# My Boyfriend Asked Me To Consider A Prenup...Advice Please **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 28, 2004, 8:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-asked-me-to-consider-a-prenup-advice-please/277033 "2004-11-28T20:31:28Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![CrazyCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2004, 9:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-asked-me-to-consider-a-prenup-advice-please/277033/41 "2004-11-29T09:58:38Z")
**Blalron** , I think a lot of it is the implication that he expects you to screw him over unless he covers his ass. In this case, especially, since he’s all whipped up about guys losing all their money to those greedy, grasping ex-wives. **Dr.J** and I didn’t have a prenup, and the suggestion would have gone over like a fart in church. Not because it implied he thought we’d split up, because thinking about the worst-case scenario is just how we are. I mean, we’re the kind of people who think talking about what sort of life-support we’d want if one of us were catastrophically injured is light dinner conversation. No, I would have been offended at him basically saying that he didn’t trust me to act like a civilized human being and treat him fairly if we split up. I don’t think I could marry someone who thought that little of my character. ---
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2004, 11:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-asked-me-to-consider-a-prenup-advice-please/277033/42 "2004-11-29T11:54:39Z")
> [@pyrrthon1](#): > > If you want to be a stay at home mom, he should pay you a wage for doing that. It’s only fair. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA ::::::::::::wipes tear from eye Good one. ---
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2004, 11:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-asked-me-to-consider-a-prenup-advice-please/277033/43 "2004-11-29T11:56:12Z")
Get married in Michigan. What’s hers is hers and what’s his is hers. YAY! The down side would have to be having to probably live here and endure our weather, roads and sports teams. Other than that, c’mon over. ---
**Author:** ![Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/46a35a/32.png) [@Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tim_T-Bonham.net)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2004, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-asked-me-to-consider-a-prenup-advice-please/277033/44 "2004-11-29T21:58:55Z")
> [@Shirley Ujest](#): > > HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA ::::::::::::wipes tear from eye > > Good one. I thought so too. She gets to do what she wants, and he is expected to pay for it. Not a good way to start out a marriage, in my opinion. They really need to talk about their expectations about the finances in this (proposed) marriage. Sounds like they may have some differences which shoud be discussed beforehand. ---
**Author:** ![Blalron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/35a633/32.png) [@Blalron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blalron)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2004, 6:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-asked-me-to-consider-a-prenup-advice-please/277033/45 "2004-11-30T06:29:37Z")
> [@CrazyCatLady](#): > > No, I would have been offended at him basically saying that he didn’t trust me to act like a civilized human being and treat him fairly if we split up. I don’t think I could marry someone who thought that little of my character. Few enter into marriage believing their spouses will screw them over in the event of a divorce, but a hell of a lot more end up in that situation. Obviously there’s a discrepency there. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-asked-me-to-consider-a-prenup-advice-please/277033.md?page=2)