# Movies guys are allowed to cry at **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [March 9, 2011, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064 "2011-03-09T17:18:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Mahaloth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mahaloth/32/1079_2.png) [@Mahaloth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mahaloth)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 1:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/81 "2011-03-10T13:24:47Z")
> [@fluiddruid](#): > > Seconded, and **Grave of the Fireflies** makes me cry like a baby every time. **Dear Zachary** wrecked me. I recommend not reading about it - just watch it, it’s excellent - but I wouldn’t make plans after. If anyone wants a “man challenge” to see if they can make it through a movie without crying, **Dear Zachary** is definitely the one to see. It’s sadder than Grave of Fireflies, and that is the usual one that gets most people. ---
**Author:** ![Clawdio](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/d07c76/32.png) [@Clawdio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clawdio)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 2:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/82 "2011-03-10T14:20:25Z")
> [@Mean\_Mr.Mustard](#): > > I came in to mention Marley & Me. I did not cry at Marley & Me… I blubbered. The phrase “emotionally exhausted” comes to mind. ---
**Author:** ![Raguleader](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/258eb7/32.png) [@Raguleader](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Raguleader)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 2:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/83 "2011-03-10T14:34:28Z")
> [@sachertorte](#): > > The only movie where I truly cried in the theater was _The Joy Luck Club_. > Knowing my parents’ lived through WWII in China probably had a lot to do with that one. I remember leaving the theater an absolute wreck. > > I have gotten choked up in other movies, but nothing to the level of _The Joy Luck Club_. I always choke up when the sisters at the end say “We have a sister!” [Taking Chance](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MtmiLdzzgGE). Especially the scene with the Army escort. “Are you related to the deceased, Sergeant?” “Yes Sir. He’s my brother.” ---
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 2:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/84 "2011-03-10T14:49:26Z")
The Champ is the one that gets My Husband to blubbering. ---
**Author:** ![LurkMeister](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/3da27b/32.png) [@LurkMeister](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LurkMeister)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 3:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/85 "2011-03-10T15:20:21Z")
I also didn’t watch the rest of _Up_ because of the opening sequence, which struck a little too close to my own life. I’m glad I stuck it out, because the rest of the movie was pretty good, although I did get a little weepy at the scene near the end when he was looking through the scrapbook and turned the page. And as much as I like James Garner, I decided after reading about _The Notebook_ that there is no way I could ever watch it. And if having an emotional reaction to something makes you less of a man, then I guess I’ll just have to live with that. ---
**Author:** ![StusBlues](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 3:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/86 "2011-03-10T15:48:57Z")
> [@Sakuma\_Drops](#): > > [\*Hotaru no Haka \*(_Grave of the Fireflies_)](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grave_of_the_fireflies). > > I _am_ speaking from a female perspective here, but…seriously. If this film doesn’t make you cry then you are either Vulcan or dead. See, this one doesn’t make me cry. It makes me angry with the “leaders” who wrought devastation on their own people out of arrogance. ---
**Author:** ![BomTek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bomtek/32/21364_2.png) [@BomTek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BomTek)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 4:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/87 "2011-03-10T16:06:14Z")
I think all of mine have been mentioned, and was definitely glad to see that other guys have cried at the end of _Million Dollar Baby_. I didn’t just cry for that, I was shoulder-heaving sobbing and sniffling and snotty. That one got me probably the worst. \*Marley and Me \*is another one, but my grandpa had just died, and I think the whole idea of losing someone who had always been there for you got me at the time. I’ve seen it since and didn’t have nearly the same reaction. The episode of \*Futurama \*has already been mentioned. _Field Of Dreams_, _Iron Giant_, _Benjamin Button_, and _Toy Story 3_ all got me. I didn’t cry for _Dear Zachary_, oddly enough. I think it shocked my emotions SO much that it prevented me from crying. Probably the most traumatic experience I’ve ever had watching a movie. ---
**Author:** ![fiddlesticks](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fiddlesticks/32/18129_2.png) [@fiddlesticks](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fiddlesticks)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/88 "2011-03-10T16:38:18Z")
_My Dog Skip_ was _Jurassic Bark_ before _Jurassic Bark_. Another dog dies without his master tear jerker. Haven’t seen _Toy Story 3_, but Jessie’s song in _Toy Story 2_ was a tear jerker for me. Truthfully I wasn’t too pleased to cry about it (damn you, Randy Newman!), but I couldn’t help myself. ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 5:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/89 "2011-03-10T17:42:19Z")
> [@fiddlesticks](#): > > _My Dog Skip_ was _Jurassic Bark_ before _Jurassic Bark_. Another dog dies without his master tear jerker. The dog didn’t die in that one. Although that was certainly the emotional angle the filmakers intended to evoke. ---
