# My 15 Year-Old Daughter Just Told Me She's BiSexual -HELP! **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 12, 2018, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-15-year-old-daughter-just-told-me-shes-bisexual-help/808721 "2018-02-12T21:50:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![Euphrosyne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d9b06d/32.png) [@Euphrosyne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Euphrosyne)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2018, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-15-year-old-daughter-just-told-me-shes-bisexual-help/808721/101 "2018-02-14T03:03:37Z")
> [@Colette8](#): > > Hello, > > I was driving my beautiful 15 year-old daughter to her Winter Formal (10th grade) last weekend and the conversation started when she sai that her guy friend said that he’s “Pan SexuaL”. I was like, “What the heck is that?”. She explained it… This night, it was all girls since most guys are “taken”… Let me give you some info on us: > > - We are from Texas and my kids always attended private schools, yes, we lived in a bubble up until… > - We moved to Southern California 6 years ago. Kids were still in privates, sheltered from the crazy world out there, for the most part. > - She suddenly got accepted into a very elite arts high school (after portfolios, interviews, grades) and we were all very excited. But we knew there were a lot of gay boys, since it’s a performing arts school mainly, though they have other conservatories with more diversity. > - She has always had crushes on boys, since 1st grade, she would write them notes, blush, something she started on her own, never pushed or pressured to like boys by anyone. I even told her she was too young and to focus on school but she ALWAYS had a crush on boys. > - She has an older brother who is 18, and she always thought at least one of his friends were cute. > - We sent her to this school, this is her 3rd semester there and she has mentioned boys many times, she even had a date to last year’s Winter Formal and she was very excited about it. BUT she got very disappointed when he didn’t show more interest in her after that date. > - This year she also liked a boy but nothing happened… she says there are too many girls to choose from for those straight boys… > - She has a very supportive group of girlfriends who are mostly straight but last weekend she told me some of them were gay. I stopped breathing knowing where the conversation was heading. > - I said, what are you? Since she was talking about others. > - She said: “you will judge me if I tell you” and she laughed a little. She finally said: “I’m bi”. > I asked her if she’s had any physical/intimate encounters with girls at school and she said no but that whomever she ends up loving in her life, that it wouldn’t matter if they were male or female. > > Keep in mind, this high school is very, very liberal and we didn’t realize how much. I mean, some of the bathroom stalls (we just noticed last week when we visited) have upside down crosses saying “F” Trump and such. Super anti-trump crowd, etc. I don’t like him either, but to keep politics out, just so you get an idea on the crowd… > > - She has become much more feminist this year and a little of last (9th grade), standing up for LGBTQ folks, etc. > > This isn’t your typical “I’ve been gay since I was young”, this is something sudden, but when I asked her since when she felt this way, she said about a year or two, which coincides with her entering this school. > > She is almost 16 but has never had a serious boyfriend, though she dated one in 8th grade and held hands, etc. but they were never alone for making out and stuff. > > I am thinking a few scenarios but I need help, I am freaking out not knowing how to guide her. Of course I was calm and understanding when she told me but I went home and cried all night not knowing how to properly handle it so she wouldn’t be hurt or feel unloved like a lot of teens feel. We are very close and we are definitely traditional with our thinking, we are Catholic, which she’s also suddenly rebelling against as well, when she used to always lead our table prayer at dinner. We definitely think this could be a case where she’s influenced by so many gay people around her meaning that she could be saying that to “fit in” or be cool, get attention, be accepted by others. > > It’s very, very hard to date boys (she loves boys) because of how many are gay and the straight ones at school are all taken, she said. I’m thinking she feels accepted by the sweet girls and may have developed an attraction to that, because it has nothing to do with sex, she’s a virgin and not dating anyone, we talked about it. > > We are very involved parents, always ask questions and talk to our kids but this time she didn’t tell us for the whole year, but she did open up to her older brother about it A YEAR AGO and we didn’t know!!! > > Help, any ideas? We want to guide her, but part of me wants to pull her out of that school, though I know going into 11th grade is the toughest time to do so! She has a 4.2 GPA, excellent student, amazing human being, kind, caring, loving, not a mean bone, is kind to us her parents, we adore her! Help me please! If I pull her out I KNOW she will gt depressed and her grades will drop. She has ZERO emotional issues meaning, there is no depression, trauma, or divorce, NOTHING, we have a pretty stable and even boring home life. 