# Movies guys are allowed to cry at **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [March 9, 2011, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064 "2011-03-09T17:18:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Tangent](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tangent/32/3098_2.png) [@Tangent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tangent)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2011, 9:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/41 "2011-03-09T21:57:29Z")
_My Girl_ - it’s been a long time since I’ve seen it, but when the little girl breaks down at the funeral at the end I was crying right along with her. ---
**Author:** ![DrDeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b487fb/32.png) [@DrDeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrDeth)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2011, 9:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/42 "2011-03-09T21:59:02Z")
> [@Tangent](#): > > LOTR: Return of the King (“You bow to no one.”) Good one! 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![gaffa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e68b1a/32.png) [@gaffa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gaffa)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2011, 10:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/43 "2011-03-09T22:01:29Z")
> [@Gedd](#): > > Old Yeller - If you’ve ever had a dog this is a no brainer. See also _Babe: Pig In The City_, _My Dog Skip_ and _Marley and Me_. And I’m a cat person! > [@](#): > > Saving Private Ryan - Ditto “Tell me I have led a good life.” > [@](#): > > Up - The beginning, at least Not just you. I don’t _want_ to know anyone who didn’t tear up at the montage of Carl and Elly’s life. > [@](#): > > Titanic - Couldn’t care less about Leo and Kate, but that one old couple in bed as it sinks. . . ☹ Scenes of men sacrificing their lives for others always hits me at a primal level. In this case, the couple were dressed as First Class passengers, and knew that they had a good run and that their sacrifice was would save the lives of mothers and children. > [@Jophiel](#): > > Not getting teary at the end of “The Iron Giant” doesn’t make you a man, it makes you a monster. Agreed. > [@Marley23](#): > > I think the generic answer is sports movies and war movies, and so far this thread bears that out. Sorry, OP, but if there’s ever going to be an answer to this question, it’s not going to include Moulin Rouge and Titanic. Those are chick flicks. Titanic in particular became a hit because early-teen girls got obsessed with it. See above. Titanic was filled with scenes of brave and honorable men giving up their own lives to either ensure that others live, or because they felt it was their duty, that they could not continue living. Captain Smith and Thomas Andrews are two examples, and Benjamin Guggenheim was one of the richest men on the planet, and he chose not to attempt to get onto a lifeboat: “We are dressed in our best and are prepared to go down as gentlemen.” If sacrifice like that doesn’t tear you up… > [@](#): > > And movies about the Old Man, maybe. I know a goodly number of guys who were really moved by _Big Fish_. I was, and so was my dad. I think this is the best film Tim Burton has ever done. Like a lot of men, I had a complicated relationship with my dad - loving, but also competitive, and never sure that either of us really understood the other. > [@suranyi](#): > > I cry at movies whenever the hell I feel like – which is often. I’m old enough to not give a damn what other people think about this. Exactly. _Real_ men don’t give a shit what others think. Boys do, men don’t. > [@Gedd](#): > > I _said_ it was probably just me. For the record those are movies I had to watch with the Mrs. > > _Field of Dreams_ and _Life is Beautiful_ are good ones to add on. Another sports movie to rip your emotional guts out _[We Are Marshall](http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0758794/)_. Almost forgot: _[The Elephant Man](http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0080678/)_. The film can be used to weed out Replicants. ---
**Author:** ![TravisFromOR](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/cc9497/32.png) [@TravisFromOR](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TravisFromOR)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2011, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/44 "2011-03-09T22:05:18Z")
> [@wheresgeorge04](#): > > I cried so much at the end of Schindler’s List, it was ridiculous. I cry at the episode of Futurama with Fry’s dog waiting outside the pizza place. Fuck, I’m tearing up right now. > > Joe If you don’t cry at the end of Jurassic Bark, you have no soul. ---
