# Mothers day **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [May 11, 2014, 5:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/688200 "2014-05-11T17:27:29Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Truman\_Burbank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecc23a/32.png) [@Truman\_Burbank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Truman_Burbank)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 6:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/688200/21 "2014-05-12T06:50:33Z")
> [@Bryan\_Ekers](#): > > And that bitch Heather has _two_ mommies! What the fucking fuck?! Some sympathy for Heather, here? I married a woman whose natal day is usually about 2 days away from Mother’s Day. I love her, but I generally refer to this occurence as “Hell Week”. The pressure, the pressure… ---
**Author:** ![Der\_Trihs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/der_trihs/32/233_2.png) [@Der\_Trihs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Der_Trihs)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 8:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/688200/22 "2014-05-12T08:24:10Z")
> [@monstro](#): > > The only holiday that I can think of that is not weighed down by emotional baggage is Halloween. There’s no “shoulds” in Halloween. No hurt feelings, no relived traumas, no guilt-trips or shame expositions, no solemn “rememberences”. No anxieties. Just fun and candy. There’s all the people who think that there are psychos everywhere handing out candy filled with poison or razor blades. And the Christian fanatics who go on and on about the occult, protest Halloween and do things like set up “[Hell Houses](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hell_house)” for Halloween. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 12:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/688200/23 "2014-05-12T12:02:06Z")
> [@monstro](#): > > The only holiday that I can think of that is not weighed down by emotional baggage is Halloween. There’s no “shoulds” in Halloween. No hurt feelings, no relived traumas, no guilt-trips or shame expositions, no solemn “rememberences”. No anxieties. Just fun and candy. I got a rock. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![koufax](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/7ea924/32.png) [@koufax](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/koufax)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 1:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/688200/24 "2014-05-12T13:50:16Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > Actually, I think the OP is in poor taste if not crass. > > 365 days out of the year and THIS is the day you choose to bitch about your mommy issues? > > Seriously, grow the fuck up. Actually I had a very good relationship with my mother until her death a few years ago at age 89. And if I did have mommy issues, what day should I bitch about it, on Labor Day? ---
**Author:** ![Double\_Foolscap](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/85e7bf/32.png) [@Double\_Foolscap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Double_Foolscap)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 1:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/688200/25 "2014-05-12T13:54:10Z")
I hate that there is a separate date for the UK and US Mothers’ Days (also that I can never remember which apostrophe law is used - is it a day celebrating the mother as a concept, or all mothers everywhere, or just your mother, or…) Having two dates guarantees that there will be much trans-Atlantic panic twice a year when we see topics on the day we don’t celebrate. ---
**Author:** ![Smeghead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f1d935/32.png) [@Smeghead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Smeghead)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 1:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/688200/26 "2014-05-12T13:55:08Z")
> [@Little\_Nemo](#): > > Tell that to Michael Myers. Wrong holiday - he was the Grinch. ---
**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 1:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/688200/27 "2014-05-12T13:59:41Z")
> [@Little\_Nemo](#): > > Tell that to Michael Myers. > [@Smeghead](#): > > Wrong holiday - he was the Grinch. No, the Grinch was Jim Carrey. ---
**Author:** ![Cinnamon\_Imp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/58956e/32.png) [@Cinnamon\_Imp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cinnamon_Imp)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 2:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/688200/28 "2014-05-12T14:49:02Z")
> [@koufax](#): > > Happy Mother’s day to all the mothers whose child died in a car wreck,was murdered, disappeared, raped, committed suicide, etc etc It certainly sucked for me for the couple of years after my first-born son died of SIDS. Got a lot better after my daughter was born though. ---
**Author:** ![Tom\_Tildrum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e95f7d/32.png) [@Tom\_Tildrum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tom_Tildrum)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/688200/29 "2014-05-12T15:26:46Z")
> [@Truman\_Burbank](#): > > Some sympathy for Heather, here? I married a woman whose natal day is usually about 2 days away from Mother’s Day. I love her, but I generally refer to this occurence as “Hell Week”. The pressure, the pressure… Seriously? Isn’t this actually the classic “two-birds-with-one-stone” opportunity? I would have counseled you to get married this week, too. On the other hand, I guess the penalty for forgetting goes up exponentially. ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 3:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/688200/30 "2014-05-12T15:50:30Z")
> [@Der\_Trihs](#): > > There’s all the people who think that there are psychos everywhere You mean people like yourself? ---
**Author:** ![elninost0rm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ed655f/32.png) [@elninost0rm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elninost0rm)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 4:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/688200/31 "2014-05-12T16:11:11Z")
> [@drunky smurf](#): > > you mean people like yourself? yuk yuk yuk ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 4:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/688200/32 "2014-05-12T16:21:38Z")
