# My Big Fab Gay Wedding®: Help with the DJ song list! **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [September 27, 2003, 6:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184 "2003-09-27T18:32:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![scott\_evil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/91b2a8/32.png) [@scott\_evil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scott_evil)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2003, 6:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/1 "2003-09-27T18:32:08Z")
So far I’ve posted **My Big Fab Gay Wedding®** threads in MPSIMS and IMHO. Now I’m extending the hype to Cafe Society. (I’m sure as the date approaches, you’ll see quite a few Pit threads about the wedding, as I’m sure to turn into a Groomzilla.) We’re less than a year away: the blessed and _très_ gay occasion is still scheduled for **September 18, 2004**.\* For the music, Jer is planning on flying one of his club DJ friends up from Florida. (Jer used to work in Miami/South Beach gay bars, the ones the likes of Gloria Estefan, Madonna, and Ricky Martin - _quelle surprise_ - would frequent.) However, even though I’m sure DJ-friend has an extensive collection of today’s hottest and phattest grooves and yesterday’s classics, my love for slightly-more-obscure 70s disco - and my insistence that these songs be played at the wedding reception that _I’m planning_ (Groomzilla emerges!), we’re going to need to find these on CD. I figure a couple of good 70s box sets should give us a lot of these songs, but some of them we’ll have to buy on individual artists’ greatest hits collections, or elsewhere. Anyway, here’s the list, in no particular order, save for the first few slow dances. The rest was as I thought of the songs by artist, though we might play Cher’s “swarthy trilogy” and her 1979 disco hit “Take Me Home” in sequence. Same thing for the Madonna set. You’ll note the absence of cliché “gay” songs such as “I Will Survive” and “YMCA” and “It’s Raining Men”. I prefer to compose my gay setlist with a little more class, creativity, and subtlety. Any suggestions? How much time do we have to fill, and how many songs does that translate to? This is strictly for the after-dinner part; during dinner we’ll play mellow jazz or bossanova lounge music or something. And don’t hit me for including Clay Aiken. Hopefully he’ll have come out by then. 😃 **Our dance:** O-o-ooh Child - The Five Stairsteps **Slow dance:** The First Time Ever I Saw Your Face - Roberta Flack **Slow dance:** This Is the Night - Clay Aiken Venus - Bananarama Xanadu - Oliva Newton-John TSOP - MFSB She’s A Lady - Tom Jones Gypsies, Tramps & Thieves - Cher Half Breed - Cher Dark Lady - Cher Take Me Home - Cher If I Can’t Have You - Yvonne Elliman More Than A Woman - Tavares Love Machine Pt. 1 - The Miracles Midnight At The Oasis - Maria Muldaur History Repeating Itself - Shirley Bassey (Something About Mary soundtrack) Express Yourself - Madonna Vogue - Madonna Like A Prayer - Madonna (Your Love Has Lifted Me) Higher and Higher - Rita Coolidge The Hustle - Van McCoy and the Soul City Orchestra Deeper & Deeper - Madonna Strike It Up - Black Box I Don’t Know Anybody Else - Black Box Fantasy - Earth, Wind & Fire **Slow dance:** Your Song - Elton John Come On, Eileen - Dexy’s Midnight Runners Native New Yorker - Odyssey **Slow dance:** Rocket Man - Elton John Heaven Must Be Missing An Angel - Tavares You Make Me Feel (Mighty Real) - Sylvester I Feel Love - Donna Summer Rock the Boat - Hues Corporation Love Is In The Air - John Paul Young I’m Coming Out - Diana Ross Don’t Leave Me This Way - Thelma Houston Flashback - Imagination Ain’t No Mountain High Enough - Diana Ross Never Can Say Goodbye - Gloria Gaynor You’re My First, My Last, My Everything - Barry White I Love To Love - Tina Charles Dance (Disco Heat) - Sylvester Dreamgirls - Original Broadway Cast **Slow dance:** Killing Me Softly With His Song - Roberta Flack Souvenirs - Voyager Lady Marmalade - LaBelle Car Wash - Rose Royce Going Back To My Roots - Odyssey When Will I See You Again? - The Three Degrees Dirty Ol’ Man - The Three Degrees Dance, Dance, Dance (Yowza, Yowza, Yowza) - Chic Ain’t No Stoppin’ Us Now - McFadden & Whitehead I need more suggestions for slow dances. 🙂 - I wanted the second Saturday in September, but because 2004 is a leap year, that would fall on Sept. 11, and so… ☹ ---
**Author:** ![vanilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/f19dbf/32.png) [@vanilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vanilla)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2003, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/2 "2003-09-27T18:37:46Z")
More Than A Woman? Funny! 🙂 and congrats!!! ---
**Author:** ![Husker\_Dude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Husker\_Dude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Husker_Dude)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2003, 6:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/3 "2003-09-27T18:38:09Z")
The Smiths - Hand In Glove Electric Six -Gay Bar Maybe, I dunno… Congrats with your wedding! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![scott\_evil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/91b2a8/32.png) [@scott\_evil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scott_evil)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2003, 7:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/4 "2003-09-27T19:08:56Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by vanilla \* > \*\*More Than A Woman? > Funny! > 🙂 > and congrats!!! \*\* Interesting you should post that. Jer got home a few minutes ago, and I had web radio disco on, and what came on but “More Than A Woman” (the Tavares version, which I prefer to the Bee Gees original). I said we’d have to use some creative digital sound editing to convert it to… … wait for this … **"More Than A Bottom"** 😃 I crack myself up. And I scare the hell out of everyone else. Oh well. ---
