# Most arrogant dating profile **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 8, 2022, 4:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499 "2022-04-08T04:34:46Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 7:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/61 "2022-04-08T19:35:11Z")
> [@squeegee](#): > > Ooh, I’m curious now! Write me a man’s version of that profile please! With the subtle cues you’re describing of course. Can’t for the life of me remember it, but the jist was that I was a lying, cheating scumbag looking for a socialite with perfect breasts who would tolerate my infidelities and stuff like that. Then I parodied some other [Match.com](http://Match.com) cliches (like the ol’ profile photo with an ex strategically cropped out) and ended with a couple sincere sentences (for those who made it that far.) This was like 15 years ago. The headline was equally non-standard. I figured, might as well stand out in some way in a sea of sameness. I’d probably cringe a bit if I saw it now, but it worked. Met some very pleasant, equally cynical, and fun women that way that were great personality matches. One is my wife, and two are still Facebook friends. It drew the attention of exactly the kind of person I would get along with. ---
**Author:** ![squeegee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/squeegee/32/14537_2.png) [@squeegee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/squeegee)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 7:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/62 "2022-04-08T19:38:29Z")
> [@Madam\_Librarian](#): > > alimony and child support A good point, and this seems key to me. Maybe that’s what she was referring to, someone with major financial encumbrances. It really doesn’t make sense otherwise. Two other times she references stable finances, perhaps this is the third. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/63 "2022-04-08T20:02:37Z")
From my perspective, as a woman who has had to give financial support to every boyfriend, brother, and cousin (and still does!)… asking for a potential partner to be financially stable and solidly professional is not gold digging. It’s not even asking to be taken care of. It’s asking to have a relationship free from someone else’s financial worry. I pay my own bills and take care of my own finances, and live child free. If I tell you I’m looking for a partner who lives the same way, does that make me arrogant? Granted, she did say she had a child but was looking for someone without a child but as others have said the grammar doesn’t really help specify whether she means “without kids” or rather “without a messy family situation.” If she’s in her 50s she has probably given it a go with guys who have messy divorce situations, or who are underemployed, or became unemployed while they were together. She’s over it. ---
**Author:** ![squeegee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/squeegee/32/14537_2.png) [@squeegee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/squeegee)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 8:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/64 "2022-04-08T20:31:55Z")
> [@ZipperJJ](#): > > as a woman who has had to give financial support to every boyfriend Maybe I just have good boundaries, but I can’t imagine financially supporting someone I’m not married to (and I’ve been married before for 25 years). I’ve had friends I’ve given money to expecting no return, but I knew them damned well and their need was pretty dire and it was exceptional circumstances. But I can’t imagine doing that in a relationship or the relationship wouldn’t go much further. I’d separate this from a living-together situation, maybe you’re the breadwinner and they provide services (cleaning, whatever) in lieu. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 8:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/65 "2022-04-08T20:37:31Z")
> [@squeegee](#): > > Maybe I just have good boundaries, but I can’t imagine financially supporting someone I’m not married to (and I’ve been married before for 25 years). I’ve had friends I’ve given money to expecting no return, but I knew them damned well and their need was pretty dire and it was exceptional circumstances. But I can’t imagine doing that in a relationship or the relationship wouldn’t go much further. Welp, people are different. ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/66 "2022-04-08T21:01:54Z")
> [@squeegee](#): > > Okay, 'splain to me an example. I’m genuinely curious, not trying to knock down a strawman or anything. A previous relationship where this lady’s date did… what exactly? Lied to her about his past. This isn’t difficult! Lots of men do this! ---
**Author:** ![squeegee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/squeegee/32/14537_2.png) [@squeegee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/squeegee)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 9:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/67 "2022-04-08T21:05:02Z")
> [@JohnT](#): > > Lied to her about his past. This isn’t difficult! Lots of men do this! Okay. Perhaps I lack imagination. Perhaps I don’t lie about myself to dates. I mean, disclosure has levels, I don’t disclose everything about myself at once but an ex wife and kids seems crazy to lie about. 😕 ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 9:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/68 "2022-04-08T21:08:03Z")
You seriously need to talk to women about men. Might learn some things. ---
**Author:** ![squeegee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/squeegee/32/14537_2.png) [@squeegee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/squeegee)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 9:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/69 "2022-04-08T21:08:55Z")
I do talk to women about men. Most of my friends are women close to my age (59). ---
