# Movie love most like real love? **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [December 20, 2009, 1:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movie-love-most-like-real-love/521908 "2009-12-20T01:08:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Lightnin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lightnin/32/180_2.png) [@Lightnin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lightnin)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2009, 12:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movie-love-most-like-real-love/521908/61 "2009-12-23T00:36:14Z")
> [@control-z](#): > > _Clerks_: > > DANTE (panicky): But…but you said you only had sex with three guys! You never mentioned him! > VERONICA: That’s because I never had sex with him! > DANTE: You sucked his dick! > VERONICA: We went out a few times. We didn’t have sex, but we fooled around. > DANTE (massive panic attack): Oh my God! Why did you tell me you only slept with three guys? **Thirty-six?!** ---
**Author:** ![KneadToKnow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kneadtoknow/32/3999_2.png) [@KneadToKnow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KneadToKnow)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2009, 12:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movie-love-most-like-real-love/521908/62 "2009-12-23T00:39:20Z")
> [@Dewey\_Finn](#): > > I recommend that you do (i.e., look at the special features/deleted scenes from the film Love Actually), if for nothing else, for the deleted scene about the essay written by Karen’s son Bernard about his Christmas wish. It’s hilarious. Concur. ---
**Author:** ![Fair\_Rarity](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fair_rarity/32/153_2.png) [@Fair\_Rarity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fair_Rarity)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2009, 1:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movie-love-most-like-real-love/521908/63 "2009-12-23T01:20:53Z")
> [@Lightnin](#): > > **Thirty-six?!** I believe it was “37? … Try not to suck any dicks on your way to the parking lot.” 🙂 I found Clerks to be a good reflection of those kinds of people at that time in their lives. (Urban, profane, broke, young). I have to agree with Love Actually, Harry & Sally, High Fidelity, Eternal Sunshine too. Love in different ways, but very relatable. ---
**Author:** ![RickJay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/bb73d2/32.png) [@RickJay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RickJay)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2009, 2:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movie-love-most-like-real-love/521908/64 "2009-12-23T02:41:23Z")
The two famed montages in “Up” pretty much sum up a real, living relationship of two people who love each other, and do it without much in the way of dialogue. ---
**Author:** ![BrassyPhrase](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ea666f/32.png) [@BrassyPhrase](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrassyPhrase)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2009, 3:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movie-love-most-like-real-love/521908/65 "2009-12-23T03:00:18Z")
> [@RickJay](#): > > The two famed montages in “Up” pretty much sum up a real, living relationship of two people who love each other, and do it without much in the way of dialogue. Absolutely. ---
**Author:** ![TreacherousCretin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/treacherouscretin/32/476_2.png) [@TreacherousCretin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TreacherousCretin)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2009, 6:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movie-love-most-like-real-love/521908/66 "2009-12-23T06:29:14Z")
> [@carlotta](#): > > I think the winners are Paul Giamatti and Laura Linney playing John and Abigail Adams in the “John Adams” miniseries, but picking a miniseries may be cheating. My wife and I noticed the same thing. Good choice, says I. . ---
**Author:** ![carlotta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/898d66/32.png) [@carlotta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carlotta)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2009, 12:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movie-love-most-like-real-love/521908/67 "2009-12-23T12:54:31Z")
> [@RickJay](#): > > The two famed montages in “Up” pretty much sum up a real, living relationship of two people who love each other, and do it without much in the way of dialogue. Oh yes. While watching this, after Ellie died, my husband looked at me with his eyes a little moist and said, with humor, but also complete sincerity “I’m so glad I’m going to die before you.” ---
**Author:** ![DrFidelius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drfidelius/32/3447_2.png) [@DrFidelius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrFidelius)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2009, 1:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movie-love-most-like-real-love/521908/68 "2009-12-23T13:10:53Z")
> [@carlotta](#): > > Oh yes. While watching this, after Ellie died, my husband looked at me with his eyes a little moist and said, with humor, but also complete sincerity “I’m so glad I’m going to die before you.” Exactly. The Wife and I have a similar arrangement. (It helps that all the women on her side of the family have lasted well into their nineties for four generations, and the of the men on my side only one has broken into his eighties.) ---
**Author:** ![SciFiSam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/47e85d/32.png) [@SciFiSam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SciFiSam)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2009, 5:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movie-love-most-like-real-love/521908/69 "2009-12-25T05:29:19Z")
Frankie and Johnny. A film where a romantic scene is about them being comfortable enough to brush their teeth in front of each other. Much better than moonlight and roses. > [@RickJay](#): > > The two famed montages in “Up” pretty much sum up a real, living relationship of two people who love each other, and do it without much in the way of dialogue. It makes love look stronger than all the downfalls that beset them. I loathe Wall-E, but loved this film, especially this montage. ---