**Author:** ![scott\_evil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/91b2a8/32.png) [@scott\_evil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scott_evil)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2003, 7:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/5 "2003-09-27T19:10:22Z")
Oh yeah, the “Gay Bar” song, thanks **Hüsker Düde**. Added. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![scott\_evil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/91b2a8/32.png) [@scott\_evil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scott_evil)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2003, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/6 "2003-09-27T19:11:33Z")
And what comes on web radio just now? “When Will I See You Again?” … the song that was playing in the supermarket on one of our first “dates.” _::sigh::_ 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![scott\_evil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/91b2a8/32.png) [@scott\_evil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scott_evil)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2003, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/7 "2003-09-27T19:13:07Z")
Web radio is reading my mind today! :eek: I’ve given in and added a rather gay song… “Dancing Queen” by ABBA. ---
**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2003, 8:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/8 "2003-09-27T20:06:57Z")
Come What May - Moulin Rouge soundtrack (slow) Trick of Fate - Valerie Pinkston (Trick soundtrack) (slow) I Feel You - Depeche Mode (slow - sort of) Don’t Go Breakin’ My Heart - Elton John and Ru Paul Song on the Sand - La Cage Aux Folles OCR (slow) The Nightingale - Julee Cruise/Twin Peaks soundtrack (slow) Rockin’ Back Inside My Heart - Julee Cruise/Twin Peaks soundtrack (slow) Native Love (Step by Step) - Divine Tubthumping - Chumbawumba You Must Love Me - Evita soundtrack (slow) You and Me - Victor/Victoria soundtrack (slow) The Macarena The Ketchup Song Boot Scootin’ Boogie Achy Breaky Heart ow! stop hitting me, i’m kidding! Hey scott, any plans to webcast the wedding and/or reception? ---
**Author:** ![scott\_evil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/91b2a8/32.png) [@scott\_evil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scott_evil)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2003, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/9 "2003-09-27T20:35:27Z")
Well, **Otto** , we do intend to invite many gay Dopers and their SOs - regardless if we think they’ll be able to make it - so you might just be there yourself. You never know. 🙂 However, we might videotape it, and since I work in video, I doubt it will be a problem for someone to edit it all together wonderfully, author a DVD, and burn it to DVDs that we can send with our thank-you cards. ---
**Author:** ![WordMan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e8c25b/32.png) [@WordMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WordMan)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2003, 8:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/10 "2003-09-27T20:38:51Z")
Given your criteria, you have a wonderful selection, **scott** May I suggest: - The Gap Band - you have _no_ Gap Band on you list. This must be addressed immediately. Either “You Dropped a Bomb on Me” or “Put the Pedal to the Metal and Burn Rubber on Me” (can’t remember its real name. Critical. - Not the least bit obscure, but Queen’s “Another One Bites the Dust” would fit in quite well. - Hmmm, no true funk, per se. And I am not sure if you would want it, but I have to offer the Isley Brothers’ “Fight the Power”, James Brown’s “Sex Machine”, “Cold Sweat” or “Papa’s Got a Brand New Bag” - I am sure the last one could be re-interpreted to fit your wedding… - And no rap, yet, Sugar Hill’s “Rapper’s Delight” _is_ based on a Chic bass groove. Understandable if you leave it off, but could be a great choice… All for now - let me know how I did and there may be more… ---
**Author:** ![scott\_evil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/91b2a8/32.png) [@scott\_evil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scott_evil)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2003, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/11 "2003-09-27T20:47:23Z")
Wow, no O’Jays on the list. That’s a serious omission. Gotta have “Love Train”! **WordMan** , MFSB is _kind of_ funk… more soul, though. You’re right in that there must be some tracks by the Gap Band. I’ve also neglected to include Crown Heights Affair (“Galaxy of Love”, “Dreamin’ a Dream”). ---
