# My boyfriend is no longer interested in sex, what's going on?

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**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [April 30, 2010, 10:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-is-no-longer-interested-in-sex-whats-going-on/537852 "2010-04-30T10:44:51Z")\
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**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\
**Post date:** [May 25, 2010, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-is-no-longer-interested-in-sex-whats-going-on/537852/141 "2010-05-25T15:29:27Z")

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> [@nicole1912](#):
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> Would any of the people in here who have posited the “real men always want sex, so he must be cheating on you” option say the same if the genders were reversed in this scenario and the OP was worried about his girlfriend who was feeling crap over possibly losing her job, having issues with her family, and didn’t want to have sex? I suspect not. Men do get stressed, too, shocking as this concept may be for some of you, and oddly this can affect their sex drive.

Why… You say that as if men were people or something! :eek:  
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**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\
**Post date:** [May 25, 2010, 3:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-is-no-longer-interested-in-sex-whats-going-on/537852/142 "2010-05-25T15:37:16Z")

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> [@nicole1912](#):
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> Would any of the people in here who have posited the “real men always want sex, so he must be cheating on you” option say the same if the genders were reversed in this scenario and the OP was worried about his girlfriend who was feeling crap over possibly losing her job, having issues with her family, and didn’t want to have sex?

No, because women aren’t the same kind of horndogs in the first place. Why should we pretend that men and women have exactly the same kind of sexual biologies? Just to be PC?

That isn’t to say the male with the low libido _must_ be cheating, but it’s far more unusual for a young male to lose his libido, or be indifferent to sex than it is for a woman.

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**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\
**Post date:** [May 25, 2010, 11:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-is-no-longer-interested-in-sex-whats-going-on/537852/143 "2010-05-25T23:12:28Z")

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> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#):
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> That isn’t to say the male with the low libido _must_ be cheating, but it’s far more unusual for a young male to lose his libido, or be indifferent to sex than it is for a woman.

I’m glad you’ve changed your mind about this. I agree. It is far, far more uncommon for men to have weak libidos. If this guy isn’t interested in sex, there’s something wrong (it’s just that that problem doesn’t have to be another woman as my own experience has taught me).

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