# My Big Fab Gay Wedding®: Help with the DJ song list! **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [September 27, 2003, 6:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184 "2003-09-27T18:32:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Biggirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/biggirl/32/3294_2.png) [@Biggirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biggirl)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2003, 1:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/21 "2003-09-28T01:59:25Z")
P.S. I’m kidding about being invited. Unless you really were going to invite me, then I’m not. It’s not like I could make it or anything. ---
**Author:** ![moriah](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b2d939/32.png) [@moriah](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/moriah)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2003, 2:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/22 "2003-09-28T14:08:03Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by jackelope \* > \*\*Well, I’m not gay, and I’m a _terrible_ dancer, but Captain & Tenille’s “Love Will Keep Us Together” always gets me out there shaking it. > > (I feel SO unchic compared to y’all…) \*\* …As well as you should. That song is sooooo straight. (Although, it just might work for Lesbians.) But you do get points for at least trying to dance. Keep at it, get a gay friend and someday you’ll finally aspire to the utlra-chic status of fag stag. ## Peace. Order now, and get Gaydar 3000 v1.2! ---
**Author:** ![cherry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/da6949/32.png) [@cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cherry)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2003, 2:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/23 "2003-09-28T14:30:55Z")
That song from the pretty woman soundtrack, it’s called “fallen” “I cant believe it, you’re a dream coming true” "I cant believe it, how I’ve fallen for you” etc. I think that’s a nice slow song, also: wicked games-Chris Isaac ---
**Author:** ![todd33rpm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a5b964/32.png) [@todd33rpm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/todd33rpm)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2003, 2:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/24 "2003-09-28T14:34:32Z")
Thinking of slow dance possibilities… Rufus Wainwright - “Greek Song” (from _Poses_) Kate And Anna McGarrigle - “Love Is” (from _Heartbeats Accelerating_)\* Fab in their own way, for one of my favorite posters…and congrats from down this-a-way too… (\*Those are the U.S. albums…I assume that they’re the same in Canada, but you may need to dig a little bit.) ---
**Author:** ![scott\_evil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/91b2a8/32.png) [@scott\_evil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scott_evil)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2003, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/25 "2003-09-28T14:53:00Z")
Thanks, **todd33rpm**. I’ll look those up on MSN Music and give them a quick listen. I trust the judgment of someone whose username leads me to believe they’re a DJ. One of your favorite posters? Check your email. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![scott\_evil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/91b2a8/32.png) [@scott\_evil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scott_evil)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2003, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/26 "2003-09-28T15:24:41Z")
Some additions since yesterday. Boogie Oogie Oogie - Taste of Honey Gay Bar - Electric Six Dancing Queen - ABBA Come To Me - France Joli Don’t Go Breaking My Heart - Elton John and Kiki Dee **Slow dance:** You Must Love Me - Madonna (Evita soundtrack) Love Train - O’Jays Dreamin’ a Dream - Crown Heights Affair **Slow dance:** You And Me Against The World - Helen Reddy I Am Woman - Helen Reddy **Slow dance:** The Way Of Love - Cher I’ve also decided (and informed Jer) that the DJ will be under strict orders to **not take requests**. As Groomzilla, I _will not have unapproved songs played_. I don’t anyone going up and requesting YMCA or the Chicken Dance or Volare or some cheezy shit other than the cheezy shit I’ve selected. Listen, I know I have control issues. But this is **My Big Fab Gay Wedding®** and I’m allowed. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![scott\_evil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/91b2a8/32.png) [@scott\_evil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scott_evil)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 10:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/27 "2003-09-29T10:36:04Z")
Right. One of my original questions that’s gone unanswered is how much time do we have to fill? Are there too many songs? Keep in mind this is all for after the dinner, the toasts will all have been made, and it’ll be time to “get down… boogie oogie oogie” as the song goes. Does the spotlight (or whatever you call it) dance happen before the dinner? I haven’t been to a wedding in years. One thing we’re _not_ doing is that “father of the bride cuts in, then the groom asks the mother of the bride, and then the father of the groom cuts in and dances with the father of the bride, then the token drunken uncle dances with the dog … ah, shit, let’s just go to the flowchart” thing. So let’s say these are three to four minute songs, with few interruptions. On the list so far are about 65 songs, so multiplied by 4 and divided by 60, that’s a little over four hours of music. If dinner’s all wrapped up by, say, 7 PM, and we plan to party until let’s say 2 AM (remember, there will be no booze, but everyone will be speeding on caffeine from the coffee/juice bar) … crap, that’s 7 hours of music! OK, I need more suggestions. Disco disco disco. ---
