# Most arrogant dating profile **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 8, 2022, 4:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499 "2022-04-08T04:34:46Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![squeegee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/squeegee/32/14537_2.png) [@squeegee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/squeegee)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 5:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/41 "2022-04-08T17:56:17Z")
> [@hajario](#): > > I should add that a lot of my “dating” is pretty casual which isn’t what many of you are seeking. I think that’s a difference here. I’ve dated a bunch, to the point like you that I can’t even keep up with the interested ladies, but it almost never seems to go anywhere which is frustrating. Sure, I’ve had my share of kisses, gotten laid sometimes. Made some friends. All good. But I’m looking for a relationship. You sound fine with never getting that. You do you. ---
**Author:** ![Mallard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b9bd4f/32.png) [@Mallard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mallard)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/42 "2022-04-08T17:59:27Z")
> [@squeegee](#): > > I’m a man and I’ve seen dating profiles like “Don’t contact me if your title isn’t Doctor or Lawyer”. Wow, okay, and cool you’re out front with that. > > This one caught me: > > I grew up on the central coast in a large close-knit family. I’m looking for someone that adores me and my daughter. Please don’t contact me if you are unemployed because you will be wasting yours and my time. **Don’t try fooling yourself and me if you have kids and an ex.** […]I’d like to find someone down to earth, but with energy and motivation to grow professionally in his personal life. Professionally, emotionally and FINANCIALLY STABLE is an absolute must. > > So cool, she’s looking for a wealthy man, I get it. But she’s 55 and requires a man who has _never dated or had kids_? I have learned in my professional life (now retired) working with people and giving advice, generally speaking women (usually the younger ones) have a bigger problem accepting a man’s children from former relationships than men do accepting women’s children. That’s why you’ll see such demanding profiles from time to time. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 6:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/43 "2022-04-08T18:04:06Z")
I’d love a relationship but I’m fine screwing around a lot until then. I don’t think we’re that far off. ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 6:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/44 "2022-04-08T18:22:21Z")
> [@hajario](#): > > I’m not ripped but I’m tall and thin and don’t have a beer gut. I own a home in Santa Barbara and retired comfortably at 56. I’ve already strayed too far into being a braggart but there are times that I can’t keep up. I am not conventionally attractive. I look like an aging hippie, young for my age but not excessively so. So if I get rich and lose 15 pounds in the next four months, I’m in with a chance. Good to know. ---
**Author:** ![squeegee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/squeegee/32/14537_2.png) [@squeegee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/squeegee)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/45 "2022-04-08T18:44:33Z")
> [@pulykamell](#): > > Amen! At least they’re quite upfront about what kind of person they are and you can select them out of your potential dating pool. Better to know right away than find out. Like, seriously, how is this working for them? That type of profile was prevalent enough in the mid-2000s when I was dating that my own profile was just a complete piss-take of it, with unrealistic expectations (but obviously sarcastic to the keen reader) and it worked a treat for self-selecting the type of people who I would get along with well, because they caught my humor and had the same attitude towards those obnoxiously self-centered types of profiles. Ooh, I’m curious now! Write me a man’s version of that profile please! With the subtle cues you’re describing of course. ---
**Author:** ![squeegee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/squeegee/32/14537_2.png) [@squeegee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/squeegee)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/46 "2022-04-08T18:46:46Z")
> [@hajario](#): > > I don’t think we’re that far off. I think we are. You’re having “the time of my life”. I find it an incredible grind, wading through all the bullshit and nonsense. “I’m a free spirit” = I’m a lush. “I’m looking for my partner” = I’m really not looking for anyone, buy me dinner. “I practice mindfullness” = I read that on Facebook, makes me sound cool. You get the drill. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/47 "2022-04-08T18:51:53Z")
> [@JohnT](#): > > > [@squeegee](#): > > > > Don’t try fooling yourself and me if you have kids and an ex⁢ > > I date quite a bit and istm that she is just asking for honesty - don’t lie to me about your past.⁢ I guess she could mean that, but it seems to involve a whole lot of assumptions to come to that conclusion. She picked this specific issue to bring up, and didn’t give any indication it was just an example of something bigger. Plus it’s immediately preceded by a dealbreaker. And she uses the same sort of language: one about not wasting each others’ time, and then about not fooling each other. I would interpret it to mean that she doesn’t want someone who still has an ex and kids with that ex who both still factor heavily into that person’s life. Just like with being unemployed, she’s saying you’d be wasting your time and fooling yourself if you contact her in that situation. I don’t think that’s entirely unreasonable, either. ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/48 "2022-04-08T18:54:24Z")
? I wouldn’t interpret. I would just ask. So, so, much easier. ---
