# My boyfriend wants me to talk more during sex... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 10, 2010, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453 "2010-02-10T18:25:48Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Southern\_Yankee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/southern_yankee/32/2800_2.png) [@Southern\_Yankee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Southern_Yankee)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2010, 7:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/21 "2010-02-10T19:46:37Z")
You people are all missing the point. **Inter Alia** , memorize and recite many baseball statistics. Trust me, you’ll be glad you did. ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Lendervedder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_lendervedder/32/8488_2.png) [@Happy\_Lendervedder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Lendervedder)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2010, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/22 "2010-02-10T19:53:37Z")
> [@bup](#): > > Slap my dirty hairy lips with your filthy veiny weenie. > > You know what? I’m actually not as horny as I thought I was. Hey, you’re taking it out of context! ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2010, 7:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/23 "2010-02-10T19:54:17Z")
> [@hotflungwok](#): > > Well, feedback is a good place to start. ‘I like that’, ‘Do that again’, ‘Harder’, ‘Softly’, ‘Faster’, ‘Slower’, or even just ‘More’ are good. “Faster, baby!” Yeah, faster! “Harder!” Um… OK. “Deeper!” 😕 ---
**Author:** ![Inter\_Alia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/258eb7/32.png) [@Inter\_Alia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inter_Alia)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2010, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/24 "2010-02-10T19:59:44Z")
[QUOTE=Czarcasm] Is there anything going through your mind that you could verbalize during sex? [/QUOTE] Mostly no. Sometimes, “Ooh, that feels good.” I just have a hard time saying it. [QUOTE=bup] Seriously, point out that he could help by asking you questions during sex. [/QUOTE] I like that. I’d definitely feel more comfortable if I was responding to something he asked. [QUOTE=Wheelz] Having said all that, don’t force yourself to act in a way you’re not comfortable with, and don’t let your boyfriend bully you into anything you don’t want to do. I don’t know how long you’ve been together or how serious your relationship is, but sexual compatibility is important in the long term, and you should definitely talk about it if you’re not both on the same page in bed. [/QUOTE] He’s definitely not bullying me - he just wants feedback. We’ve been together a little over three months, but I don’t know how serious it is yet. Other than my quietness, we are _extremely_ compatible in bed. **Happy Lendervedder** , your list is … interesting. Actually, I think it might be inspiring. I appreciate everyone’s advice so far. Looks like I need to just start talking, even if I feel silly at first. Hopefully, I’ll get comfortable with it the more I do it. I just hope he thinks it sounds hot rather than ridiculous. ---
**Author:** ![WOOKINPANUB](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wookinpanub/32/132_2.png) [@WOOKINPANUB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WOOKINPANUB)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2010, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/25 "2010-02-10T20:02:57Z")
> [@bup](#): > > Slap my dirty hairy lips with your filthy veiny weenie. > > You know what? I’m actually not as horny as I thought I was. This made me laugh so hard I almost drenched my soft ,silky panties with hot, golden urine. As for the OP, I’ll tell you how to talk dirty if you’ll tell me how to get my boyfriend to shut the hell up during sex. Not to be a party pooper or anything, but if talking dirty is really not your thing I don’t think you should be pressured into doing it. ---
**Author:** ![Southern\_Yankee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/southern_yankee/32/2800_2.png) [@Southern\_Yankee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Southern_Yankee)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2010, 8:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/26 "2010-02-10T20:07:10Z")
> [@WOOKINPANUB](#): > > This made me laugh so hard I almost drenched my soft ,silky panties with hot, golden urine. You should write romance novels! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![CalMeacham](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/calmeacham/32/35_2.png) [@CalMeacham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CalMeacham)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2010, 8:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/27 "2010-02-10T20:07:24Z")
> [@](#): > > What do I say, and how do I keep from feeling like an idiot when I’m saying it? Start with the preamble to the Constitution, the work your way up to the Gettysburg Address. When you can do Lincoln’s Second Inaugural, you know you’ve made it. And your partner will thank you for it. Or you can do soliloquys from Shakespeare. Pepper Mill is partial to reciting “The Quality of Mercy is not Strained” ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2010, 8:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/28 "2010-02-10T20:08:56Z")
> [@Southern\_Yankee](#): > > You should write romance novels! 😃 I gotta admit, I got a little moist reading that myself. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2010, 8:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/29 "2010-02-10T20:10:13Z")
