# Mother-In-Law, Please Don't Cook For Me. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [September 1, 2002, 9:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mother-in-law-please-dont-cook-for-me/126543 "2002-09-01T09:56:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Zenster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/cdc98d/32.png) [@Zenster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zenster)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2003, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mother-in-law-please-dont-cook-for-me/126543/61 "2003-05-20T19:13:50Z")
Chiming in with: Bring some of your own food. Better yet, eat before you arrive and mysteriously “lose” your appetite. Invite the MIL to your home for a dinner that constitutes foods you _can_ eat. Make sure she realizes there are all sorts of other tasty dishes that you _do_ like. DO NOT appease your MIL by eating disagreeable foods and getting sick from it. You are being a doormat. Make sure your husband is behind you 100% on all of this or give up now. ---
**Author:** ![fatmac98](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3ec8ea/32.png) [@fatmac98](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fatmac98)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2003, 7:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mother-in-law-please-dont-cook-for-me/126543/62 "2003-05-20T19:49:55Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by cazzle \* > \*\* > I will not, under any circumstances, eat that vile substance known as mayonaisse. \*\* Amen, brutha. . . why do people (restaurants, MILs, work luncheon planners, etc.) insist on this as an ingredient? I have gone hungry many times rather than eat this putrid substance. ---
**Author:** ![Barbarian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e19adc/32.png) [@Barbarian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Barbarian)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2003, 8:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mother-in-law-please-dont-cook-for-me/126543/63 "2003-05-20T20:24:11Z")
I went through the same thing with my mom the control freak and astoundingly bad cook and my wife. While there is a tendency to keep the peace, it is far more important to side with the missus. Besides, the missus was right on this particular issue. If you cannot eat a certain food, and the person cooking has been informed in advance, and yet still cannot be bothered to abide by those restrictions, then they’re being rude. Repeated talking-tos from me didn’t work, so finally MrsB publically shamed my mum one night by putting a small portion of peas and a yorkshire pudding on her plate-- and when asked why said loudly that there was nothing else on the table she could eat, since she’d been a vegetarian as long as she’d known my mum, or hadn’t she noticed despite the frequent conversations. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2003, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mother-in-law-please-dont-cook-for-me/126543/64 "2003-05-20T21:01:03Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Cerri \* > \*\*I still say she should go with my “slip the ipecac into her drink and vomit violently all over the family dinner table after consuming a portion of the food” idea. \*\* Bad idea. If she somehow gets caught doing this, she not only has deliberately messed up MIL’s house, but she is forever a whiner that needs to fake an illness because she doesn’t “feel like” eating perfectly good food. The ugliness of how this could backfire is beyond imagining. ---
**Author:** ![jkusters](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/fbc32d/32.png) [@jkusters](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jkusters)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2003, 9:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mother-in-law-please-dont-cook-for-me/126543/65 "2003-05-20T21:09:11Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by fatmac98 \* > \*\*Amen, brutha. . . why do people (restaurants, MILs, work luncheon planners, etc.) insist on this as an ingredient? I have gone hungry many times rather than eat this putrid substance. \*\* Um, because some people like it? I mean, personally, I can’t stand sea food, but I won’t insist that it be kept off of menus everywhere… I’m always puzzled by people’s violent reaction to mayonaisse. Most other food products don’t inspire such vehement repulsion, but for some reason mayo just causes some people to have severe and ranting ick-fests. Not that I’m saying anywhere here fits this bill, but I did have one co-worker that would insist on making a big scene any time someone would use mayo. Are there other food products that get certain people so riled up they’d openly deride dining companions? Oh, wait, I remembered that there are some vegetarians who can get this offensive. Okay, then, mayo-haters and extremist vegetarians. Anyone else? JOhn. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mother-in-law-please-dont-cook-for-me/126543.md?page=3)