# Mother's Day **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 11, 2015, 4:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/719746 "2015-05-11T04:01:05Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![McGuffy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@McGuffy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/McGuffy)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2015, 4:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/719746/1 "2015-05-11T04:01:05Z")
Today has been spent with people running around buying flowers, going out to eat…etc, etc… please take a moment and think about the people who’s Mother have already passed. This is/was a very hard day for them. My Mother is still alive, but I called my cousin to let him I remembered his Mother… My spouse lost his Mother years ago. Today was hard for him. ---
**Author:** ![McGuffy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@McGuffy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/McGuffy)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2015, 4:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/719746/2 "2015-05-11T04:09:47Z")
Sorry, I know my grammar/spelling was all messed up. I just got emotional. ---
**Author:** ![EmilyG](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/emilyg/32/364_2.png) [@EmilyG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EmilyG)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2015, 12:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/719746/3 "2015-05-11T12:13:11Z")
The most difficult Mother’s Day for me was the first year that my mother was living apart from my dad, a few years ago. Even now, I have a rather awkward relationship with my mother. I mean, I do love her and appreciate all that she’s done for me, but I probably wasn’t raised as well as maybe I should’ve been, and things can get uneasy between us. ---
**Author:** ![Pai325](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c68b51/32.png) [@Pai325](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pai325)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2015, 2:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/719746/4 "2015-05-11T14:43:09Z")
The first Mother’s Day after my mother died was very difficult, but I was married and I bought a card and gift for my husband’s mother. What was strange, but not as emotionally painful, was when my mother-in-law died about fifteen years later and I realized I would never buy a Mother’s Day card again. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2015, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/719746/5 "2015-05-11T14:53:06Z")
My mothers are both dead, so thanks? But they weren’t great moms to start with. I still send a card to my childless aunt. She took care of me as much as my own mom, even had me in her house for the first four years of my life, and I also have her personality, so I send it because I care. And to my mother in law. But I am indeed running out of mothers to send cards to. ---
**Author:** ![kopek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kopek/32/337_2.png) [@kopek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kopek)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2015, 3:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/719746/6 "2015-05-11T15:27:54Z")
Muvver (my MIL) we miss most days but especially on Mothers Day this year for some reason. We both had different things to do - me on the bike and herself in the car - but when we compared notes last night we found we both cut part the grave and said a little prayer. ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2015, 4:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/719746/7 "2015-05-11T16:54:04Z")
On a lighter note: [my favorite mothers’ day video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UrGw_cOgwa8). ---
**Author:** ![Wile\_E](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c37758/32.png) [@Wile\_E](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wile_E)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2015, 5:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/719746/8 "2015-05-11T17:11:43Z")
I lost my mother three years ago and Mother’s Day has been hard. For 6 years before that I watched her waste away from Alzheimer’s disease. It made her death a double-edged sword, I was relieved she was at peace but also angry that she had to suffer for so long and that she was lost to us during that time. It seems like the Mother’s Day reminders didn’t seem so bad this year. Maybe because MD came so early in the month it didn’t seem to have as much advertising time or maybe it didn’t bother me as much this year. So I decided to start a new tradition and make a donation in my mother’s name to Alzheimer’s research. I will probably make a similar donation for Father’s Day to the American Lung Association\* since my father died of complications of emphysema. \*If you have any other similar, reputable organizations you would recommend, let me know. ---
**Author:** ![McGuffy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@McGuffy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/McGuffy)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2015, 7:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/719746/9 "2015-05-11T19:04:11Z")
“I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life.” Maya Angelou When I was young… People would wear a small carnation and white symbolized your Mother had passed. Thank you all for responding. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2015, 7:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/mothers-day/719746/10 "2015-05-11T19:09:01Z")
> [@McGuffy](#): > > “I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life.” > Maya Angelou > > . Yes, you grieve for all that was lost, and for all the potential that was wasted.