> [@CalMeacham](#): > > Or you can do soliloquys from Shakespeare. Pepper Mill is partial to reciting “The Quality of Mercy is not Strained” How all occasions do inform against me, And spur my dull revenge! ---
**Author:** ![Rafe\_Hollister](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/fbc32d/32.png) [@Rafe\_Hollister](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rafe_Hollister)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2010, 8:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/30 "2010-02-10T20:10:25Z")
Don’t worry about sounding silly. Some of the hottest things my partners have said during sex give me a smile later one, even if they do sound silly, and I will remember them for a long time and always bring back fond memories. For example: I still remember Stephanie saying, “OH Yeah!! That’s the stuff!” while I was eating her. Because she wouldn’t use any curse words, Jessi would say, “Oh, shhhh—ah shah!” Elizabeth was complimenting me on our first time by saying, “GOD! If everybody was this good there would never be any divorce.” ---
**Author:** ![Rafe\_Hollister](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/fbc32d/32.png) [@Rafe\_Hollister](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rafe_Hollister)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2010, 8:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/31 "2010-02-10T20:12:39Z")
BTW, **Inter Alia** , if you want to know if you’re doing it right, just film it and send me a copy and I’ll give you some honest feedback from a neutral 3rd party. You’re welcome. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2010, 8:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/32 "2010-02-10T20:12:54Z")
If you don’t want to do it, don’t do it. Don’t do anything you don’t want to do. Talking dirty during sex IS ridiculous. You have no obligation to make yourself ridiculous. ---
**Author:** ![Hypno-Toad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b2d939/32.png) [@Hypno-Toad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hypno-Toad)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2010, 8:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/33 "2010-02-10T20:15:50Z")
Find out what his interests are and tailor your comments on that. If he plays Pokemon, yell, “I CHOOSE YOU!” If he likes Nascar, keep yelling, “TURN LEFT!” or “TIME FOR A PIT STOP!” If he’s a Star Wars fan, all you have to yell is, “FASTER” and “MORE INTENSE!” ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2010, 8:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/34 "2010-02-10T20:19:09Z")
> [@matt\_mcl](#): > > How all occasions do inform against me, > And spur my dull revenge! I could tell you were a marvellous actor from the way you handled your _Bottom_ in my _Dream_. ---
**Author:** ![appleciders](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85f322/32.png) [@appleciders](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/appleciders)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2010, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/35 "2010-02-10T20:22:12Z")
If you find that you’ve started a sentence that would be awkward, strange, or hilarious to finish, just cut yourself off with a moan. ---
**Author:** ![BrandonR](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/779978/32.png) [@BrandonR](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrandonR)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2010, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/36 "2010-02-10T20:34:04Z")
Just get drunk beforehand. It’ll make your wild side easier to come out and you won’t have to worry about being self conscious. ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2010, 8:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/37 "2010-02-10T20:39:26Z")
> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > Talking dirty during sex IS ridiculous. This seems a bit…narrow-minded. Are you being serious? As it applies to all individuals and couples? ---
**Author:** ![CalMeacham](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/calmeacham/32/35_2.png) [@CalMeacham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CalMeacham)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2010, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/38 "2010-02-10T20:47:30Z")
> [@](#): > > If he’s a Star Wars fan, all you have to yell is, “FASTER” and “MORE INTENSE!” But DON’T say: – I have a BAD feeling about this – --Let the Wookiee win – I thought they smelled bad on the _outside_ – Use the Force, Luke! – I never thought I’d be smuggling myself in them ---
**Author:** ![Queen\_Tonya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/4491bb/32.png) [@Queen\_Tonya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Queen_Tonya)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2010, 8:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/39 "2010-02-10T20:55:03Z")
There’s no reason you can’t keep to one syllable stuff at first, just “ooh” and “mmm” and “ohhh” with maybe a classic “OMG” for particular emphasis. It’s feedback, but not quite as distracting as constructing sentences in your head and evaluating them for how silly they’ll sound. ---
**Author:** ![Wheelz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wheelz/32/5718_2.png) [@Wheelz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wheelz)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2010, 8:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/40 "2010-02-10T20:55:41Z")
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