**Author:** ![Dewey\_Finn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dewey_finn/32/4222_2.png) [@Dewey\_Finn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dewey_Finn)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2011, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/45 "2011-03-09T22:10:35Z")
> [@Tangent](#): > > LOTR: Return of the King (“You bow to no one.”) I love that scene. And I didn’t cry, but I did get emotional while watching the Mel Brooks remake of _To Be or Not to Be_, particularly the scene in which they were taking all of the refugees (made up in clown costumes and clown makeup) out of hiding in the theater, right past the audience filled with Nazi officers. One woman froze in terror at the sight of the Nazis (which seemed to alert their suspicions), so one of the professional clowns went up to her, identified her as Jewish (“Juden! Juden!”) and slapped a Star of David on her chest. Making a joke of it, in other words. ---
**Author:** ![Dread\_Pirate\_Jimbo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dread_pirate_jimbo/32/3897_2.png) [@Dread\_Pirate\_Jimbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dread_Pirate_Jimbo)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2011, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/46 "2011-03-09T22:10:42Z")
> [@Dewey\_Finn](#): > > Brian’s Song. This is the one I was coming in to mention. If you don’t cry watching this movie, you were born without a soul. > [@Tangent](#): > > LOTR: Return of the King (“You bow to no one.”) Another excellent selection. For me, also: _Jerry MacGuire_ – I’m a mess for about the last 15 minutes of the movie. _Star Trek II: The Wrath of Khan_ – How can Spock’s death not move you to tears? ---
**Author:** ![hogarth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hogarth/32/1773_2.png) [@hogarth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hogarth)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2011, 10:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/47 "2011-03-09T22:30:35Z")
> [@TravisFromOR](#): > > If you don’t cry at the end of Jurassic Bark, you have no soul. I have gotten misty-eyed at many, many, many TV shows and movies (including Spider-Man 2, to my wife’s astonishment), but Jurassic Bark wasn’t one of them. I just thought it was a not-particularly-funny episode of Futurama. ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2011, 10:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/48 "2011-03-09T22:43:29Z")
Pretty much anything involving dogs and death, including _Sounder_, _Ol’ Yeller_, _Marley and Me_, etc. I even teared up when Vincent, the golden retriever in _Lost_ lay down next to Jack as Jack was dying… ---
**Author:** ![Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mean_mr.mustard/32/3865_2.png) [@Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mean_Mr.Mustard)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2011, 11:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/49 "2011-03-09T23:13:48Z")
I came in to mention Marley & Me. Have any of you seen [Eight Below](http://allmovie.com/work/eight-below-338299)? When the musher had to leave behind his sled dog team in the blizzard, each doggie chained to a stake? I was peeling onions, baby. > [@kayaker](#): > > I don’t cry at movies.I mean, they’re\* movies\*. Do you also not laugh at comedies because they’re, you know, _movies_? mmm ---
**Author:** ![PSXer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/48db29/32.png) [@PSXer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PSXer)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2011, 11:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/50 "2011-03-09T23:29:24Z")
I also cried at the end of The Fly ---
**Author:** ![Tristan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tristan/32/18058_2.png) [@Tristan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tristan)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2011, 11:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/51 "2011-03-09T23:31:55Z")
The scene in The Patriot (crappy Mel Gibson movie, aka Braveheart 1776?) when he is leaving the camp that his family is staying at, and his daughter, who has not spoken to him since a tragic thing happened, comes running up to him and starts babbeling about how she’ll talk, she 'll talk to him, just come back, she’ll talk all he wants… First movie I had cried at in a very long time. My daughter was about the same age at the time, which is probably what did it. Since then, I have movies I will tear up in, and I have no shame. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2011, 11:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/52 "2011-03-09T23:52:46Z")
The last movie I actually wept watching was _Titanic_. But I was 7 when I saw it so… The only movie in recent memory that I recall getting sort of misty-eyed over was _The Karate Kid_ (the new one) during the scene with the two leads in the car. > [@gaffa](#): > > Exactly. _Real_ men don’t give a shit what others think. Boys do, men don’t. That’s just what boys who cry during _Up_ say to make themselves feel better. We’ll bill you for the cancellation of your Manscription. Edit: Actually, I thought of a film more recent than _Titanic_ that I teared up in: _Armageddon_ - I was 8 for that one. Cried when Bruce was having his last words with Arwen. ---