🙂 Don’t come here for advice, Colette. If you’re a Catholic - trust me! instead of getting sympathetic advice here, many of the other posters here will reach out and pull your lower lip pulled up over your head as if it were a leaf of lettuce. Why not approach your pastor, instead, or some of your more devout friends whose parenting skills you admire? The Dope message board - or anyplace on the internet, really - is the last place any caring, sensitive person should be putting their problems out there. As Tom Petty sang: “There’s people running around loose in the world Who ain’t got nothing better to do Than make a meal of some bright-eyed kid.” A good summation of what happens to sincere, devout people who come here. And after they’re done having you for lunch, they gather the crumbs into an oak barrel, add water, let everything ferment, and call it ale. Stay away, Colette. Stay away. I’m a Catholic, and I’m sure I won’t be here much longer. I just hate to be driven away from a public board by bad characters. It seems unfair. ---
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2018, 3:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-15-year-old-daughter-just-told-me-shes-bisexual-help/808721/102 "2018-02-14T03:12:51Z")
Er… have you read any of the rest of the thread, or just the OP? It’s actually been pretty supportive. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2018, 3:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-15-year-old-daughter-just-told-me-shes-bisexual-help/808721/103 "2018-02-14T03:39:59Z")
> [@Broomstick](#): > > Er… have you read any of the rest of the thread, or just the OP? It’s actually been pretty supportive. Not to mention that we have plenty of Catholic posters here – and some of them posted in this very thread. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2018, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-15-year-old-daughter-just-told-me-shes-bisexual-help/808721/104 "2018-02-14T03:53:21Z")
> [@Pantastic](#): > > I don’t understand why you’re posting like you disagree with me, you’ve just explicitly said that grown-ups pushed the idea that you had to be interested in pairing up, you just claim that they waited until you showed some interest in it (which doesn’t contradict me). Apparently we are having an issue with our definitions. Maybe I’m using the wrong words. To me, “had to” and “were expected to” are two completely different things. Students in my primary school were expected to go to college but about 5% of my class chose trade HS or an apprenticeship instead of college-track and only one of them got any pushback (his parents had been hellbent on him being the first person in the family to go to college, to become a lawyer\*; his mother cried; his father yelled; his grandmother didn’t talk to him for a whole two days and sniffled at him for months). Me, I had to go to college: attempts at exploring professions which would have meant trade school were met with “why would you even think of trade school?! With your brain!” It was as unacceptable for me to not go to college as to pull down my panties and take a shit in the middle of the town square. That’s had to. And as for discuss, there was no discussion of “girls like boys” until it happened; there was a vague knowledge that it happened to most girls, but it was just a piece of background information, which moved to the foreground in different ways and at different ages. It wasn’t discussed by my definition of “discuss” unless “my, it’s hot out today!” “yeah, it’s called summer! :p” counts as a discussion. - For some reason, a lot of people who haven’t gone to college or even considered it for themselves have two defaults when they think of sending their own kids to college: doctor and lawyer. They never seem to say “I want my kid to be an engineer” or “I want my kid to be a museum curator”. It’s either doctor or lawyer. ---
**Author:** ![Lucas\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lucas_jackson/32/303_2.png) [@Lucas\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lucas_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2018, 4:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-15-year-old-daughter-just-told-me-shes-bisexual-help/808721/105 "2018-02-14T04:02:31Z")
I gotta hand it to you Colette, you’re good. ---
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2018, 4:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-15-year-old-daughter-just-told-me-shes-bisexual-help/808721/106 "2018-02-14T04:10:14Z")
Collette, you are likely to get support here, not only from people generally sympathetic to your situation, but from those who have actually experienced similar things. Don’t let naysayers drive you off. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2018, 4:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-15-year-old-daughter-just-told-me-shes-bisexual-help/808721/107 "2018-02-14T04:25:39Z")
