# My Big Fab Gay Wedding®: Our appointment with the bridal registry consultant! **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 19, 2003, 2:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-our-appointment-with-the-bridal-registry-consultant/189525 "2003-07-19T02:39:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2003, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-our-appointment-with-the-bridal-registry-consultant/189525/21 "2003-07-19T16:39:57Z")
Listen to **furlibusea**. Their post is almost exactly what I would have written, and they did it better. Those small items can really add up, the measuring cups and spoons, good spatulas, you know, the little stuff. ---
**Author:** ![Blackeyes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/f6c823/32.png) [@Blackeyes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackeyes)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2003, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-our-appointment-with-the-bridal-registry-consultant/189525/22 "2003-07-19T16:40:43Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Biggirl \* > \*\*Tiaras. \*\* YES! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![scott\_evil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/91b2a8/32.png) [@scott\_evil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scott_evil)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2003, 5:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-our-appointment-with-the-bridal-registry-consultant/189525/23 "2003-07-19T17:44:34Z")
**jjimm** , my parents gave me a fondue set a couple of years ago. Really nice one, too. And it’s in “storage” on top of the fridge… 😃 ---
**Author:** ![scott\_evil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/91b2a8/32.png) [@scott\_evil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scott_evil)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2003, 5:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-our-appointment-with-the-bridal-registry-consultant/189525/24 "2003-07-19T17:56:49Z")
And yes, **jjimm** , “bridal” annoys me. I actually did a web search for the equivalent (“groomal?”) but nothing came up. It’s a wedding gift registry. The same-sex marriage bill isn’t even law yet - it’s too soon to expect the wedding industry to start using terms that include gay marriage, or to stop assuming that where there’s a groom, there’s a bride, or vice-versa. I still take a lot of satisfaction in knowing we’re the first male couple to register at the downtown Bay store, though. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![dave316](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/76d3ee/32.png) [@dave316](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dave316)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2003, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-our-appointment-with-the-bridal-registry-consultant/189525/25 "2003-07-19T19:30:07Z")
don’t forget power tools like a drill ---
**Author:** ![stargazer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eb8c5e/32.png) [@stargazer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stargazer)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2003, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-our-appointment-with-the-bridal-registry-consultant/189525/26 "2003-07-19T20:34:16Z")
Oh, just go in there and go nuts with the scanner thingy. Believe me, you’ll find _plenty_ of things you’ll “need” when other people are theoretically buying them for you. 🙂 Also, a lot of places give you a discount on things you registered for, if you didn’t get them for the wedding. So you win either way! But do give people a wide price range, so they can have the fun of contributing to your love nest. Some of my co-workers went in together to get us a big gift, which was great, and some of my poor college friends got us some towels, which was also great – and somewhat more useful than the fondue pot! ---
**Author:** ![mangeorge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d78d45/32.png) [@mangeorge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mangeorge)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2003, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-our-appointment-with-the-bridal-registry-consultant/189525/27 "2003-07-19T21:00:30Z")
Well, cool. Congratulations. Truly unique gifts are hard to come up with, but your username inspires me to suggest [one of these](http://start.earthlink.net/newsarticle?cat=6&aid=D7SCPRRG0_story), 😉 which I just started a thread about. Much happiness to you both, and may the rest of the world catch up. Peace, mangeorge ---
**Author:** ![Potter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Potter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Potter)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2003, 9:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-our-appointment-with-the-bridal-registry-consultant/189525/28 "2003-07-19T21:38:26Z")
Receiving knives as a gift is bad luck; you are supposed to give a penny in return to the person that gave them to you so they become a purchase. If you believe in such things… I was thinking along the lines of some hugely phallic cactus with a pink flower on top. It’s either that, or matching His and His bunny slippers. I will be a disgustingly smug non-smoker by then, so my traditional gift of a kitschy porn ashtray is quite out of the question. ---
**Author:** ![Potter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Potter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Potter)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2003, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-our-appointment-with-the-bridal-registry-consultant/189525/29 "2003-07-19T21:39:38Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by scott evil \* > \*\* > I still take a lot of satisfaction in knowing we’re the first male couple to register at the downtown Bay store, though._\* Oops, forgot to add that I find that extremely cool 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2003, 9:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-our-appointment-with-the-bridal-registry-consultant/189525/30 "2003-07-19T21:41:28Z")
Two things: First, to people who complain about the cost of wedding gifts, you can not buy the happy couple a gift and you’re not breaking any laws. Your invitation doesn’t obligate you to do anything, except RSVP. If you feel you must buy a gift, it doesn’t have to be something on the registry. Second, shouldn’t these threads be titled **Our** Big Fab Gay Wedding? As I understand it, there are traditioanlly two at the altar. ---
