# Mom "rewards" son for good grades. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 19, 2002, 7:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mom-rewards-son-for-good-grades/104565 "2002-04-19T19:12:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Flamsterette\_X](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/41988e/32.png) [@Flamsterette\_X](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Flamsterette_X)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2002, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mom-rewards-son-for-good-grades/104565/21 "2002-04-19T22:22:58Z")
:eek: I don’t care what your cultural norm may be, but that’s just sick stuff! ---
**Author:** ![Slainte](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a698b9/32.png) [@Slainte](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slainte)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2002, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mom-rewards-son-for-good-grades/104565/22 "2002-04-19T23:38:09Z")
I spent a week in Japan about 4 years ago… I was quite surprised to find vending machines at a bus stop that sold “used” panties (still fragrant I presume) and pornographic video tapes. The bookstore in the shopping mall had many books with pictures of young (10 or 12 year old) girls in school uniforms… who happened to be urinating or defecating themselves. I have been told this is quite “erotic” and socially acceptable there. Strangely enough, showing penetration (adults in the photos) in any form was always blacked out in magazines. I don’t mean to insult anyone but I am quite thankful to be from America - - where penetration isn’t bad and kiddie porn is not socially acceptable. ---
**Author:** ![non-native](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/bc8723/32.png) [@non-native](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/non-native)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2002, 11:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mom-rewards-son-for-good-grades/104565/23 "2002-04-19T23:39:45Z")
As an asian (though not Japanese), i would like to say that that kind of thing is _not_ very common in asia. Or at least in Korea, I would hope. As far as my knowledge goes, incest is not accepted in all asian cultures, and definitely not in korean culture. In fact, we even have an ancient law that says that people from the same clan of the same last name can’t marry. Man, i think asians are getting a reputation for being depraved because of those damn japanese and their antics. ---
**Author:** ![Michael\_Ellis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/977dab/32.png) [@Michael\_Ellis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Michael_Ellis)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2002, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mom-rewards-son-for-good-grades/104565/24 "2002-04-20T00:27:58Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by CRorex \* > \*\*All of a sudden I feel much happier with the American education system, how about you guys? 🙂 \*\* Yep. > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by Guinastasia_ > **I don’t care what your culture says-that’s disgusting.** Agreed. ---
**Author:** ![Coldfire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a587f6/32.png) [@Coldfire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coldfire)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2002, 12:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mom-rewards-son-for-good-grades/104565/25 "2002-04-20T00:36:27Z")
Well, if it were _normal_, the Japanese press wouldn’t write about it. So **non-native** , I think it’s a tad early for generalisations. Poor references. Altered names. High gross-out factor. Appeals to the stereotype of “those wacky Japanese and their twisted culture”. Am I the only one who thinks these are classic signs of a hoax? If it’s true, it’s certainly quite disturbing. I’m not convinced jus yet, though. ---
**Author:** ![Tsubaki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/d07c76/32.png) [@Tsubaki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tsubaki)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2002, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mom-rewards-son-for-good-grades/104565/26 "2002-04-20T00:46:23Z")
I don’t know, **Coldfire** …I’ve heard enough stuff to make me think this isn’t a hoax. But its NOT common or normal over here, either. Trust me. (at least in the area where I live, anyway). ---
**Author:** ![China\_Guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/779978/32.png) [@China\_Guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/China_Guy)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2002, 1:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mom-rewards-son-for-good-grades/104565/27 "2002-04-20T01:20:48Z")
You can find other threads on this topic. The Wai Wai column is kinda like what you would expect if Jerry Springer had a column in the National Enquirer. So, take it with a large grain of salt. Would you want to attribute stories on Jerry Springer towards the American population at large? This story gets resurrected every six months or so in Japan. I saw it when I lived in Japan a decade ago. Other Japanese dopers can chime in here. ---
**Author:** ![Turbo\_Dog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ce73a5/32.png) [@Turbo\_Dog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Turbo_Dog)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2002, 1:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mom-rewards-son-for-good-grades/104565/28 "2002-04-20T01:40:07Z")
Wow, and I used to think that my mom sucked for giving me a quarter for each A on my report card. ---
**Author:** ![RobGraham](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/8e8cbc/32.png) [@RobGraham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RobGraham)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2002, 1:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mom-rewards-son-for-good-grades/104565/29 "2002-04-20T01:45:47Z")
Ewwwwwwwwwww! But then again, my mom’s not 28. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2002, 2:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mom-rewards-son-for-good-grades/104565/30 "2002-04-20T02:21:42Z")
I don’t know…I saw something about this on a snopes thread. I’ll try and find the link later, but it just didn’t seem to mesh. I know cultures are different, but this does seem a bit over the top… Wait, let me add the obligatory: Ew ew ew ew ew ew!! _shudder_ ---
