# My Boyfriend Proposed, So I Broke Up With Him **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 2, 2003, 6:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-proposed-so-i-broke-up-with-him/146246 "2003-01-02T18:53:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![In\_Conceivable](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/4bbf92/32.png) [@In\_Conceivable](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/In_Conceivable)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2003, 2:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-proposed-so-i-broke-up-with-him/146246/121 "2003-01-28T14:37:16Z")
Nine years older then him? You want him to conform and date a women the same age as him? Great post **Mtgman**. To bad the OP will never respond to it. ---
**Author:** ![Ruffian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/71e660/32.png) [@Ruffian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruffian)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2003, 2:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-proposed-so-i-broke-up-with-him/146246/122 "2003-01-28T14:45:45Z")
I don’t understand…first you say this: > [@](#): > > I’m really not interested in discussing it any further. You all are welcome to do so, of course, if you must. But that will be without my input. And then follow it up with this: [quote] Hey mods. Could you be so kind and lock this thread, please. Since it is my thread, begun by me, I hope you will honor my request. Thank you.[/quoe]😕 ---
**Author:** ![Ruffian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/71e660/32.png) [@Ruffian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruffian)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2003, 2:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-proposed-so-i-broke-up-with-him/146246/123 "2003-01-28T14:51:48Z")
Dammit. And I thought I checked my coding carefully. Let’s try that again: I don’t understand…first you say this: > [@](#): > > I’m really not interested in discussing it any further. **You all are welcome to do so, of course, if you must. But that will be without my input.** And then follow it up with this: > [@](#): > > Hey mods. **Could you be so kind and lock this thread, please.** Since it is my thread, begun by me, I hope you will honor my request. Thank you. 😕 ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2003, 3:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-proposed-so-i-broke-up-with-him/146246/124 "2003-01-28T15:05:26Z")
**Ruffian** , don’t you see, since all of us had been shown to be “conformists” worthy of mockery and condescension, it would obviously be clearly the right thing to do to stop us from any further addressing of the issue. ---
**Author:** ![Equipoise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/equipoise/32/151_2.png) [@Equipoise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Equipoise)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2003, 2:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-proposed-so-i-broke-up-with-him/146246/125 "2003-01-30T14:27:59Z")
What a fascinating thread. I read all the way through and was actually seeing your point of view. Then you revealed your true personality. > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Suspenderzzz \* > \*\*My former BF has, during the past week alone, (allegedly) seen a lot of a certain mutual acquaintance who is about 9 years his senior. Yuck! \*\* What a vile and ugly and sad person you are. Your ex-bf is one lucky man for getting away from you. I hope you fall madly in love with a man 9 years younger than you, who will then dump you because he realizes how “yukky” you are because of your age. ---
**Author:** ![Mtgman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b5a626/32.png) [@Mtgman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mtgman)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2003, 6:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-proposed-so-i-broke-up-with-him/146246/126 "2003-01-30T18:23:14Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by In Conceivable \* > \*\*Great post Mtgman. To bad the OP will never respond to it. \*\* Thanks. After reading some more posts/threads with this particular poster as one of the star participants I don’t have much hope of any introspection on their part. This is assuming they’re not just trying to yank our chains(which is an assumption I’m giving 50/50 odds at the moment). Enjoy, Steven ---
**Author:** ![RickJay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/bb73d2/32.png) [@RickJay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RickJay)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2003, 8:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-proposed-so-i-broke-up-with-him/146246/127 "2003-01-30T20:20:47Z")
Non-conformists. They’re all the same. ---
**Author:** ![mishaa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/34f0e0/32.png) [@mishaa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mishaa)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-proposed-so-i-broke-up-with-him/146246/128 "2003-01-31T01:06:47Z")
Marriage, like life, is what you make it out to be. There are 11 divorces in my immediate family. I decided to never marry. When I started dating the love of my life, both of us agreed that marriage was not in the cards. _chuckle_ I got married at age 20. We have been married for 11 years. We are not a conventional couple- we have separate friends, interests, hobbies. We also share interests, hobbies, etc. We are both very independent. We have no children. Don’t equate marriage with the end of your life or intellectual or emotional growth. Marriage is very cool when done right. You do grow as a person, and as a unit. Marriage doesn’t equal life in the burbs and kids and picket fences. Just like suburban life doesn’t always equal mimivans, soccer moms and PTA. Your generalizations are offensive, and not what I expect to find on this board. BTW, we bought our first home last year. And a riding lawn mower! The horror… ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-proposed-so-i-broke-up-with-him/146246/129 "2003-01-31T05:00:36Z")
