# Most arrogant dating profile **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 8, 2022, 4:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499 "2022-04-08T04:34:46Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![SuntanLotion](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/suntanlotion/32/16165_2.png) [@SuntanLotion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuntanLotion)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2022, 12:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/81 "2022-04-14T12:44:10Z")
That would be a great line in an ad! ---
**Author:** ![Mallard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b9bd4f/32.png) [@Mallard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mallard)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2022, 2:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/82 "2022-04-14T14:52:21Z")
> [@mbh](#): > > If one is more attracted to the doctor’s paycheck than to the doctor’s company, that’s not necessarily a problem. Agreed. The doctor’s “wallet” is the prime objective. After reading this thread, I’ve told my wife she’s not allowed to die before I do. I think I’d hate to be in a dating situation with today’s gold digging values. 💲 💲 ---
**Author:** ![SuntanLotion](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/suntanlotion/32/16165_2.png) [@SuntanLotion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuntanLotion)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2022, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/83 "2022-04-14T15:46:56Z")
There is a middle ground. I was with someone once who used me for a place to live and food. If a man thinks a woman worth pursuing he tries to invest and show her he can provide. It had been that way, of necessity for thousands of years. Now it seems to have flipped. ---
**Author:** ![Jackmannii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackmannii/32/311_2.png) [@Jackmannii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jackmannii)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2022, 5:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/84 "2022-04-14T17:38:11Z")
> [@mbh](#): > > If one is more attracted to the doctor’s paycheck than to the doctor’s company, that’s not necessarily a problem. It can be a problem [for the doctor](https://www.oxygen.com/snapped/crime-time/serial-spouse-shoots-fifth-husband-head-stages-death-suicide). ---
**Author:** ![Esprise\_Me](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/esprise_me/32/2947_2.png) [@Esprise\_Me](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esprise_Me)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2022, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/85 "2022-04-14T18:40:07Z")
> [@pulykamell](#): > > Can’t for the life of me remember it, but the jist was that I was a lying, cheating scumbag looking for a socialite with perfect breasts who would tolerate my infidelities and stuff like that. Then I parodied some other [Match.com](http://Match.com) cliches (like the ol’ profile photo with an ex strategically cropped out) and ended with a couple sincere sentences (for those who made it that far.) This was like 15 years ago. The headline was equally non-standard. I figured, might as well stand out in some way in a sea of sameness. I’d probably cringe a bit if I saw it now, but it worked. Probably would’ve worked on me. I was also on [Match.com](http://Match.com) around the same time, and oh lordy, the number of paunchy, balding middle managers looking for 99th percentile-attractiveness women aged 18-23… I decided it was a good thing, knowing I could write these men off as losers without worrying that _I_ was the one being shallow. ---
**Author:** ![Ranch\_Dip](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ranch_dip/32/5238_2.png) [@Ranch\_Dip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ranch_Dip)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2022, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/86 "2022-04-14T23:06:19Z")
> [@squeegee](#): > > what the hell why not? Why not? Why badger the woman who has clearly stated her objectives just because you are curious? If I were her, I would just block and move on. YMMV ---
**Author:** ![Sunny\_Daze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunny_daze/32/438_2.png) [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2022, 11:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/87 "2022-04-14T23:32:33Z")
But she hasn’t clearly stated her objectives. She doesn’t have to answer, but I don’t see the harm in asking for clarification. ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2022, 1:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/88 "2022-04-15T01:16:31Z")
> [@Ranch\_Dip](#): > > Why badger the woman who has clearly stated her objectives just because you are curious? Is asking someone out really ‘badgering’, though? Anyway, I saw her photographs before they were removed. She’s a beautiful woman, well worth a meal and some wine regardless of a few clunky words in a profile. ¯\_(ツ)\_/¯ ---
**Author:** ![squeegee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/squeegee/32/14537_2.png) [@squeegee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/squeegee)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2022, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/89 "2022-04-15T02:52:01Z")
I mean, the final words in her profile were something like “contact me if you think we might be a match”. ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2022, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/90 "2022-04-15T15:24:22Z")