Aw, somebody tried using all caps! PSYCHE! ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/688200/33 "2014-05-12T17:00:33Z")
> [@elninost0rm](#): > > yuk yuk yuk Your entire point is invalidated because you falied to use proper punctuation. ---
**Author:** ![scabpicker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scabpicker/32/8268_2.png) [@scabpicker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scabpicker)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 6:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/688200/34 "2014-05-12T18:33:52Z")
> [@j666](#): > > Oh, but wait! You forgot the people who had loving and loved mothers who are now dead! Today must really suck for them, too, right?! > > (Or, maybe, they’re adults who get that life and people aren’t perfect, and take the time to reflect on what they did like about the person who brought them into this world.) Yeah, yesterday being the first mother’s day without my mom sucked mightily. But it’s far from the first day that sucked, and there have been many that sucked worse. And really, my problems are my problems. What profit could I get from making others’ time with their mothers less happy? ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 6:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/688200/35 "2014-05-12T18:59:18Z")
My step-mom could have taken that view, I suppose. Her daughter/my step-sis died relatively suddenly on February 13th, 2014 at the age of 50. She still managed to enjoy her Mother’s Day. She spent the morning with her other daughter and her nieces. Her step-kids called her. Her step-niece and nephew sent her a beautiful card that she really appreciated. Of course it was bittersweet but she focused on the good and had an overall nice day. ---
**Author:** ![Darth\_Panda](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ee7513/32.png) [@Darth\_Panda](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darth_Panda)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/688200/36 "2014-05-12T19:07:39Z")
> [@Drunky\_Smurf](#): > > Your entire point is invalidated because you falied to use proper punctuation. It is known. ---
**Author:** ![Saltire](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saltire/32/553_2.png) [@Saltire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saltire)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/688200/37 "2014-05-12T21:31:21Z")
> [@Bryan\_Ekers](#): > > And that bitch Heather has _two_ mommies! What the fucking fuck?! I know a lesbian couple with three sons. They live in a very inclusive community and the boys go to a school that understands. She announced on Facebook Friday that her two youngest (twins) finally had a problem at school related to having two mommies. The mothers were all invited to a party put on by the second-grade class, and they were all given beaded bracelets made by their children. Her kids said, “All the other kids just had to make one bracelet. We had to make two!” They were not comforted when they were told that they don’t have to do anything at all for Father’s Day. ---
**Author:** ![Clothahump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 9:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/688200/38 "2014-05-12T21:48:45Z")
> [@Fenris](#): > > “Torture”? You’re like one of those retards who describes a county jail as a “gulag” aren’t you? Try having your fingernails ripped off with pliers or being waterboarded with carbonated beverages or being locked into “tiger cages” and then compare it to your pathetic mommy issues. > And the vast, VAST majority of normal people\*. Like Mother’s Day or hate it (and the lady who ‘invented’ it came to loathe it’s commercialization), anyone who hides under their blanket from the “torture” that is Mother’s Day is a pathetic loser who needs serious counseling or a goth/emo douche who likes theatrically wallowing in their so-called dark-pain. Either way, get the fuck over it. > \*people who, regardless of their relationships with their mommies, good or bad, don’t curl up into a fetal position, sucking their thumb at the idea that other people enjoy a celebration. I was going to post something like this, but you said it better than I would have. And probably more politely as well. \ ---
**Author:** ![Jackmannii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackmannii/32/311_2.png) [@Jackmannii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jackmannii)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 10:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/688200/39 "2014-05-12T22:32:14Z")
[QUOTE=koufax] If you have a normal loving relationship with your mother, you don’t need a “special” day to show it. [/QUOTE] And if you want to keep that “normal loving relationship” with Mom, you better goddamn well get her a present and/or take her out to dinner. 😃 And no, snipping off a couple of daffodils from the neighbor’s yard and taking her to the Wendy’s drive-through won’t cut it. ---
**Author:** ![j666](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/9de0a6/32.png) [@j666](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/j666)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2014, 10:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/688200/40 "2014-05-14T22:20:48Z")
> [@koufax](#): > > …And if I did have mommy issues, what day should I bitch about it, on Labor Day? Cute one. No, that is Mom’s day to bitch. > [@scabpicker](#): > > Yeah, yesterday being the first mother’s day without my mom sucked mightily. But it’s far from the first day that sucked, and there have been many that sucked worse. The worst for me? The first time I forgot her birthday after her death. (Not that I make a habit of ‘visiting’ her, but when I looked at the calendar the day after and realized what I had done … I still suspect they’re saving a special place in hell for me.) [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/688200.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/688200.md?page=3)