**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 12:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/28 "2003-09-29T12:04:02Z")
Are you looking for critique of your list in any way? Because there was a “what not to play at weddings” thread a while back and I think maybe a couple of your choices are on it…(don’t hurt me) Let’s Hear It For the Boy - Denise Williams Come To My Window - Melissa Etheridge Romeo and Juliet - Alec Costandinos I Found Love (Now That I Found You) - Love and Kisses Can’t Take My Eyes Off of You - Boystown Gang More More More - Andrea True Connection ---
**Author:** ![MsRobyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/90ced4/32.png) [@MsRobyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsRobyn)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 1:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/29 "2003-09-29T13:26:19Z")
So far, they’re all good choices. Nothing too objectionable, like Britney Spears or any of her ilk. Please keep it that way. 😉 [sub]Hey, I’ve gotta listen to this, y’know![/sub] Robin ---
**Author:** ![DeVena](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/dec6dc/32.png) [@DeVena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DeVena)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 1:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/30 "2003-09-29T13:57:14Z")
If the wedding’s in September then you must have **September - Earth, Wind & Fire**!! ---
**Author:** ![DeskMonkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f14d63/32.png) [@DeskMonkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DeskMonkey)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 3:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/31 "2003-09-29T15:09:49Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by scott evil \* > \*\*I’ve also decided (and informed Jer) that the DJ will be under strict orders to **not take requests**. As Groomzilla, I _will not have unapproved songs played_. I don’t anyone going up and requesting YMCA or the Chicken Dance or Volare or some cheezy shit other than the cheezy shit I’ve selected. > > Listen, I know I have control issues. But this is **My Big Fab Gay Wedding®** and I’m allowed. 😉 \*\* Actually, there’s a great techno version of the Chicken Dance out there. It’s really funny and would give great opportunity for Groomzillas and their guests to make fun of a silly tradition while dancing like crazy monkeys. We almost used it, but then I abandoned the whole idea of making mixed CDs for the reception and just used some already-made retro lounge CDs. It’s great that you could get a DJ you can count on not to get all Achy Breaky. Congrats! I just got hitched 6 months ago and let me tell you, the planning can become quite a monster. Beware! And have fun! And go to as many cake-tastings as you can! ---
**Author:** ![lost4life](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c4cdca/32.png) [@lost4life](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lost4life)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 3:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/32 "2003-09-29T15:25:12Z")
As someone who has DJed many a wedding, I suggest you add **Shining Star** by **Earth, Wind & Fire**. Also, when you’re calculating the time, remember that the dj will be mixing the tunes and cutting off the endings of many songs, not to mention possibly increasing the pitch, so you’ll fit a few more songs than planned. I’ve never done a gay wedding, but have done some mostly gay parties…I did a Jehovah Witness wedding once… So would Divine doing Walk Like a Man be to cliche? ---
**Author:** ![DeskMonkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f14d63/32.png) [@DeskMonkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DeskMonkey)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 3:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/33 "2003-09-29T15:30:52Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by scott evil \* > \*\*Right. One of my original questions that’s gone unanswered is how much time do we have to fill? Are there too many songs? Keep in mind this is all for after the dinner, the toasts will all have been made, and it’ll be time to “get down… boogie oogie oogie” as the song goes. > > Does the spotlight (or whatever you call it) dance happen before the dinner? I haven’t been to a wedding in years. One thing we’re _not_ doing is that “father of the bride cuts in, then the groom asks the mother of the bride, and then the father of the groom cuts in and dances with the father of the bride, then the token drunken uncle dances with the dog … ah, shit, let’s just go to the flowchart” thing. > > So let’s say these are three to four minute songs, with few interruptions. On the list so far are about 65 songs, so multiplied by 4 and divided by 60, that’s a little over four hours of music. If dinner’s all wrapped up by, say, 7 PM, and we plan to party until let’s say 2 AM (remember, there will be no booze, but everyone will be speeding on caffeine from the coffee/juice bar) … crap, that’s 