# More bad news **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 24, 2000, 8:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/more-bad-news/23394 "2000-06-24T08:27:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![DRY](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a87d85/32.png) [@DRY](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DRY)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2000, 8:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/more-bad-news/23394/1 "2000-06-24T08:27:53Z")
It just kills me to have to post this, but Tatertot (a.k.a. Tracy) has asked me to tell you that she had a miscarriage last night. There is no Shakespearean quote I can offer, no proverb, saying, or song lyric that can obviate the pain she and her husband are feeling right now, nor the sorrow that posting these words will cause among the kind hearts who frequent this message board. Is there anything sadder than a baby who never got it’s chance to enrich, and be enriched, by this world? I would be remiss if I did not pass along Tracy’s heartfelt gratitude for your kind concerns. In her own words: “Please, please let everybody know how much their thoughts and prayers have meant to me. I know that we lost the baby, but knowing that so many people were there for us gave me the strength to make it through these terrible days.” She has been through so much, and she has to be strong for her five year old son, whose birthday is in a week. Please remember Tracy and her dear family in your thoughts and prayers. ---
**Author:** ![pepperlandgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f17d59/32.png) [@pepperlandgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pepperlandgirl)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2000, 8:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/more-bad-news/23394/2 "2000-06-24T08:32:13Z")
God, that’s so sad. I wish I could say something to ease her pain. Her family will be in prayers. ---
**Author:** ![bunnymom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c4cdca/32.png) [@bunnymom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bunnymom)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2000, 9:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/more-bad-news/23394/3 "2000-06-24T09:13:08Z")
{{{{{{tater}}}}}} I’m so sorry.You all are in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![ChrisCTP](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e36b37/32.png) [@ChrisCTP](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ChrisCTP)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2000, 9:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/more-bad-news/23394/4 "2000-06-24T09:14:04Z")
Thank you for letting us know, DRY. I’m searching for words to comfort you, Tracy, but I’m coming up empty. Please know that you are in my thoughts and my heart tonight. ---
**Author:** ![SSgtBaloo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ac91a4/32.png) [@SSgtBaloo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SSgtBaloo)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2000, 9:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/more-bad-news/23394/5 "2000-06-24T09:20:04Z")
Dear Tatertot: I can only imagine the grief you are experiencing. Please accept my heartfelt condolences. Everyone else: I’m sure everyone knows enough not to say things like “you can always adopt” or “you can always try again later”. The fact is, Tatertot and her family are grieving the baby that did not arrive, the little boy or girl they never got to know. This was not some interchangeable thing that can easily be replaced, but a little person that was coming, that they were anticipating the arrival of, and who they will now never meet. A few of my friends have gone through just such a tragedy. It’s as bad as losing a baby because it _is_ losing a baby, just one that hadn’t gotten out of the womb yet. There is much to grieve, including every anticipated hope and joy that now can not be. ~~Baloo ---
**Author:** ![realidad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/8baadc/32.png) [@realidad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/realidad)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2000, 10:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/more-bad-news/23394/6 "2000-06-24T10:00:59Z")
Tatertot I don’t know what to say except - I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers for you. ---
**Author:** ![MysterEcks](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f475e1/32.png) [@MysterEcks](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MysterEcks)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2000, 10:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/more-bad-news/23394/7 "2000-06-24T10:05:25Z")
I’m so very sorry, Tatertot. A few years ago my now-ex-wife miscarried, so I know how much it hurts. You and your family have my deepest sympathy. ---
**Author:** ![Commander\_Fortune](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Commander\_Fortune](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Commander_Fortune)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2000, 11:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/more-bad-news/23394/8 "2000-06-24T11:02:39Z")
…sorry… ---
**Author:** ![ultress](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/7c8e57/32.png) [@ultress](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ultress)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2000, 11:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/more-bad-news/23394/9 "2000-06-24T11:31:24Z")
I’m so sorry Tatortot. My deepest sympathies. ---
**Author:** ![Wicked\_Blue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/2acd7d/32.png) [@Wicked\_Blue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wicked_Blue)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2000, 12:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/more-bad-news/23394/10 "2000-06-24T12:02:10Z")
Tatertot, I am so sorry. I don’t now what else to say. If you ever need to talk, just email me. I’ve been where you are, and I know how much it hurts. Rose ---
**Author:** ![Rilchiam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/2bfe46/32.png) [@Rilchiam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rilchiam)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2000, 12:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/more-bad-news/23394/11 "2000-06-24T12:13:52Z")
Tatertot, I am so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Sealemon88](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c68b51/32.png) [@Sealemon88](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sealemon88)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2000, 12:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/more-bad-news/23394/12 "2000-06-24T12:20:59Z")
I can’t even begin to imagine the pain you’re going through, tatertot. I am so sorry. You’re in my thoughts. _Please_ email me if you want to talk. ---
**Author:** ![DAVEW0071](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e19b73/32.png) [@DAVEW0071](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DAVEW0071)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2000, 12:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/more-bad-news/23394/13 "2000-06-24T12:25:01Z")
This is so sad. Tater, you and your family are being prayed for. There are no other words that can be offered. I am so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![kellibelli](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e480ec/32.png) [@kellibelli](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kellibelli)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2000, 12:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/more-bad-news/23394/14 "2000-06-24T12:29:22Z")
Oh Tatertot! I am sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Nika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ba9def/32.png) [@Nika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nika)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2000, 1:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/more-bad-news/23394/15 "2000-06-24T13:35:14Z")
I am so sorry for your loss. Look after your family and let them be strong for you. ---
**Author:** ![Medea\_s\_Child](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Medea\_s\_Child](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Medea_s_Child)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2000, 1:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/more-bad-news/23394/16 "2000-06-24T13:47:45Z")
Oh Tracy. Hugs is about all I can offer. This is not a lost opportunity to love. Your strength and compassion as a mother and cohesiveness as a family are unassailed. We all know that a caring, motherly nature cannot be taken away. That the love you share enriches the world. Please know that the rest of us appreciate that. So sorry about your pain. ---
**Author:** ![GuanoLad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guanolad/32/42_2.png) [@GuanoLad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuanoLad)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2000, 1:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/more-bad-news/23394/17 "2000-06-24T13:58:27Z")
My sister has had three miscarriages, but those were in between two successful births. So in that sense there is hope in amongst the loss. I’m sure you’ll recover from this sad situation soon… _hugs_ ---
**Author:** ![Minxsmom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d07c76/32.png) [@Minxsmom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Minxsmom)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2000, 2:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/more-bad-news/23394/18 "2000-06-24T14:00:56Z")
**tatertot** , although “I am sorry” just doesn’t seem to cover it, I seem to be at a loss for any other words right now. My condolences to you and your family. {{{{tatertot}}}} ---
**Author:** ![omni-not](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8dc957/32.png) [@omni-not](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/omni-not)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2000, 2:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/more-bad-news/23394/19 "2000-06-24T14:19:10Z")
Nothing much to say in such circumstances, except that you know you can count on your “second family” to help you get through this. ---
**Author:** ![Sue\_Duhnym](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/91b2a8/32.png) [@Sue\_Duhnym](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sue_Duhnym)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2000, 2:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/more-bad-news/23394/20 "2000-06-24T14:21:00Z")
Sorry for your loss Tracy. {{{{tatertot}}}} [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/more-bad-news/23394.md?page=2)