**Author:** ![squeegee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/squeegee/32/14537_2.png) [@squeegee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/squeegee)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/49 "2022-04-08T18:58:25Z")
> [@JohnT](#): > > I wouldn’t interpret. I would just ask. So, so, much easier I did, nicely. "Hi, I’m Squeegee! I’m \ and would love to know more about you! I’m curious about what you said, is it okay that I have a grown son and have been divorced? Let’s chat, I’d love to hear about you. 🙂 " That’s paraphrasing, I was more polite and I think elided the divorced/kid think a bit better, but put myself out there: this is me, I think we might click, what do you think? I’m expecting \ but who knows? ---
**Author:** ![Ranch\_Dip](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ranch_dip/32/5238_2.png) [@Ranch\_Dip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ranch_Dip)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/50 "2022-04-08T18:58:53Z")
The whole purpose of dating, IMO, is to weed out the ones that are not compatible. If this is not compatible with what you are looking for, move on. The person did you a favor but moving out of consideration. Taking it personally is weird. ---
**Author:** ![squeegee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/squeegee/32/14537_2.png) [@squeegee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/squeegee)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 7:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/51 "2022-04-08T19:02:00Z")
> [@Ranch\_Dip](#): > > Taking it personally is weird. Totally not taking it personally! I mean, totally cool, you do you, Anonymous Dating Profile Lady! It was just quite startling to me to specify no exes, no kids, _when someone is 55_. That’s it. ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/52 "2022-04-08T19:07:07Z")
But she didn’t say that. She specified _no fooling if_, i.e., ‘don’t lie about’. ---
**Author:** ![squeegee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/squeegee/32/14537_2.png) [@squeegee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/squeegee)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 7:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/53 "2022-04-08T19:09:49Z")
> [@JohnT](#): > > But she didn’t say that. > > She specified _no fooling if_ , i.e., ‘don’t lie about’. That’s fair I guess. As before, I can’t imagine why someone would lie about that. Hell, it’s the #1 starter conversation on a first date for 50-somethings: tell me about your kids, how long have you been divorced? So just what has this woman been through that she’d suspect someone of hiding an ex and kids? ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 7:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/54 "2022-04-08T19:10:34Z")
> [@squeegee](#): > > You get the drill. Lol. Spot on. ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 7:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/55 "2022-04-08T19:10:51Z")
… I mean. Men are shits. It’s not that hard to figure out why this would deserve emphasis. ---
**Author:** ![squeegee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/squeegee/32/14537_2.png) [@squeegee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/squeegee)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/56 "2022-04-08T19:21:43Z")
> [@JohnT](#): > > It’s not that hard to figure out why this would deserve emphasis. Okay, 'splain to me an example. I’m genuinely curious, not trying to knock down a strawman or anything. A previous relationship where this lady’s date did… what exactly? Thanks. ---
**Author:** ![suranyi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e36b37/32.png) [@suranyi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/suranyi)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 7:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/57 "2022-04-08T19:25:03Z")
> [@squeegee](#): > > I guess my confusion is: at 55, most people’s kids are grown and out of the house. Irrelevant. You never know. I’m 59 years old and I have a son in 6th grade. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 7:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/58 "2022-04-08T19:28:07Z")
> [@squeegee](#): > > “I practice mindfullness” = I read that on Facebook, makes me sound cool. This is my bread and butter. Those young yoga girls love older hippie daddies. I really need to stay away from them because it’s always a fiasco but everyone has their kryptonite. I regret nothing. ---
**Author:** ![Madam\_Librarian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/madam_librarian/32/3123_2.png) [@Madam\_Librarian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Madam_Librarian)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/59 "2022-04-08T19:33:23Z")
I don’t interpret her words as gold-digging. She’s a woman who wants to find a man on par with her and not some lazy, immature man who thinks she’s going to be _his_ meal ticket. That is, “we should be at the same place at this age as far as our profession, maturity, and finances [set aside for eventual retirement.] Don’t think I’m going to support you if most of your income has gone toward alimony and child support.” I’m an older woman who’s financially stable and I’m not interested in men who aren’t. ---
**Author:** ![Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/13edae/32.png) [@Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stranger_On_A_Train)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/60 "2022-04-08T19:33:40Z")
> [@naita](#): > > Also, she could be a computer programmer so using the strict boolean logic **and**. Then kids **xor** ex-wife, or neither, would be acceptable. I’m starting to like the cut of this man’s gibberish! > [@Ike\_Witt](#): > > If I find someone who meets those criteria, I’ll be sure to order the unicorn steak on our date. Just don’t be vulgar and order it well-done. If you’re going to dine on unicorn, nothing more than medium rare is acceptable. Stranger [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499.md?page=4)