# Mom's "Apology" To Friends Without Kids **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [May 28, 2014, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moms-apology-to-friends-without-kids/689487 "2014-05-28T18:50:27Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![splatterpunk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3be4f8/32.png) [@splatterpunk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/splatterpunk)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2014, 3:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moms-apology-to-friends-without-kids/689487/81 "2014-05-29T03:52:00Z")
> [@Eliahna](#): > > Replace “popular YouTube channel” with “successful home based business”, because that’s what it is. “She’s too busy to socialize but has a successful home based business”. That’s kind of his point. Her video isn’t about being too busy for friends because she has all these videos to shoot, edit and post; it’s about being too busy for friends because “ZOMG, Parenthood!!11!!” Hence the lie. ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2014, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moms-apology-to-friends-without-kids/689487/82 "2014-05-29T03:53:49Z")
> [@Kimstu](#): > > When I visit friends with young children, I DO CHORES. It wouldn’t occur to me to do this (since I would want to throat punch someone who came to my home and started doing chores), but it’s awesome if they like it. > [@eclectic\_wench](#): > > And yes, of course you have a responsibility to maintain your friendships, too - but you didn’t \*create \*your friends. It’s not the same order of responsibility. That’s an excellent point. > [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > Yeah, out of my 48,000 posts, there must be 15, 20 of them that are about kids. I’m the original One Trick Pony. I actually goggled at the screen when I read that. I don’t have kids. I don’t want kids. You post a lot about not having and wanting kids. A lot. A LOT. > [@bump](#): > > Drove my 89 year old grandmother home at 10:00, went back to my parents house, and crashed for about 10 hours of uninterrupted sleep. That’s the kind of thing that excites you when you have babies and toddlers. That’s the kind of thing that has excited me ever since I turned about 12. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2014, 4:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moms-apology-to-friends-without-kids/689487/83 "2014-05-29T04:14:51Z")
> [@splatterpunk](#): > > That’s kind of his point. Her video isn’t about being too busy for friends because she has all these videos to shoot, edit and post; it’s about being too busy for friends because “ZOMG, Parenthood!!11!!” > > Hence the lie. It’s not a lie. It’s a comedic take on the changes parenthood makes to your life. Presumably she had work and friends before she had kids. If she now only has time for work and kids, that’s because of the kids, not the work. ---
**Author:** ![keturah](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e95f7d/32.png) [@keturah](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/keturah)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2014, 4:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moms-apology-to-friends-without-kids/689487/84 "2014-05-29T04:18:10Z")
> [@splatterpunk](#): > > That’s kind of his point. Her video isn’t about being too busy for friends because she has all these videos to shoot, edit and post; it’s about being too busy for friends because “ZOMG, Parenthood!!11!!” > > Hence the lie. Yes dear, the video is not real life. You caught her!! No wonder this place is known for the smartest people on the internet. ---
**Author:** ![monstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba9def/32.png) [@monstro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monstro)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2014, 4:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moms-apology-to-friends-without-kids/689487/85 "2014-05-29T04:33:57Z")
> [@IvoryTowerDenizen](#): > > This is the same complaint that single people sometimes have about their friends who get married. All of a sudden the couple has no time for their single friends. I think it’s a stage of life/place in life thing. It’s sometimes hard to make the new situation fit with the old. I wouldn’t expect friends who have married or had children to stay the same. It would be nice if they stayed the same, but I wouldn’t expect it. That’s not to say I want to hear about how evolved they are or how blessed they feel or how sad they think my life is, for not knowing the pleasures they know. Just because your life has changed doesn’t give you a pass on relating to people like you’re halfway normal. But I just don’t understand what the whole debate is. Shouldn’t one try to make friends with people you have a lot in common with? Seems to me if someone knows they aren’t on the mommy track, they’ll try to make friends with other people who are the same way. (Though I guess friendships just kind of happen sometimes.) ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2014, 4:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moms-apology-to-friends-without-kids/689487/86 "2014-05-29T04:57:43Z")
> [@Skara\_Brae](#): > > She brings to mind [these parents.](http://www.stfuparentsblog.com/post/85957232952/moms-dads-parentsplain-it-all) More examples [here.](http://www.mommyish.com/2014/05/15/stfu-parents-explaining-parenthood/) That was awesome, and exactly the kind of thing that’s going on in the video, in my opinion. ---
**Author:** ![keturah](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e95f7d/32.png) [@keturah](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/keturah)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2014, 5:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moms-apology-to-friends-without-kids/689487/87 "2014-05-29T05:07:52Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > That was awesome, and exactly the kind of thing that’s going on in the video, in my opinion. I find it interesting that you condemn parents who are focused on their kids in one breath and alternately condemn those who do not pay enough attention to them in another. Aside from never having kids, what would you have parents do? ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2014, 5:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moms-apology-to-friends-without-kids/689487/88 "2014-05-29T05:08:19Z")
> [@keturah](#): > > I actually think is has rather more to do with whether you think that this video is really her true feelings vs a an attempt at being funny. You think it is real, while I believe it is a parody with some truth embedded. There is no one side or other, just a difference in perception. Again, this is not an actual apology to her friends…it is a side business for her, trying to be funny about parenthood and getting a few views. so, basically, i’m supposed to ignore the actual content of the video and assume she is the opposite of the way she claims to be. ---