**Author:** ![scott\_evil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/91b2a8/32.png) [@scott\_evil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scott_evil)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2003, 9:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/12 "2003-09-27T21:02:53Z")
Also, I’m including original versions, so “Don’t Go Breaking My Heart” will be the original Elton John/Kiki Dee version. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2003, 9:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/13 "2003-09-27T21:04:58Z")
Well, **Otto** got there first with “You and Me” from the movie Victor/Victoria. That’s one of my favorite sequences from the film. I hear what you said about the Sept. 11 date. Wonder how many years it will be before people start planning “happy” events, like weddings, on that day again? ---
**Author:** ![Husker\_Dude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Husker\_Dude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Husker_Dude)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2003, 9:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/14 "2003-09-27T21:24:03Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by scott evil \* > \*\*Oh yeah, the “Gay Bar” song, thanks **Hüsker Düde**. Added. 🙂 \*\* Cool. 🙂 If you want some more silly rock in the similar vein, you should check out some classic tunes from the homoerotic Norwegian punk band: Turbonegro. Maybe ‘Prince of the Rodeo’ (this one is really danceable) or ‘Get It On.’ ---
**Author:** ![moriah](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b2d939/32.png) [@moriah](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/moriah)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2003, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/15 "2003-09-27T21:39:10Z")
What? No _ **ABBA?** _ What kind of [self-respecting faggot](http://home.rochester.rr.com/dietch/lyrics/whatkfag.txt) are you? For your penance, you must watch _The Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert_ again. Consider: **Slow dance:** Stand By Your Man - Tammy Wynette **Slow dance:** To Sir, With Love - Lulu **Slow dance:** I’ve Got a Crush on You - Linda Rhonstadt From the Red, Hot + Blue album, a tribute to Cole Porter / Red Hot AIDS Benefit series… **Slow dance:** You Do Something To Me - Sinead O Connor ## **Slow dance:** So In Love - K.D. Lang Peace [sub]And what about the time warp?..[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![bryanmaguire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/d07c76/32.png) [@bryanmaguire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bryanmaguire)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2003, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/16 "2003-09-27T22:05:17Z")
finally - ce ce peniston The lyrics will be just perfect for ya. ---
**Author:** ![Sassy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e47c2d/32.png) [@Sassy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sassy)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2003, 10:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/17 "2003-09-27T22:13:45Z")
So happy to see _Sylvester_ on the list. If you need to find some of these songs, I suggest browsing [emusic](http://www.emusic.com). In US$ it’s 9.95 a month, and I found many of the listed tunes there - which was a delight, because I didn’t really need all of Sylvester, but I surely needed some 🆒 emusic is a little short on anything modern, but has a great selection of oldies and compilations. ---
**Author:** ![jackelope](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a6a055/32.png) [@jackelope](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jackelope)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2003, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/18 "2003-09-27T22:23:27Z")
Well, I’m not gay, and I’m a _terrible_ dancer, but Captain & Tenille’s “Love Will Keep Us Together” always gets me out there shaking it. Congrats on the wedding; hope everything goes perfectly! (I feel SO unchic compared to y’all…) ---
**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2003, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/19 "2003-09-28T00:02:51Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by scott evil \* > **Well, Otto, we do intend to invite many gay Dopers and their SOs - regardless if we think they’ll be able to make it - so you might just be there yourself. You never know. 🙂** Well damn, I guess I’d better get that wedding napkin ordered. ---
**Author:** ![Biggirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/biggirl/32/3294_2.png) [@Biggirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biggirl)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2003, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/20 "2003-09-28T01:53:14Z")
Can I come to your wedding, **Scott**? That’s my kind of song list! Let’s see what I can think of: Slow: **Reasons** – Earth, Wind and Fire **And I Am Telling You** – Jennifer Holliday (make sure Jer knows where you stand on divorce.) **One In A Million** – Larry Graham **Always And Forever** – Heatwave **Purple Rain** – Prince Fast: **Walking On Sunshine** – Katrina and the Waves **Groove Is In The Heart** – Deelite **Jungle Love** – The Time (Can I ask to have this dance with you? You are inviting me, right?) Oooh, having a brainfreeze. Must think more. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184.md?page=2)