I was just non-committal when it came to plans or I would suggest something that was more my style - lunch or coffee. I guess I probably bored her with my ordinary plans and refusal to engage in the drama. Once she knew she couldn’t draw me into the crazy, she went and found someone else to sucker in. Plus I was really started to feel manipulated and that was a really shitty feeling.
Thanks @stolatt, Gawd, I wish that would work for me, unfortunately I need to send back her boyfriends paperwork (for the tax return I am NOT going to do) and that’s going to be a pretty dramatic moment, it wouldn’t be right not to return it though.
I’ve drafted up my letter and am ready to send it and put this out of my mind - phew! 