> [@hajario](#): > > I … don’t have a beer gut. Listen, forget your money and the house in Santa Barbara, just the “no beer gut” puts you in the top 2% or so. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2022, 5:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/91 "2022-04-16T17:32:33Z")
You are too kind. I just saw a line on a dating profile that amused me for some reason: “I think that consent is very important in a relationship. If you don’t, please don’t message me.” ---
**Author:** ![Sunny\_Daze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunny_daze/32/438_2.png) [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2022, 5:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/92 "2022-04-16T17:33:16Z")
Good for them. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2022, 5:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/93 "2022-04-16T17:58:47Z")
Maybe you miss my point. I am obviously all about consent. It’s funny to ask someone who doesn’t believe in consent to not message them. ---
**Author:** ![Sunny\_Daze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunny_daze/32/438_2.png) [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2022, 12:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/94 "2022-04-17T00:32:16Z")
Fair point. ---
**Author:** ![Ranch\_Dip](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ranch_dip/32/5238_2.png) [@Ranch\_Dip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ranch_Dip)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2022, 6:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/95 "2022-04-18T18:19:33Z")
Unless I read it wrong, OP didn’t ask her out. He asked her to justify her preferences. Beautiful = ok to ignore clearly stated preferences. Got it. ---
**Author:** ![Ranch\_Dip](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ranch_dip/32/5238_2.png) [@Ranch\_Dip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ranch_Dip)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2022, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/96 "2022-04-18T18:20:57Z")
> [@squeegee](#): > > “contact me if you think we might be a match”. But you didn’t think so. You wanted to argue about her preferences. Again I ask, were there NO OTHER profiles you could have moved on to? ---
**Author:** ![squeegee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/squeegee/32/14537_2.png) [@squeegee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/squeegee)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2022, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/97 "2022-04-18T18:24:16Z")
> [@Ranch\_Dip](#): > > But you didn’t think so. You wanted to argue about her preferences. Again I ask, were there NO OTHER profiles you could have moved on to? Speaking of arguing, I don’t know why you’re so obsessed with this. 10 days now you’ve been demanding explanations. ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2022, 6:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/98 "2022-04-18T18:33:00Z")
Yeah, this is a bit bizarre. Ranch, the preferences _weren’t_ clearly stated, hence this thread. 🙄 ---
**Author:** ![Ranch\_Dip](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ranch_dip/32/5238_2.png) [@Ranch\_Dip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ranch_Dip)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2022, 6:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/99 "2022-04-18T18:34:03Z")
> [@squeegee](#): > > I don’t know why you’re so obsessed with this. I asked you that earlier. And I don’t think you answered that either. I am not obsessed. I am having a conversation on a message board designed for such things. One might wonder why you posted if you only wanted people to agree with you. I am posting from a woman’s point of view. In my experience, men either don’t read what I have posted, or don’t GAF, they just want what they want and don’t take the other person in consideration as if they are a person with the right to have preference. Thus why I said earlier, I don’t have these conversations, I just block and move on. Someone who wants to argue from the get go isn’t someone I want to date. Let me give you an example. There was a guy who had all of these qualifications in his bio about wanting a woman who goes to church regularly, etc. I read it, and thought, nope not me. And moved on. He saw I looked at his profile and proceeded to ask why I hadn’t messaged him. In the ensuing conversation he questioned my religion etc. I told him to buzz off. For the next several months, every so often he would message me. I asked him if he had the memory of a goldfish? Eventually I had to block him. It was tedious and annoying. And polite just wasn’t getting it with this dude. Being blunt and even rude didn’t work. He had no respect for me as an actual human being, he just wanted what he wanted. Sound familiar?? ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2022, 6:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/most-arrogant-dating-profile/962499/100 "2022-04-18T18:36:41Z")
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