam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rilchiam)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2002, 5:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/missing-person/111511/4 "2002-06-02T05:59:57Z")
Have they turned up yet? Is there another thread with an update? ---
**Author:** ![clayton\_e](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c57346/32.png) [@clayton\_e](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/clayton_e)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2002, 6:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/missing-person/111511/5 "2002-06-02T06:36:51Z")
Have the authorities been notified? ---
**Author:** ![Dieter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/977dab/32.png) [@Dieter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dieter)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2002, 7:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/missing-person/111511/6 "2002-06-02T07:51:49Z")
Did you look under the couch? That’s where I always find stuff. ---
**Author:** ![d12](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/71c47a/32.png) [@d12](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/d12)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2002, 10:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/missing-person/111511/7 "2002-06-02T10:30:31Z")
> [@](#): > > A friend is missing. What should I do? Either hes in the closet, or the monster under the bed got him first ---
**Author:** ![evilbeth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/evilbeth/32/2268_2.png) [@evilbeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/evilbeth)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2002, 1:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/missing-person/111511/8 "2002-06-02T13:42:21Z")
Panic. That’s what I do when something goes wrong. ---
**Author:** ![jazzmine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/5daacb/32.png) [@jazzmine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jazzmine)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2002, 4:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/missing-person/111511/9 "2002-06-02T16:48:05Z")
In general, I’d second **evilbeth** ’s suggestion. That’s what I always do as well. Panicking has the added benefit of making you crazy, making you do stupid, embarrassing things, and making sure that the person you are worried about yells at you. It’s festive. It’s fun. It’s The Way To Be. ---
**Author:** ![Polycarp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/82dd89/32.png) [@Polycarp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Polycarp)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2002, 5:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/missing-person/111511/10 "2002-06-02T17:46:42Z")
“When in danger, or in doubt Run in circles, scream and shout.” Seriously, more detail will elicit more helpful answers. One obvious thing is pray (or however you find it useful to attempt to manipulate the Universe OS for the benefit of the person about whom you’re concerned). ---
**Author:** ![TN\_hippie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/858c86/32.png) [@TN\_hippie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TN_hippie)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2002, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/missing-person/111511/11 "2002-06-02T19:44:11Z")
Sorry to take so long to respond. You’ll notice I posted at 2-something in the morning…I’d forgotten starting this thread. Here’s the weird part. I could have been talking about 2 or 3 different situations. 2 of them worked out…everything’s okay. Judging by the date, I assume I was referring to a restaurant server friend who parks her car in my lot (works 2 blocks from here) and is always off work by midnight and checks in with me to let me know she’s okay and on her way home. That night she never showed, but she was just out partying with a buddy. She still could have called–am I right? Yes I am. No, I didn’t scold her. Just asked that she be more considerate in the future. One friend, sadly, is still missing. My cat. It’s been 2 weeks now (she’s spayed, BTW) and I’ve checked all the local roads (no corpse), put out “missing cat” signs (no response), and, yes, prayed. To be honest, I think she’s probably adopted someone. She’s extremely friendly, adorable as they come, and I think she just let someone pick her up. This is a resort town, so she could be in Canada by now. I miss her, but something tells me she’s okay. Thanks, all, for your concern. * * * Peace, TN\*hippie ---
**Author:** ![bwk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e79b87/32.png) [@bwk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bwk)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2002, 2:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/missing-person/111511/12 "2002-06-03T02:02:07Z")
I’m sorry to hear about your kitty. I hope she is okay. My neighbor’s cat, a neutered male, just disappeared too, so maybe the two of them went to meet up with each other for a little rendezvous. ---
**Author:** ![jackelope](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a6a055/32.png) [@jackelope](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jackelope)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2002, 5:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/missing-person/111511/13 "2002-06-03T05:27:23Z")
Did you check your other pants? (Sorry, couldn’t help it.)