**Author:** ![keturah](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e95f7d/32.png) [@keturah](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/keturah)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2014, 5:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moms-apology-to-friends-without-kids/689487/89 "2014-05-29T05:21:48Z")
> [@Robert163](#): > > so, basically, i’m supposed to ignore the actual content of the video and assume she is the opposite of the way she claims to be. Are you really this dense? I expect that you believe that you too can have abs like a god if you just eat this or that supplement. Jesus. She is marketing a slightly funny blog. This is not real life for her or her friends I feel like I am in a room of autistic, deliberately obtuse people who are looking for some outrage here. The answer to your question is yes. Yes, she is not the person in the video that she is portraying. It is a parody. Somewhat grounded in the truth, but a parody. ---
**Author:** ![WolfpackJeep](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wolfpackjeep/32/2921_2.png) [@WolfpackJeep](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WolfpackJeep)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2014, 5:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moms-apology-to-friends-without-kids/689487/90 "2014-05-29T05:24:28Z")
I think the video was meant to be funny…that being said, I found it to be rather annoying. “Look at meeeeee, I reproduced! Twice! OMG sooooooo busy!!!” I wouldn’t be offended at all if such a person didn’t have time for me anymore. I also didn’t see what was so wrong with the toddler eating the cheese off the floor…that house was spotless. That being said, I bet her car smells worse than the one in that Subaru commercial. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2014, 5:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moms-apology-to-friends-without-kids/689487/91 "2014-05-29T05:31:28Z")
> [@keturah](#): > > Are you really this dense? I expect that you believe that you too can have abs like a god if you just eat this or that supplement. Jesus. She is marketing a slightly funny blog. This is not real life for her or her friends I feel like I am in a room of autistic, deliberately obtuse people who are looking for some outrage here. > > The answer to your question is yes. Yes, she is not the person in the video that she is portraying. It is a parody. Somewhat grounded in the truth, but a parody. you should make up your mind is it grounded in truth or is it a parody ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2014, 5:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moms-apology-to-friends-without-kids/689487/92 "2014-05-29T05:31:28Z")
> [@keturah](#): > > I find it interesting that you condemn parents who are focused on their kids in one breath and alternately condemn those who do not pay enough attention to them in another. Aside from never having kids, what would you have parents do? Not be such entitled martyrs for doing something people have been doing since the first single-celled organism split? ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2014, 5:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moms-apology-to-friends-without-kids/689487/93 "2014-05-29T05:47:22Z")
Oh for fuck’s sakes. She’s got a whole fucken’ SERIES of funny vids. Yes, it was contrived and scripted, yes it was a lighthearted attempt to portray the reality of living with kids and how they screw with your social life. Some of you really need to get those sticks out of your arses. Taking offense to a flippant little video shows your misanthropic colours shining through. ---
**Author:** ![Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/13edae/32.png) [@Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stranger_On_A_Train)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2014, 5:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moms-apology-to-friends-without-kids/689487/94 "2014-05-29T05:48:00Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > Not be such entitled martyrs for doing something people have been doing since the first single-celled organism split? Pot, meet kettle. Kettle…boil. > [@kambuckta](#): > > Taking offense to a flippant little video shows your misanthropic colours shining through. Nah, that’s a totally concocted and artificial misanthropy. A true misanthrope–and I speak from first hand experience–hates humanity as a whole regardless of reproductive status. Stranger ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2014, 5:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moms-apology-to-friends-without-kids/689487/95 "2014-05-29T05:49:38Z")
> [@kambuckta](#): > > Oh for fuck’s sakes. She’s got a whole fucken’ SERIES of funny vids. Yes, it was contrived and scripted, yes it was a lighthearted attempt to portray the reality of living with kids and how they screw with your social life. > > Some of you really need to get those sticks out of your arses. Taking offense to a flippant little video shows your misanthropic colours shining through. believe it or not what bothers me is not saying i’m too busy to have friends because i have kids, fine, ok, believe that, but the truth of the matter is if she wasn’t making such elaborate videos she WOULD have time to have friends. ---
**Author:** ![all\_timestamps\_displayed](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/958977/32.png) [@all\_timestamps\_displayed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/all_timestamps_displayed)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2014, 5:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moms-apology-to-friends-without-kids/689487/96 "2014-05-29T05:53:20Z")
You say potato. I say potahto. You say Mommy Blogger. I say attention whore. Potato. Potahto. Mommy blogger. Attention whore. Let’s call the whole thing off. ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2014, 5:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moms-apology-to-friends-without-kids/689487/97 "2014-05-29T05:55:23Z")
> [@all\_timestamps\_displayed](#): > > You say potato. > I say potahto. > You say Mommy Blogger. > I say attention whore. > > Potato. > Potahto. > Mommy blogger. > Attention whore. > > Let’s call the whole thing off. no ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2014, 6:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moms-apology-to-friends-without-kids/689487/98 "2014-05-29T06:00:34Z")
> [@keturah](#): > > I find it interesting that you condemn parents who are focused on their kids in one breath and alternately condemn those who do not pay enough attention to them in another. Aside from never having kids, what would you have parents do? There’s this little thing called balance. ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2014, 6:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moms-apology-to-friends-without-kids/689487/99 "2014-05-29T06:02:16Z")
> [@Antinor01](#): > > There’s this little thing called balance. well, as someone else pointed out, if you have one night a month with no parental responsibilities, who are you going to spend it with, friends, or your spouse? ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2014, 6:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moms-apology-to-friends-without-kids/689487/100 "2014-05-29T06:02:49Z")
> [@Robert163](#): > > believe it or not what bothers me is not saying i’m too busy to have friends because i have kids, fine, ok, believe that, but the truth of the matter is if she wasn’t making such elaborate videos she WOULD have time to have friends. Are you always this dumb? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moms-apology-to-friends-without-kids/689487.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moms-apology-to-friends-without-kids/689487.md?page=6)