**Author:** ![jackdavinci](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackdavinci/32/3259_2.png) [@jackdavinci](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jackdavinci)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2009, 6:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movie-love-most-like-real-love/521908/70 "2009-12-25T06:51:02Z")
> [@Barrett\_Bonden](#): > > I thought **High Fidelity** was a pretty realistic treatment, so much so that at times it was painful to watch. came in to offer that one! ---
**Author:** ![FlyingRamenMonster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ce7236/32.png) [@FlyingRamenMonster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FlyingRamenMonster)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2009, 7:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movie-love-most-like-real-love/521908/71 "2009-12-25T07:04:34Z")
I thought Donnie’s family from Donnie Darko were pretty convincing as 5 people who drove each other mad occasionally but nonetheless genuinely loved each other. I thought it made the movie much better that quirky misfit protagonist came from a family that did in fact like and care about him. ---
**Author:** ![Quercus\_alba](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quercus_alba/32/4061_2.png) [@Quercus\_alba](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quercus_alba)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2009, 6:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movie-love-most-like-real-love/521908/72 "2009-12-26T06:45:11Z")
Just watched “Julie & Julia” and was rather impressed with the portrayals of those marriages. ---
**Author:** ![chromaticity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/cc9497/32.png) [@chromaticity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chromaticity)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2009, 10:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movie-love-most-like-real-love/521908/73 "2009-12-26T10:11:40Z")
I agree with **Lost in translation** partly because of my personal experience. The whole feeling of not knowing what is going to happen, is very touching to me on a deep level. ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2009, 3:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movie-love-most-like-real-love/521908/74 "2009-12-27T03:57:33Z")
_On Golden Pond_. Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![Sleel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/73ab20/32.png) [@Sleel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleel)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2009, 8:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movie-love-most-like-real-love/521908/75 "2009-12-27T08:24:01Z")
Actually, it was: “Thirty-six dicks?!…Including me?” \ “Okay, thirty-seven.” [Entropy](http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0156515/) struck a chord with the kind of madly intense, ridiculously emotional, and probably doomed from the beginning relationships you get into in your early 20s. High Fidelity; Lost in Translation; Eternal Sunshine; Love, Actually are all excellent examples, I think. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Jones](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/96bed5/32.png) [@Cat\_Jones](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Jones)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2009, 12:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movie-love-most-like-real-love/521908/76 "2009-12-27T12:54:15Z")
“Fargo”. The Gundersons are comfortable with each other; outsiders may see them as boring but amidst the mundane there are little gestures and private words which show a very real, solid love and respect for each other. ---
**Author:** ![Dewey\_Finn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dewey_finn/32/4222_2.png) [@Dewey\_Finn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dewey_Finn)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2009, 1:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movie-love-most-like-real-love/521908/77 "2009-12-27T13:53:48Z")
> [@Shodan](#): > > _On Golden Pond_. Similarly, how about _Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner_? The love shown between Spencer Tracy and Katherine Hepburn was as real for the actors as the characters, and everyone knew that Tracy was dying. ---
**Author:** ![Quasimodem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/e274bd/32.png) [@Quasimodem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quasimodem)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2009, 2:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movie-love-most-like-real-love/521908/78 "2009-12-27T14:38:33Z")
Here’s a clip from the film. Enjoy! [![]( " - YouTube") ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8_JmUMkLy7g) Males me choke up. And not because of the damn dementia or that Christopher Reeve died, either. Please excuse the song at the end. I am sure it was meant well, but I wish it weren’t there. It spoils the theme which is called _Rhapsody On A Theme By Paganini_ Quasi ---
**Author:** ![BomTek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bomtek/32/21364_2.png) [@BomTek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BomTek)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2009, 8:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movie-love-most-like-real-love/521908/79 "2009-12-27T20:29:59Z")
A lot of fuss has been made by movie critics about the relationship between John Krasinski and Maya Rudolph in _Away We Go_, but it’s all deserved. I think the relationships that they witness are overly cartoonish for the most part, but Burt and Verona look so much like a real couple it’s amazing. ---
**Author:** ![mo50](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8797f3/32.png) [@mo50](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mo50)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2009, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movie-love-most-like-real-love/521908/80 "2009-12-30T19:24:08Z")
There was I guess more of an indie film out several years ago with Mark Rufallo and Laura Dern, about two college professor couples cheating with each other, & falling apart, I think at some location in the Northwest. Sorry I’m blanking on the name. I found it to be a fairly accurate depiction of adult romantic relationships. Needless to say, scarier than any horror flick! :eek: [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movie-love-most-like-real-love/521908.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movie-love-most-like-real-love/521908.md?page=5)