**Author:** ![Crafter\_Man](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crafter_man/32/458_2.png) [@Crafter\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crafter_Man)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 9:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/70 "2022-04-08T21:21:08Z")
> [@Robot\_Arm](#): > > So if I get rich and lose 15 pounds in the next four months, I’m in with a chance. Good to know. He also recommends being tall. So you should work on that, too. ---
**Author:** ![Madam\_Librarian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/madam_librarian/32/3123_2.png) [@Madam\_Librarian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Madam_Librarian)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/71 "2022-04-08T21:56:17Z")
I was once told by a man with whom I become serious that, in terms of sharing expenses, he didn’t have any disposable income (after paying his monthly debts). In trying to figure out how shared living expenses, travel, etc. might be equitable, I was told that I should think of him as one would “adopting a puppy,” that is, “I’m cute, loveable, loyal, and protective.” In other words, his income would take care of him and my [retirement] income would pay for **us**. No thanks! ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 11:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/72 "2022-04-08T23:23:50Z")
> [@Crafter\_Man](#): > > He also recommends being tall. So you should work on that, too. I’m already 6’1", so I think I’ve got that covered. Honestly, apart from owning a house, I’m pretty close. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2022, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/73 "2022-04-08T23:37:33Z")
There’s also, of course, my sparking personality and arrogance. ---
**Author:** ![Slithy\_Tove](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slithy_tove/32/18248_2.png) [@Slithy\_Tove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slithy_Tove)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2022, 12:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/74 "2022-04-09T00:20:09Z")
And sensitive? I can sit on a lollipop and tell you what flavor it is. ---
**Author:** ![jnglmassiv](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f07891/32.png) [@jnglmassiv](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jnglmassiv)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2022, 3:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/75 "2022-04-09T15:57:32Z")
[r/CoosingBeggars](https://old.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/) is gold for this. Examples: [https://i.redd.it/f0ound9m6f151.jpg](https://i.redd.it/f0ound9m6f151.jpg) Daily toothbrushing [https://old.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/comments/bqan21/my\_friend\_matched\_w\_this\_guy\_on\_okcupid/](https://old.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/comments/bqan21/my_friend_matched_w_this_guy_on_okcupid/) ---
**Author:** ![Ranch\_Dip](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ranch_dip/32/5238_2.png) [@Ranch\_Dip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ranch_Dip)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2022, 11:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/76 "2022-04-13T23:23:46Z")
> [@squeegee](#): > > I actually did send her a “Hi”, nicely introduced myself, maybe figure out what her deal is. I don’t expect to hear back from Miss Deal Breaker. I still don’t get why? Is there only one woman on that site? The post raises red flags for you, then swipe left and move on with your life. ---
**Author:** ![squeegee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/squeegee/32/14537_2.png) [@squeegee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/squeegee)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2022, 12:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/77 "2022-04-14T00:01:41Z")
> [@Ranch\_Dip](#): > > I still don’t get why? Is there only one woman on that site? The post raises red flags for you, then swipe left and move on with your life. Because I’m curious what her deal is, and what the hell why not? ---
**Author:** ![Dr\_Paprika](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dr_paprika/32/3042_2.png) [@Dr\_Paprika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr_Paprika)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2022, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/78 "2022-04-14T00:06:50Z")
Being a doctor is also less prestigious than advertised. Often very long hours. ---
**Author:** ![mbh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a6a055/32.png) [@mbh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mbh)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2022, 1:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/79 "2022-04-14T01:32:48Z")
If one is more attracted to the doctor’s paycheck than to the doctor’s company, that’s not necessarily a problem. ---
**Author:** ![F.U.Shakespeare](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/aca169/32.png) [@F.U.Shakespeare](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/F.U.Shakespeare)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2022, 1:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/80 "2022-04-14T01:39:22Z")
> [@Dr\_Paprika](#): > > Being a doctor is also less prestigious than advertised. Often very long hours. AIUI the money varies a lot with the specialty. And I’m guessing that the prestige of ‘marrying up’ meant more to women when they had fewer opportunities for accomplishment. As my ~~mistake~~ post noted, such attitudes were more common when I was growing up during the Jurassic era. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499.md?page=5)