**Author:** ![Sakuma\_Drops](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/50afbb/32.png) [@Sakuma\_Drops](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sakuma_Drops)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 5:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/90 "2011-03-10T17:56:42Z")
> [@StusBlues](#): > > See, this one doesn’t make me cry. It makes me angry with the “leaders” who wrought devastation on their own people out of arrogance. Understandable. FWIW, I don’t think I cried when I saw _Schindler’s List_ for the first time. I just remember being too shell-shocked and depressed to cry. I mean, it’s not that I didn’t know about the Holocaust before I saw the movie, but seeing it all play out on-screen was pretty brutal. ---
**Author:** ![fiddlesticks](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fiddlesticks/32/18129_2.png) [@fiddlesticks](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fiddlesticks)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 6:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/91 "2011-03-10T18:02:46Z")
> [@cochrane](#): > > The dog didn’t die in that one. Although that was certainly the emotional angle the filmakers intended to evoke. “They buried him out under the elm tree, they said. That wasn’t totally true. For he really lay buried in my heart.” ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 6:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/92 "2011-03-10T18:32:13Z")
> [@fiddlesticks](#): > > “They buried him out under the elm tree, they said. That wasn’t totally true. For he really lay buried in my heart.” [spoiler]In the emotional scene in which it appeared as if Skip had died, he survived. He lived for many years later. He didn’t die until after his master had grown up and moved away. “I almost lost old Skip that day. Even as he was sleeping on the operating table, he was still teaching me” “I received a trans-atlantic call one day. “Skip died”, Daddy said.” It’s not as if Skip had died onscreen, _a la_ Old Yeller. [/spoiler] ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 6:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/93 "2011-03-10T18:36:52Z")
All these mentions of Toy Story 3 have me worried about tomorrow’s Movie Night at the JohnT household… ---
**Author:** ![Darth\_Nader](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ad7895/32.png) [@Darth\_Nader](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darth_Nader)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 6:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/94 "2011-03-10T18:38:13Z")
**Life is Beautiful**. Wait until you are a father, and watch it again. I’ll get the mop. ---
**Author:** ![Sparky812](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eb9ed0/32.png) [@Sparky812](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sparky812)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 7:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/95 "2011-03-10T19:09:48Z")
> [@Darth\_Nader](#): > > **Life is Beautiful**. Wait until you are a father, and watch it again. I’ll get the mop. I listed it in post #17. You’re right though… being a parent puts you into the sobbing uncontrollably category. ---
**Author:** ![Darth\_Nader](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ad7895/32.png) [@Darth\_Nader](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darth_Nader)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 8:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/96 "2011-03-10T20:06:01Z")
I know, just thought it needed another vote. **Dear Zachary** is much worse. Just kill yourself. ---
**Author:** ![Mahaloth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mahaloth/32/1079_2.png) [@Mahaloth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mahaloth)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/97 "2011-03-10T20:26:28Z")
> [@Darth\_Nader](#): > > I know, just thought it needed another vote. > > **Dear Zachary** is much worse. Just kill yourself. Yeah, I keep mentioning it over and over because I seriously don’t think anyone can make it through the movie without weeping. Maybe if you are expecting to weep, but unexpected weeping is impossible to avoid. ---
**Author:** ![gwendee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/35a633/32.png) [@gwendee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gwendee)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/98 "2011-03-10T21:03:58Z")
The manliest man I know cries at **The Natural** , and the scene in **To Kill a Mockingbird** in the courtroom when the preacher tells Jem “Stand up. Your father is passing.” ---
**Author:** ![Superdude](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/superdude/32/13450_2.png) [@Superdude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Superdude)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 11:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/99 "2011-03-10T23:02:49Z")
_A League of Their Own_: “Mom…passed.” ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2011, 11:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064/100 "2011-03-10T23:25:29Z")
> [@cochrane](#): > > [spoiler]In the emotional scene in which it appeared as if Skip had died, he survived. He lived for many years later. He didn’t die until after his master had grown up and moved away. > > “I almost lost old Skip that day. Even as he was sleeping on the operating table, he was still teaching me” > > “I received a trans-atlantic call one day. “Skip died”, Daddy said.” > > It’s not as if Skip had died onscreen, _a la_ Old Yeller. > [/spoiler] Which is exactly what happened in Jurassic Bark- you never see it die on screen either. So everything **fiddlesticks** said was accurate. It was a dog dying without his master. Edit: And why the hell are we talking in spoilers? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/movies-guys-are-allowed-to-cry-at/574064.md?page=6)