**Author:** ![Potter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Potter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Potter)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2003, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-our-appointment-with-the-bridal-registry-consultant/189525/31 "2003-07-19T21:51:24Z")
“Our Big Gay Fab Wedding” would make sense should any of us have any contact with Jeremy Evil, which we do not. Anyway, why such a grumpus? Is this a touch of ‘Always a bridesmaid’ syndrome? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Biggirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/biggirl/32/3294_2.png) [@Biggirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biggirl)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2003, 10:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-our-appointment-with-the-bridal-registry-consultant/189525/32 "2003-07-19T22:28:06Z")
Well, because the movie it’s riffing off of is My Big Fat Greek Wedding. ---
**Author:** ![scott\_evil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/91b2a8/32.png) [@scott\_evil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scott_evil)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2003, 10:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-our-appointment-with-the-bridal-registry-consultant/189525/33 "2003-07-19T22:28:34Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Potter \* > \*\*“Our Big Gay Fab Wedding” would make sense should any of us have any contact with Jeremy Evil, which we do not. \*\* Well, he doesn’t post on the boards, but I _do_ bring him along to Dopefests and stuff… ---
**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2003, 10:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-our-appointment-with-the-bridal-registry-consultant/189525/34 "2003-07-19T22:46:43Z")
\*\*Anyway, why such a grumpus? Is this a touch of ‘Always a bridesmaid’ syndrome? \*\* [/QUOTE] Never been a bridesmaid. I was the second-best man at a wedding once (I was paired with the bride’s second “maid of honor”). The bride, it is the concensus of opinion, got married for the gifts. All of my friends are married so I expect the likelihood of being asked to stand up for anyone is pretty low at this point. Those who did get married had the good sense to do it with a minimum of hoopla so their friends didn’t have to deal with it; two of them actually eloped to Niagara Falls (gotta love tradition). ---
**Author:** ![Syntropy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/65b543/32.png) [@Syntropy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Syntropy)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2003, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-our-appointment-with-the-bridal-registry-consultant/189525/35 "2003-07-19T22:58:21Z")
Candles. In my book, just like towels; you can never have too many. I would live at Bed, Bath & Beyond if I could. Um… lessee…in sweeping my gaze through the house, the first thing I would say is, take the opportunity to register for a pair of lamps you really like. What else…a fairly nice little 6 bottle wine rack (those are usually pretty inexpensive), and of course, no kitchen is complete without a really cool spice rack. Please let us know if they have a website, and if we can view your list when you’re done!! ---
**Author:** ![Syntropy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/65b543/32.png) [@Syntropy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Syntropy)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2003, 11:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-our-appointment-with-the-bridal-registry-consultant/189525/36 "2003-07-19T23:04:02Z")
Candles. In my book, just like towels; you can never have too many. I would live at Bed, Bath & Beyond if I could. Um… lessee…in sweeping my gaze through the house, the first thing I would say is, take the opportunity to register for a pair of lamps you really like. What else…a fairly nice little 6 bottle wine rack (those are usually pretty inexpensive), and of course, no kitchen is complete without a really cool spice rack. Please let us know if they have a website, and if we can view your list when you’re done!! ---
**Author:** ![Syntropy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/65b543/32.png) [@Syntropy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Syntropy)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2003, 11:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-our-appointment-with-the-bridal-registry-consultant/189525/37 "2003-07-19T23:08:54Z")
AAARGH!!! Double post. And I was doing so well, up til now. Help, please? ---
**Author:** ![scott\_evil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/91b2a8/32.png) [@scott\_evil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scott_evil)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2003, 11:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-our-appointment-with-the-bridal-registry-consultant/189525/38 "2003-07-19T23:19:14Z")
**Maureen** , they do have a web site where our registry will be listed. **Otto** , dear, you know I love you, but please realize I’m not getting married just for the gifts. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Gyrate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gyrate/32/3588_2.png) [@Gyrate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gyrate)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2003, 11:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-our-appointment-with-the-bridal-registry-consultant/189525/39 "2003-07-19T23:23:41Z")
Microplane graters. My favorite kitchen-related appliance. And confabulations on your imminent congujal matrimonification. ---
**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2003, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-our-appointment-with-the-bridal-registry-consultant/189525/40 "2003-07-20T00:06:21Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by scott evil \* > \*\ ***Otto** , dear, you know I love you, but please realize I’m not getting married just for the gifts. \*\* Sure, you say you love me, but did you ask _me_ to marry you? And scott dear, I know you’re not marrying for the gifts. You’re marrying for the _drama_. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-our-appointment-with-the-bridal-registry-consultant/189525.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-big-fab-gay-wedding-our-appointment-with-the-bridal-registry-consultant/189525.md?page=3)