For the record, I have never, and would never, pull someone’s lower lip pulled up over their head as if it were a leaf of lettuce. It’s redundant and impractical, as lettuce— even hydroponically grown Tom Thumb and Bibb varietals— lacks the requisite elasticity. The once ubiquitous iceberg is, it goes without saying, positively brittle. As Tom Petty sang: “Don’t come around here no more Don’t come around here no more Whatever you’re looking for Hey! don’t come around here no more.” A good summation - believe you me! of advice for alcoholic crumbs. ---
**Author:** ![TreacherousCretin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/treacherouscretin/32/476_2.png) [@TreacherousCretin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TreacherousCretin)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2018, 5:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-15-year-old-daughter-just-told-me-shes-bisexual-help/808721/108 "2018-02-14T05:25:31Z")
> [@Euphrosyne](#): > > I’m a Catholic, and I’m sure I won’t be here much longer. I just hate to be driven away from a public board by bad characters. It seems unfair. The first time our persecution forced you to say farewell, you were back within 45 minutes. ---
**Author:** ![Euphrosyne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d9b06d/32.png) [@Euphrosyne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Euphrosyne)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2018, 12:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-15-year-old-daughter-just-told-me-shes-bisexual-help/808721/109 "2018-02-14T12:25:08Z")
> [@TreacherousCretin](#): > > The first time our persecution forced you to say farewell, you were back within 45 minutes. Right. Because being driven away from a public forum seemed unfair. ---
**Author:** ![GreysonCarlisle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a87d85/32.png) [@GreysonCarlisle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GreysonCarlisle)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2018, 12:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-15-year-old-daughter-just-told-me-shes-bisexual-help/808721/110 "2018-02-14T12:50:12Z")
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**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2018, 12:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-15-year-old-daughter-just-told-me-shes-bisexual-help/808721/111 "2018-02-14T12:58:31Z")
> [@Euphrosyne](#): > > I’m a Catholic, and I’m sure I won’t be here much longer. Cool. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2018, 1:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-15-year-old-daughter-just-told-me-shes-bisexual-help/808721/112 "2018-02-14T13:00:48Z")
> [@Euphrosyne](#): > > Don’t come here for advice, Colette. > > If you’re a Catholic - trust me! instead of getting sympathetic advice here, many of the other posters here will reach out and pull your lower lip pulled up over your head as if it were a leaf of lettuce. > > Why not approach your pastor, instead, or some of your more devout friends whose parenting skills you admire? > > The Dope message board - or anyplace on the internet, really - is the last place any caring, sensitive person should be putting their problems out there. As Tom Petty sang: > > “There’s people running around loose in the world > Who ain’t got nothing better to do > Than make a meal of some bright-eyed kid.” > > A good summation of what happens to sincere, devout people who come here. > > And after they’re done having you for lunch, they gather the crumbs into an oak barrel, add water, let everything ferment, and call it ale. > > Stay away, Colette. Stay away. > > I’m a Catholic, and I’m sure I won’t be here much longer. I just hate to be driven away from a public board by bad characters. It seems unfair. Whoa, whoa, whoa! You are not entitled to use this thread to lob gratuitous insults at the board members and air your grievances. Start a Pit thread if you need to vent your frustrations, but don’t do it in other people’s threads. No warning issued, and stay out of this thread if you can’t contribute productively. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2018, 1:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-15-year-old-daughter-just-told-me-shes-bisexual-help/808721/113 "2018-02-14T13:03:16Z")
Everyone else- I can certainly understand your frustrations, but let’s not make this thread about **Euphrosyne**. Start a Pit thread if you must. No warning issued, but let’s move on. > [@Broomstick](#): > > Er… have you read any of the rest of the thread, or just the OP? It’s actually been pretty supportive. > [@Guinastasia](#): > > Not to mention that we have plenty of Catholic posters here – and some of them posted in this very thread. > [@Lucas\_Jackson](#): > > I gotta hand it to you Colette, you’re good. > [@VinylTurnip](#): > > For the record, I have never, and would never, pull someone’s lower lip pulled up over their head as if it were a leaf of lettuce. It’s redundant and impractical, as lettuce— even hydroponically grown Tom Thumb and Bibb varietals— lacks the requisite elasticity. The once ubiquitous iceberg is, it goes without saying, positively brittle. As Tom Petty sang: > > “Don’t come around here no more > Don’t come around here no more > Whatever you’re looking for > Hey! don’t come around here no more.” > > A good summation - believe you me! of advice for alcoholic crumbs. > [@TreacherousCretin](#): > > The first time our persecution forced you to say farewell, you were back within 45 minutes. > [@kayaker](#): > > Cool. ---
