# Moral dilemma: Family versus fun **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 21, 2009, 3:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moral-dilemma-family-versus-fun/497172 "2009-05-21T15:03:32Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![DaphneBlack](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/daphneblack/32/5389_2.png) [@DaphneBlack](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DaphneBlack)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2009, 11:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moral-dilemma-family-versus-fun/497172/21 "2009-05-21T23:12:55Z")
Finally, a reason to actually _go_ to Milton Keynes is discovered (Collectormania, not Cows). I say, she changed the plans, neither 2 nor 3 would be rude in my book. ---
**Author:** ![SmellMyWort](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea5d25/32.png) [@SmellMyWort](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SmellMyWort)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2009, 4:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moral-dilemma-family-versus-fun/497172/22 "2009-05-22T16:27:08Z")
People keep pointing out that the Aunt changed the plans so no biggie if the OP ditches her, but keep in mind that Auntie is coming from _ **half way around the freaking world** _. Maybe a flight got changed or something else completely out of her control. I would at least commit to spending time together on Saturday and offer for them to accompany you to the convention. I comletely agree with billfish678 andI find it annoying when people assume things without asking. If I’m traveling I’m always open to things outside my normal range of interests, especially if it’s an interest of someone who is gracious enough to host me. ---
**Author:** ![lavenderviolet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/cdc98d/32.png) [@lavenderviolet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lavenderviolet)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2009, 12:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moral-dilemma-family-versus-fun/497172/23 "2009-05-23T00:52:27Z")
> [@Quartz](#): > > I think a key point here is that the aunt is elderly. As such, I think the possibility of the OP never seeing her again needs to be considered. Good point. Personally, I’d at least offer to let her come along to the sci-fi convention because I’d feel really guilty if I didn’t spend as much time as I could have with her and then she died soon after. ---
**Author:** ![Shalmanese](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shalmanese](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shalmanese)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2009, 5:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moral-dilemma-family-versus-fun/497172/24 "2009-05-24T05:07:25Z")
Even if I don’t enjoy something, I usually love going with my friends to something they enjoy because it’s fun seeing someone obviously indulging in one of their passions. I wouldn’t be so sure your aunt wouldn’t want to go. Why not ask her offhand as if her saying no is no big deal. ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2009, 5:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moral-dilemma-family-versus-fun/497172/25 "2009-05-24T05:49:35Z")
Fun ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2009, 11:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moral-dilemma-family-versus-fun/497172/26 "2009-05-24T11:58:50Z")
> [@lavenderviolet](#): > > Good point. Personally, I’d at least offer to let her come along to the sci-fi convention because I’d feel really guilty if I didn’t spend as much time as I could have with her and then she died soon after. yeah, but think how bad you’d feel if she got assimilated by the Borg ! then again, all those Borg parts would probably extend her life expectancy… ---
**Author:** ![AK84](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85e7bf/32.png) [@AK84](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AK84)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2009, 8:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moral-dilemma-family-versus-fun/497172/27 "2009-05-24T20:03:56Z")
So what did you actually do? And how was old Nimroy, tell him the old Spock sucked! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/moral-dilemma-family-versus-fun/497172.md?page=1)