**Author:** ![Swords\_to\_Plowshares](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b38774/32.png) [@Swords\_to\_Plowshares](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Swords_to_Plowshares)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2011, 11:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/53 "2011-03-09T23:59:45Z")
> [@TravisFromOR](#): > > If you don’t cry at the end of Jurassic Bark, you have no soul. I didn’t, but I’ve never had a dog (or any pet larger than a fish). Luck of the Fryrish got me misty-eyed, though. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 12:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/54 "2011-03-10T00:10:23Z")
I got misty-eyed during both Jurassic Bark and Luck of the Fryish. Really phenomenal stuff. Still no tears though. ---
**Author:** ![Winnipeg](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/ec9cab/32.png) [@Winnipeg](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Winnipeg)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 12:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/55 "2011-03-10T00:36:42Z")
“Good Bye Mr Chips” the original 1930’s version. As Chips lays in his death bed. Woman: and he never had any children Chips: oh no your wrong, …I had hundred’s,… and they were all boys. Gets me every time. ---
**Author:** ![foolsguinea](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/foolsguinea/32/14751_2.png) [@foolsguinea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/foolsguinea)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 1:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/56 "2011-03-10T01:09:47Z")
I am a grown man, & I can cry at whatever I want. I may have cried at _Galaxy Quest_. ---
**Author:** ![outlierrn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/outlierrn/32/3005_2.png) [@outlierrn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/outlierrn)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 1:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/57 "2011-03-10T01:17:11Z")
Well, real men don’t need anybodys permission, they cry at any damn movie they feel like. Having said that, I only cry at the end of **The Dirty Dozen**. ---
**Author:** ![expectopatronum](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/expectopatronum/32/173_2.png) [@expectopatronum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/expectopatronum)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 1:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/58 "2011-03-10T01:21:39Z")
> [@gaffa](#): > > See above. Titanic was filled with scenes of brave and honorable men giving up their own lives to either ensure that others live, or because they felt it was their duty, that they could not continue living. Captain Smith and Thomas Andrews are two examples, and Benjamin Guggenheim was one of the richest men on the planet, and he chose not to attempt to get onto a lifeboat: “We are dressed in our best and are prepared to go down as gentlemen.” > > If sacrifice like that doesn’t tear you up… i always thought guggenheim was just in denial but i could be wrong about that. i’ve known plenty of guys who teared up during titanic. usually never for the leo/kate stuff but for the old couple holding hands while the water rushes under them, the irish mother reading to her children, and the mother floating in the water with her newborn baby. nothing wrong with finding that upsetting. ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_Q](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/898d66/32.png) [@Johnny\_Q](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_Q)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 1:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/59 "2011-03-10T01:48:51Z")
The end of _On Her Majesty’s Secret Service_ There are certain lines you don’t say to anybody when you’re in that line of work. ---
**Author:** ![Yookeroo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yookeroo/32/323_2.png) [@Yookeroo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yookeroo)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 1:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/60 "2011-03-10T01:59:53Z")
> [@Hal\_Briston](#): > > The last couple of minutes of _Toy Story 3_. Hell, I’m sure Pixar’s computers wept while rendering it. This was my first thought. This past summer there were articles giving men the OK to cry at this movie. > [@hogarth](#): > > I have gotten misty-eyed at many, many, many TV shows and movies (including Spider-Man 2, to my wife’s astonishment), but Jurassic Bark wasn’t one of them. I just thought it was a not-particularly-funny episode of Futurama. Me too. > [@Sakuma\_Drops](#): > > [\*Hotaru no Haka \*(_Grave of the Fireflies_)](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grave_of_the_fireflies). > > I _am_ speaking from a female perspective here, but…seriously. If this film doesn’t make you cry then you are either Vulcan or dead. I didn’t. And I sometimes cry at movies I think are really bad (my Man Card was revoked long ago). But not this one. Not that I disagree that this isn’t a good candidate for this thread, but it didn’t hit that spot for some reason. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064.md?page=4)