7 hours of music! > > OK, I need more suggestions. Disco disco disco. \*\* Has your DJ done weddings before? You may want to tell him what sort of things you want to do (cake-cutting, bouquet tossing, first dance, etc. . .) That way he can lead the crowd into these activities and can kind of set the pace for the evening (under your careful instruction, of course 😉 ) It sounds like you plan of having lots of dancing, so having too many songs is better than not enough. People will want to request things and that could cut into some of your selected music. Make sure you tell him which songs simply MUST be played and if they’re for a special part of the evening. Then let him figure out the rest. The last thing you need to do is stress over music. You’ll be so busy, you probably won’t even notice if he skips a tune here and there. Trust him to make it cool. The first dance is usually before dinner, right when you enter the room (if you’re going to be introduced as a couple at the very beginning of the reception). I think other special dances can happen here, too. Mother, father of the groom type dances. Then everybody can dance for a little bit. Then they settle in for dinner. Remember, you’ll have a lot of schmoozing to do. No fun for you until you’ve both talked to everyone and thanked them for coming. This will keep you very busy for a couple of hours at least. Then you can boogie-oogie-oogie to your heart’s content. Oh, and my most very favorite love song is “Everlasting Love” by Natalie Cole. It’s upbeat and danceable, and is just so joyful. We used it on the mixed CD that served as our invitations (it had all sorts of wedding-y and forever-y songs on it). Put that one in for me! ---
**Author:** ![moriah](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b2d939/32.png) [@moriah](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/moriah)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 3:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/34 "2003-09-29T15:41:26Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by scott evil \* > **Some additions since yesterday. > …Dancing Queen - ABBA … > I Am Woman - Helen Reddy…** Ahhh, ABBA. You’ve got your gay-roove back. As you go over your list, you may want to think about how you would actually dance to some of these songs. While _I Am Woman_ would be _fun_, it’s not going to be easy to dance to. > [@](#): > > \*\*I’ve also decided (and informed Jer) that the DJ will be under strict orders to **not take requests**. As Groomzilla, I _will not have unapproved songs played_. I don’t anyone going up and requesting YMCA or the Chicken Dance or Volare or some cheezy shit other than the cheezy shit I’ve selected. … > > …Does the spotlight (or whatever you call it) dance happen before the dinner? I haven’t been to a wedding in years. One thing we’re not doing is that “father of the bride cuts in, then the groom asks the mother of the bride, and then the father of the groom cuts in and dances with the father of the bride, then the token drunken uncle dances with the dog … ah, shit, let’s just go to the flowchart” thing. … > > Listen, I know I have control issues. But this is **My Big Fab Gay Wedding®** and I’m allowed. 😉 > \*\* Remember this: You _should_ take control. (And by ‘you’ I’m using the plural of you two.) You do what you want. Throw out any traditions you don’t want, make up any you do want. Don’t feel straightjacketed (pun intended) by any supposed ‘norm’ of wedding receptions. Most of the stuff that goes on at receptions is hokey (hey, do ya wanna do the _Hokey Pokey_?) and sometimes inappropriate (as when a 10 year old boy catches the garter belt and is expected to put it on the woman who caught the bouquet). You set the appropriate boundaries, and if your guests don’t like it (e.g., they’re upset they can’t make song requests or drink hard liquor), that’s their problem. You only become groomzilla when you become mean, imposing, and totally unreasonable. ## Peace. [sub]Psssst. Don’t forget the _Alley Cat_.[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![plnnr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@plnnr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/plnnr)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 3:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/35 "2003-09-29T15:57:07Z")
You’re the Best Thing, That Every Happened To Me - Gladys Knight and the Pips You Make Me Feel (Like A Natural Woman) - Aretha Franklin ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 5:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/36 "2003-09-29T17:40:56Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by scott evil \* > \*\*… wait for this … > > **"More Than A Bottom"** 😃 > > I crack myself up. And I scare the hell out of everyone else. Oh well. \*\* :eek: If you get it done, can i have a copy for my wedding (hey, ya know you don’t have to be homosexual to be a pervert 😃 )? And congradulations 🙂 🙂 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![etv78](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d78d45/32.png) [@etv78](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/etv78)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/37 "2003-09-29T18:44:14Z")
“I’ll Stand by You”-Pretenders Any slow song by Chicago or Journey “With or Without You”/“One”/“Sweetest Thing”-U2 “Grow Old Along with Me”-Mary Chapin “Unchained Melody”-Righteous Bros. ---