**Author:** ![Astroboy14](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/df705f/32.png) [@Astroboy14](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Astroboy14)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2002, 2:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mom-rewards-son-for-good-grades/104565/31 "2002-04-20T02:26:05Z")
Well, just judging from stories I’ve heard from co-workers who have lived in Japan (I have not… ), I can almost believe that the story has at least some factual basis. However, let me assure you that nothing of the sort happens here in Korea! I’m a teacher, and no students’ mother has ever offered me any sexual favors… nor have any students! ☹ **Heavy sigh** Must move to Japan… ---
**Author:** ![BooBoo316](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e0b2c6/32.png) [@BooBoo316](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BooBoo316)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2002, 2:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mom-rewards-son-for-good-grades/104565/32 "2002-04-20T02:45:14Z")
**Zappo** , please pass the Clorox. ---
**Author:** ![non-native](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/bc8723/32.png) [@non-native](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/non-native)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2002, 2:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mom-rewards-son-for-good-grades/104565/33 "2002-04-20T02:55:27Z")
I apologize for my unfair generalization **Coldfire**. You see, like most koreans i have a strong bias against the japanese. Akin to what an irishman might feel for the english. Multiplied by 20. In fact, I’m holding myself back from turning this thread into something pit-worthy, but not about japan’s cultural eccentricities, but about how much i hate them and why. Did I say that out loud? Oops… ---
**Author:** ![Zappo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/b3f665/32.png) [@Zappo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zappo)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2002, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mom-rewards-son-for-good-grades/104565/34 "2002-04-20T03:07:11Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by BooBoo316 \* > \*\ ***Zappo** , please pass the Clorox. \*\* Sorry **BooBoo** , I used it all. Didn’t work yet, though. I’ll get you some when I get more for me. ---
**Author:** ![BooBoo316](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e0b2c6/32.png) [@BooBoo316](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BooBoo316)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2002, 4:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mom-rewards-son-for-good-grades/104565/35 "2002-04-20T04:37:10Z")
No problem, **Zappo**. I found an wire brush and gave the old brains a good scrubbing. Seemed to work, but now I have a strange craving for feta cheese. ---
**Author:** ![Ice\_Wolf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/dfb087/32.png) [@Ice\_Wolf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ice_Wolf)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2002, 5:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mom-rewards-son-for-good-grades/104565/36 "2002-04-20T05:47:08Z")
What I’ve just read [here](http://members.jcom.home.ne.jp/tokyoconfidential/reviews/tc-tribuneasahi.html) about _Tokyo Confidential_ a collection of such tid-bits as that in the OP, leads me to doubt the veracity of the piece, even if it can’t be proved a UL one way or the other: > [@](#): > > And yet consider the extraordinarily tender bond that exists between an “education mama” and her son. He is the receptacle of all her dreams and ambitions – her de facto stake in the world. Is it so unreasonable to think there is nothing she would not do for him? > > In any case, the authors make no claim to the veracity of the original source material. Their intention, rather, is to share with a non-Japanese audience the extraordinary range of subject matter that finds its way into popular discourse. It matters not that the data in many of these magazine articles is unattributed. > > “We don’t judge,” said Mark Schreiber, the book’s editor and long-time Tokyo-based writer and translator. “All we are saying is, read about what you find in these magazines – isn’t it interesting?” “Isn’t it interesting?” Sure, guys, sure … :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![scr4](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/59ef9b/32.png) [@scr4](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scr4)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2002, 7:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mom-rewards-son-for-good-grades/104565/37 "2002-04-20T07:45:09Z")
It’s an article from Japanese _weekly_ magazines. They are the equivalent of American tabloids. I wouldn’t take it seriously. Actually they are still better than sports newspapers, but neither are reliable sources of information. ---
**Author:** ![Tsubaki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/d07c76/32.png) [@Tsubaki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tsubaki)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2002, 7:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mom-rewards-son-for-good-grades/104565/38 "2002-04-20T07:47:23Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by non-native \* > \*\*In fact, I’m holding myself back from turning this thread into something pit-worthy, but not about japan’s cultural eccentricities, but about how much i hate them and why. Did I say that out loud? Oops… \*\* **non-native** , go and open a Pit thread so I can have a go at you. Please. ---
**Author:** ![nightshadea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/7ba0ec/32.png) [@nightshadea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nightshadea)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2002, 9:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mom-rewards-son-for-good-grades/104565/39 "2002-04-20T09:26:08Z")
Actually the version of this ive heard was the mother realized her son was a sex fiend rapiest ect and offered her self to him so he wouldnt abuse others But wiht some of the following headkines : New age women revel in pure adulterous fun Babes add bounce to boring TV education programs Fairy Troop waves magic wand in rural strip club Fresh erotica gets female fingers fiddling Stud school pumps new blood into flaccid stag flicks This is no more than the "fun and wierd " sites where places like yahoo reprints tidbits from the weekly world news ect … ---
**Author:** ![LorieSmurf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/a587f6/32.png) [@LorieSmurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LorieSmurf)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2002, 9:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mom-rewards-son-for-good-grades/104565/40 "2002-04-20T09:33:15Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by slortar \* > \*\*I thought that sort of thing only happened in Oklahoma…!.. \*\* Excuse me? 😛 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mom-rewards-son-for-good-grades/104565.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mom-rewards-son-for-good-grades/104565.md?page=3)