**Author:** ![senoy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dbc845/32.png) [@senoy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/senoy)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2018, 2:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-15-year-old-daughter-just-told-me-shes-bisexual-help/808721/115 "2018-02-14T14:06:06Z")
I’m assuming that your question is not ‘How do I raise my child?’ but rather what is the impact of her current environment on her development? Unfortunately for you, it is huge. As people, we like to pretend that we have more agency than we actually do. We like to picture ourselves as true arbiters of our destiny. We think that our beliefs are the result of long, drawn out philosophical wrestling and cold hard logic. These are largely lies that we tell ourselves to justify our beliefs. Largely, they come from social scripting and from social advantage. Not exclusively, I’m no determinist, but largely. In you daughter’s case, she believes herself to be bisexual. Why? Most likely, it began do to other people identifying themselves as such. She began playing with the identity and was socially reinforced by her peers. There is social gain with such an identification and she subconsciously weighs that gain with the social losses she may take. Similarly, her Catholic beliefs are likely bringing her a degree of social shame in an environment where upside-down crosses are apparently common place, so she experiments with distancing herself from them. It wouldn’t surprise me if at school, she is openly non-Catholic while at home she still says she is. Ultimately, it will be more than a shift in self-described identity and become a shift in belief. It’s fairly normal for us as a social species. The bottom line is that right now, she’s playing with her identity and while she may not be ‘naturally’ bisexual (whatever that means) it is likely that as she continually receives social reinforcement, her belief in who she is will change and she will believe herself to be bisexual which is really the exact same thing as being bisexual. Of course, I will take a lot of flack for saying that because we have a predominant argument that sexual attraction is innate. I think though that we know for a fact that sexual attractiveness is extremely cultural. What we find sexually attractive maybe has some basic biological guidelines, but is heavily, heavily influenced by the culture around us. For instance, look up a painting of Philip the Handsome of Castile. I don’t want to be too much of a jerk about it, but he was rough, but at the time he was considered so handsome that they actually gave him the nickname ‘Handsome’. Similarly, we can look at artistic impressions of men and women throughout history that were famed for their beauty and frequently it makes us scratch our heads. It even happens within our own lifetime. Look at pictures of models from the 70s or 80s and at the time they were considered these ungodly paragons of beauty and now they just don’t have that same quality. Even looking at our own pictures from when we were younger, what we considered handsome or attractive we look at now and sometimes scratch our heads as to what we were thinking. Anyway, we know that sexual attractiveness is largely cultural, but we like to draw lines at sexual orientation and I think that that line is arbitrary. We know that for instance it was considered normal during certain periods in ancient Greece for men to take on younger men as lovers. Does this mean that ancient Greeks were somehow latent homosexuals in incredibly huge numbers? I think that’s a reach. More likely, there was a social script that encouraged this particular sexual behavior and so it was simply normalized (We see a similar thing with the ‘child groupies’ on the west coast in the late 70s. Sex with barely pubescent girls became a normalized behavior within a subculture. This doesn’t mean that rock stars in the 70s were all somehow pedophiles or that young girls at the time were all sexually precocious, it was just socially scripted and they didn’t even consider why they were doing it.) Anyway, to get back to my main point, beliefs are social. Whether you are Christian or atheist, whether you are a Trumpian or never-Trump, whether you are a vegan or a carnivore, an environmentalist or a drill, baby drill-er, and I would even go so far as to say many aspects of your sexuality (I wouldn’t go so far as to say your complete sexuality, biology is not destiny, but it’s certainly another part of the equation.) These beliefs are heavily, heavily influenced and perhaps even controlled by your social network. These beliefs can and do change throughout your life based on the social network you have (It’s why in college many people radically change their beliefs. It has nothing to do with education or maturation and everything to do with the fact that they have severed many ties to their old social networks and have developed completely new ones which forces a shifting of belief.) So to sum up, it wouldn’t surprise me if she believes herself to be bisexual because the people she is hanging out with say being bisexual is cool. There’s the opening of a discussion, I look forward to being challenged on the specifics. ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2018, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-15-year-old-daughter-just-told-me-shes-bisexual-help/808721/116 "2018-02-14T17:00:33Z")
