# My boyfriend might go to jail for up to sixty days

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-might-go-to-jail-for-up-to-sixty-days/578916>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [April 19, 2011, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-might-go-to-jail-for-up-to-sixty-days/578916 "2011-04-19T02:14:13Z")\
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**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\
**Post date:** [April 22, 2011, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-might-go-to-jail-for-up-to-sixty-days/578916/101 "2011-04-22T16:26:26Z")

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> [@Cluricaun](#):
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> Holy crap people. The OP said that the worst case scenario is 60 days. Lots of relatively minor infractions carry maximum penalties that are almost never awarded, but they do stand as worst case scenarios.

I’ll admit I was misinterpreting the OP. I thought the boyfriend had already been sentenced and the “might” and “up to” refered to the possibility of an early release.

Your advice is sound. He should get a good lawyer even if the trial is over. He’ll still want legal advice for the sentencing.

As for the OP’s decision about leaving him, that’s obviously her choice to make. But don’t leap into it just because of this. A court trial may seem like the biggest event of a lifetime and sixty days may seem like a long time but it really isn’t. This’ll pass. It’s true that sometimes a crisis can clarify an issue but more often a crisis just obscures the real issue behind the current emergency.

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**Author:** ![Tom\_Tildrum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e95f7d/32.png) [@Tom\_Tildrum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tom_Tildrum)\
**Post date:** [April 22, 2011, 4:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-might-go-to-jail-for-up-to-sixty-days/578916/102 "2011-04-22T16:36:37Z")

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> [@The\_wind\_of\_my\_soul](#):
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> **Update**
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> He just had the court trial, and he is going to jail, but not yet. The judge is letting him take his final exams, and there’s another court date afterwards to determine how much time he has to serve, and whether they’ll let him go to a halfway house or just do weekends to keep his job. There’s a good chance that I’ll leave him.

Well, I’m sorry you’re going through this. You sound like you’ve got it together very solidly, and your judgment sounds thoughtful. You’ll be OK. Remember to take care of yourself and your own stresses, and let yourself lean on the other supports in your life when you need to.

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**Author:** ![The\_wind\_of\_my\_soul](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecc23a/32.png) [@The\_wind\_of\_my\_soul](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_wind_of_my_soul)\
**Post date:** [April 22, 2011, 9:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-might-go-to-jail-for-up-to-sixty-days/578916/103 "2011-04-22T21:43:56Z")

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> [@The\_Jay](#):
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> Why mention prison then?

I mentioned jail because going to jail gives an idea of what sorts of restrictions he would have with regards to communicating with me.

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