Oh, dear. This thread is in danger of sinking off the front page again. How will the mods _ever_ see that request for closure? Better give it a bump… ---
**Author:** ![Maeglin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Maeglin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maeglin)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 2:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-proposed-so-i-broke-up-with-him/146246/130 "2003-01-31T14:48:22Z")
You’re just bitter that you live in Jersey, **Green Bean**. ---
**Author:** ![Exgineer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a88e4f/32.png) [@Exgineer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Exgineer)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 3:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-proposed-so-i-broke-up-with-him/146246/131 "2003-01-31T15:22:39Z")
I bitter that I _don’t_ live in Jersey. I’m way down on the bourgeois middle class scale. I can’t even _see_ blessed non-conformity from here. ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 4:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-proposed-so-i-broke-up-with-him/146246/132 "2003-01-31T16:16:28Z")
> [@](#): > > …like suburban life doesn’t always equal minivans, soccer moms and PTA. Your generalizations are offensive… Not that there’s anything _wrong_ with driving a minivan, being a soccer mom, and being on the PTA. RIGHT??? ---
**Author:** ![Maeglin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Maeglin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maeglin)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-proposed-so-i-broke-up-with-him/146246/133 "2003-01-31T16:22:59Z")
But isn’t everyone a prole up in Albany? That’s all the nonconformity you really need. ---
**Author:** ![Exgineer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a88e4f/32.png) [@Exgineer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Exgineer)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 4:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-proposed-so-i-broke-up-with-him/146246/134 "2003-01-31T16:37:41Z")
Most of us a proles. Only most. Because we’re stuck with the state legislature in this town, we get a lot of shining lights from the city at the bottom of the river. Makes us quaint little peons green with envy, let me tell you. ---
**Author:** ![UncleBeer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/977dab/32.png) [@UncleBeer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UncleBeer)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-proposed-so-i-broke-up-with-him/146246/135 "2003-01-31T16:58:09Z")
**Moderator’s Notes:** > [@](#): > > \*Equipoise stated- \*What a vile and ugly and sad person you are. **Equipoise** , you’ll kindly knock off that kinda shit in this forum. I know this thread is _related_ to a current Pit thread, but it ain’t **in** the Pit. You **will** keep your invective confined to _that_ forum and out of **all** others or your membership will be terminated. ---
**Author:** ![Mtgman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b5a626/32.png) [@Mtgman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mtgman)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-proposed-so-i-broke-up-with-him/146246/136 "2003-01-31T17:00:00Z")
Note: Oddness != nonconformity. Sometimes an oddball is just an oddball. Non-conformists are oddballs by _choice_. 😉 Enjoy, Steven ---
**Author:** ![Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frank)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 5:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-proposed-so-i-broke-up-with-him/146246/137 "2003-01-31T17:24:20Z")
A non-conformist thinks that a man seeing a woman older than he is is “Yuck!”? How … … … refreshingly … … … conformist! ---
**Author:** ![Maeglin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Maeglin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maeglin)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 5:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-proposed-so-i-broke-up-with-him/146246/138 "2003-01-31T17:29:12Z")
The state legislature that taxes us real proles to pieces and gives us **nothing** in return. Who’s the bourgeois now, huh? ---
**Author:** ![Exgineer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a88e4f/32.png) [@Exgineer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Exgineer)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 5:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-proposed-so-i-broke-up-with-him/146246/139 "2003-01-31T17:49:05Z")
Honestly, **Maeglin** , I really am backsliding on the whole bourgie-middle-class deal. I’m so ashamed. I really need to get a dog, an SUV, a wife and some kids (preferably the soccer-playing kind). All I have at the moment is the house in the suburbs. As much as Albany even has suburbs, anyway. And I really have to spend more time obsessing over my lawn. ---
**Author:** ![Maeglin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Maeglin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maeglin)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 5:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-proposed-so-i-broke-up-with-him/146246/140 "2003-01-31T17:57:56Z")
At least you _have_ a lawn. I’m stuck with a transit fare hike and a mayor who needs to be mowed. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-proposed-so-i-broke-up-with-him/146246.md?page=6) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-proposed-so-i-broke-up-with-him/146246.md?page=8)