> [@Nava](#): > > - That “might” is kind of important. After all, nuns and priests don’t reproduce by mythosis. Really? I was under the impression that that was the only tool they had to increase their numbers… ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2018, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-15-year-old-daughter-just-told-me-shes-bisexual-help/808721/117 "2018-02-14T17:12:07Z")
> [@Euphrosyne](#): > > I’m a Catholic, and I’m sure I won’t be here much longer. I just hate to be driven away from a public board by bad characters. It seems unfair. Everything else about your post aside (which is why I didn’t copy it to here), what connotations do you consider to be carried by the the word “public” in _public board_ (iyho\*)? \*just in case you happen to have any opinions that can legitimately be labeled as “humble.” Or possibly, “your[s].” ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2018, 5:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-15-year-old-daughter-just-told-me-shes-bisexual-help/808721/118 "2018-02-14T17:21:34Z")
> [@Nava](#): > > Me, I had to go to college: attempts at exploring professions which would have meant trade school were met with “why would you even think of trade school?! With your brain!” (Asking as someone whose admiration for your posts is largely informed by the things you’ve shared about your experiences as an engineer): In light of how your career path DID turn out, would you say that trade school would have offered you any plausible entry to that path? > [@Nava](#): > > - For some reason, a lot of people who haven’t gone to college or even considered it for themselves have two defaults when they think of sending their own kids to college: doctor and lawyer. They never seem to say “I want my kid to be an engineer” or “I want my kid to be a museum curator”. It’s either doctor or lawyer. I HAVE to know: Was engineer even on the table in those discussions in your home? ---
**Author:** ![Euphrosyne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d9b06d/32.png) [@Euphrosyne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Euphrosyne)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2018, 5:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-15-year-old-daughter-just-told-me-shes-bisexual-help/808721/119 "2018-02-14T17:46:05Z")
> [@IvoryTowerDenizen](#): > > Everyone else- I can certainly understand your frustrations, but let’s not make this thread about **Euphrosyne**. > Start a Pit thread if you must. > > No warning issued, but let’s move on. Thank you, Ivory TowerDenizen, for your even-handedness. ---
**Author:** ![Euphrosyne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d9b06d/32.png) [@Euphrosyne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Euphrosyne)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2018, 5:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-15-year-old-daughter-just-told-me-shes-bisexual-help/808721/120 "2018-02-14T17:47:55Z")
> [@kaylasdad99](#): > > Everything else about your post aside (which is why I didn’t copy it to here), what connotations do you consider to be carried by the the word “public” in _public board_ (iyho\*)? > \*just in case you happen to have any opinions that can legitimately be labeled as “humble.” Or possibly, “your[s].” Not going there. Please see Ivory Tower’s (above). ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2018, 5:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-15-year-old-daughter-just-told-me-shes-bisexual-help/808721/121 "2018-02-14T17:49:30Z")
> [@IvoryTowerDenizen](#): > > No warning issued, and stay out of this thread if you can’t contribute productively. > [@IvoryTowerDenizen](#): > > Everyone else- I can certainly understand your frustrations, but let’s not make this thread about **Euphrosyne**. > Start a Pit thread if you must. > > No warning issued, but let’s move on. A mod note telling the poster to step away from the thread, ANOTHER mod note instructing other posters to drop the issue with that poster, and then you deliver this: > [@kaylasdad99](#): > > Everything else about your post aside (which is why I didn’t copy it to here), what connotations do you consider to be carried by the the word “public” in _public board_ (iyho\*)? > > \*just in case you happen to have any opinions that can legitimately be labeled as “humble.” Or possibly, “your[s].” You’re responsible for reading the Moderator instructions in the thread. Don’t let this happen again. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-15-year-old-daughter-just-told-me-shes-bisexual-help/808721.md?page=5) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-15-year-old-daughter-just-told-me-shes-bisexual-help/808721.md?page=7)