# My boyfriend doesn't dig me **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 12, 2014, 3:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-doesnt-dig-me/688237 "2014-05-12T03:05:19Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![huitzilopochtli](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e99b99/32.png) [@huitzilopochtli](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/huitzilopochtli)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 3:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-doesnt-dig-me/688237/1 "2014-05-12T03:05:19Z")
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We had sex lots like you do when we first got together. But lately we don’t. At all. The last time was January. He would be happy if we never did it again it seems. I’ve asked him and it ends with me in tears. I find him attractive. He tells me the same. I am sad ---
**Author:** ![YogSothoth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/8edcca/32.png) [@YogSothoth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/YogSothoth)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-doesnt-dig-me/688237/2 "2014-05-12T03:07:54Z")
He’s cheating on you? ---
**Author:** ![huitzilopochtli](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e99b99/32.png) [@huitzilopochtli](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/huitzilopochtli)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 3:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-doesnt-dig-me/688237/3 "2014-05-12T03:10:12Z")
I seriously doubt it. ---
**Author:** ![huitzilopochtli](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e99b99/32.png) [@huitzilopochtli](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/huitzilopochtli)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 3:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-doesnt-dig-me/688237/4 "2014-05-12T03:12:24Z")
He claims that he isn’t interested. But I am. VERY! ---
**Author:** ![huitzilopochtli](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e99b99/32.png) [@huitzilopochtli](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/huitzilopochtli)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 3:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-doesnt-dig-me/688237/5 "2014-05-12T03:15:54Z")
I do pretty much every thing I can to be cute and sexy. But he is not interested. Otherwise he is absolutely wonderful ---
**Author:** ![Inna\_Minnit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Inna\_Minnit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inna_Minnit)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 3:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-doesnt-dig-me/688237/6 "2014-05-12T03:26:10Z")
Ask him to see his doctor. If he refuses, you have a choice, can you live without sex? ---
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 3:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-doesnt-dig-me/688237/7 "2014-05-12T03:29:43Z")
I know guys like that, some guys having too much sex is like eating too much ice cream, they loose their taste for a while. Really no way for us to tell what is happening. He may not dig you, he may be gay, he may be cheating, he may have some kind of sexual anxiety for some reason. ---
**Author:** ![huitzilopochtli](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e99b99/32.png) [@huitzilopochtli](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/huitzilopochtli)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-doesnt-dig-me/688237/8 "2014-05-12T03:33:55Z")
That’s a good idea Inna. I guess that’s the next step. ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 3:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-doesnt-dig-me/688237/9 "2014-05-12T03:39:56Z")
is he depressed? ---
**Author:** ![huitzilopochtli](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e99b99/32.png) [@huitzilopochtli](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/huitzilopochtli)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 3:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-doesnt-dig-me/688237/10 "2014-05-12T03:40:43Z")
I might actually go crazy if I can’t get laid soon. He is always willing if I ask nicely. I don’t want nicely. I want sex all of the time! And naughty… ---
**Author:** ![huitzilopochtli](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e99b99/32.png) [@huitzilopochtli](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/huitzilopochtli)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 3:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-doesnt-dig-me/688237/11 "2014-05-12T03:41:45Z")
He doesn’t seem depressed. ---
**Author:** ![huitzilopochtli](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e99b99/32.png) [@huitzilopochtli](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/huitzilopochtli)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-doesnt-dig-me/688237/12 "2014-05-12T03:46:57Z")
He will always fuck me if I ask. I haven’t asked since January. We went on a caribbean cruise in January. We didn’t fuck then. But we did we got home. ---
**Author:** ![huitzilopochtli](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e99b99/32.png) [@huitzilopochtli](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/huitzilopochtli)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 3:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-doesnt-dig-me/688237/13 "2014-05-12T03:49:38Z")
The Prestige is on. That excites him. ---
**Author:** ![Septima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@Septima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Septima)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 9:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-doesnt-dig-me/688237/14 "2014-05-12T09:15:54Z")
D t m f a ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 9:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-doesnt-dig-me/688237/15 "2014-05-12T09:28:18Z")
> [@Septima](#): > > D t m f a Don’t touch my fat arse? ?? ---
**Author:** ![Simplicio](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c37758/32.png) [@Simplicio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Simplicio)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 9:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-doesnt-dig-me/688237/16 "2014-05-12T09:29:57Z")
I don’t think the SDMB is going to be able to make your bf sleep with you. Asking him what the issue is and working on it together might be the better approach. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 9:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-doesnt-dig-me/688237/17 "2014-05-12T09:33:26Z")
Just ask him nicely. Problem solved. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 10:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-doesnt-dig-me/688237/18 "2014-05-12T10:00:18Z")
> [@huitzilopochtli](#): > > I might actually go crazy if I can’t get laid soon. He is always willing if I ask nicely. I don’t want nicely. I want sex all of the time! And naughty… > [@huitzilopochtli](#): > > He will always fuck me if I ask. I haven’t asked since January. We went on a caribbean cruise in January. We didn’t fuck then. But we did we got home. Something seems a little off about this thread. Like maybe the OP had one too many glasses of wine. (Not that I don’t sympathize with the OP’s situation.) ---
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 10:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-doesnt-dig-me/688237/19 "2014-05-12T10:27:08Z")
Thinking back, I had a wife one time for a short while that I did not like making love to. No matter how hard I was pumping her she kept sayiong harder! harder!. That just bugged the shit out of me. ---
**Author:** ![WordMan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e8c25b/32.png) [@WordMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WordMan)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2014, 11:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-doesnt-dig-me/688237/20 "2014-05-12T11:13:53Z")
> [@kambuckta](#): > > Don’t touch my fat arse? > > ?? From the column Savage Love: DTMFA = Dump the MF Already… [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-doesnt-dig-me/688237.md?page=2)