**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/38 "2003-09-29T19:22:05Z")
I Did It All For Love - Peter Cetera/Karate Kid soundtrack Everything I Do I Do It For You - Bryan Adams (hate it myself but it’s slow and sappy) Heaven - Bryan Adams Heaven - that dance version that came out a few years back There Must Be An Angel - Eurythmics Can’t Get Enough of Your Love Babe - Barry White Doctor’s Order’s - Carol Douglas Everlasting Love - Carl Carlton Everybody Dance - Chic Funkytown - Lipps, Inc. The Hustle - Van McCoy ---
**Author:** ![vibrotronica](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/a9a28c/32.png) [@vibrotronica](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vibrotronica)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 8:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/39 "2003-09-29T20:46:02Z")
Use the Sly and the Family Stone version of " (Your Love) Higher and Higher"–much better. As others have said, The Gap Band is a must. “You Dropped a Bomb on Me” will get everyone not already on the dance floor out there. I’m also partial to “Burn Rubber (Why You Wanna Hurt Me?)” I notice a lack of Prince on your list. “If I Was Your Girlfriend”! “Sexy MF”! “Delierious”! Or The Time’s “Jungle Love” and “The Bird” ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2003, 10:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184/40 "2003-09-29T22:33:36Z")
We burned 5 cds of songs for our wedding (90 songs), and used 3 1/2 (about 60 songs) of them. Our dance lasted till 1:00 am. Do make sure the DJ plays your favourites early on; we had some of my favourites on the last cds, and just didn’t get to them. Here is the song list from our wedding (we took about a year to come up with this list, so there may be a few forgotten treasures on it; we tried to make sure there were Canadian songs on it as well, and keep the songs appropriate for weddings - no “Every Breath you Take” by the Police): Suddenly - Billy Ocean (our first dance; sigh) Can I Have This Dance - Anne Murray (parents’ dance - also, a great waltz) Unforgettable - Nat King Cole & Natalie Cole (so cliched, but still so beautiful) Home for a Rest - Spirit of the West (this was the most fun dance song I’ve ever danced to - everyone was up jumping up and down and stomping and pretending to be Newfies) Something - The Beatles Something About You - Level 42 My Girl - Temptations Always a Woman - Billy Joel When You Say Nothing At All - Alison Krause & Union Station Shake Your Bootie - KC & The Sunshine Band (lord how I love dancing to this song) Save a Prayer - Duran Duran Take My Breath Away - Berlin Hold On, I’m Coming - Sam & Dave Love Me Do - The Beatles Emotion - Bee Gees You Sexy Thing - Hot Chocolate Crazy Little Thing Called Love - Queen Oyo Como Va- Carlos Santana La Isla Bonita - Madonna Forever Man - Eric Clapton Boogie Wonderland - Earth, Wind & Fire Obsession - Animotion Riverboat Fantasy - David Wilcox Forever and Ever, Amen - Randy Travis How Deep is Your Love - Bee Gees Thunder - AC/DC House Is Rockin’ - Stevie Ray Vaughan Rock This Town - Stray Cats Smooth Criminal - Alien Ant Farm Midnight Special - CCR You’re The One That I Want - Olivia Newton John & John Travolta Pump Up the Volume - M/A/R/R/S Right Here, Right Now - Jesus Jones I Wanna Hold Your Hand - The Beatles Two Hearts Beat as One - U2 Head to Toe - Lisa Lisa & Cult Jam Eyes Like Yours - Shakira (a fantastic merengue) Faded - Soul Decision Sign Your Name - D’Arby, Terence Trent I Will Always Love You - Whitney Houston U Can’t Touch This - MC Hammer Wake Me Up Before You Go-Go - Wham I Can’t Wait - Nu Shooz When Something Is Wrong With My Baby - Sam & Dave Let’s Go All the Way - Sly Fox Push It - Salt & Pepa The Power - Snap Smooth - Carlos Santana & Rob Thomas (a great cha-cha) Hooked on Polkas - Weird Al Yankovic Let’s Get Loud - Jennifer Lopez (another great merengue) Loverboy - Billy Ocean Conga - Miami Sound Machine Open Arms - Journey Kiss - Prince Celebration - Kool & the Gang Wild Thing (Funky Cold Medina) - Tone Loc Jump, Jive and Wail - Brian Setzer Orchestra (not too surpisingly, a great jive) New York Groove - Ace Frehley Summer Nights - John, Olivia Newton & Travolta, John Three Times a Lady - Commodores That’s the Way I Like it - KC & The Sunshine Band I Was Made For Loving You - Kiss Paradise by the Dashboard Light - Meatloaf Ordinary Day - Great Big Sea Pride & Joy - Stevie Ray Vaughan When a Man Loves a Woman - Percy Sledge (okay, maybe not completely appropriate) A Word in Spanish - Elton John Let’s Get it On - Marvin Gaye (I had to play this at our wedding) Jive Talkin’ - Bee Gees To be a Lover - Billy Idol Enjoy Yourself - Jackson Five 100 % Pure Love - Crystal Waters Layla, Acoustic Version - Eric Clapton Unchained Melody - Righteous Brothers Sunshine of Your Love - Eric Clapton Bailamos - Enrique Iglesias (a great salsa) Hungry Like the Wolf - Duran Duran Stand by Me - Ben E. King I Wanna Rock With You - Michael Jackson Givin’ Him Something He Can Feel - En Vogue Hot in the City - Billy Idol Hold On - En Vogue Come Undone - Duran Duran Don’t You (Forget About Me) - Simple Minds Don’t Ask Me Why - Billy Joel Right Now - Van Halen You Make Lovin’ Fun - Fleetwood Mac Sugar Pie Honey Bunch - Four Tops All the Lovers in the World - Lawrence Gowan Kiss On My List - Hall & Oates Everlasting Love - Howard Jones Walkin’ On Sunshine - Katrina & the Waves Stairway to Heaven - Led Zeppelin There ya go - should be some ideas in there. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-help-with-the-dj-song-list/204184.md?page=3)