# My boyfriend wants me to talk more during sex... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 10, 2010, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453 "2010-02-10T18:25:48Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 17\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2010, 1:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/81 "2010-02-12T01:22:08Z")
> [@billfish678](#): > > Okay, who here is gonna be the brave one that does an internet search for “Pokemon porn”? > > I’m too chicken myself. Well, recently, I wanted to get a picture of Dawn. So I googled “Pokemon Dawn.” Safe search was not on…:eek: :eek: :eek: ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2010, 1:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/82 "2010-02-12T01:45:46Z")
> [@jsc1953](#): > > Hmmm. Sounds more like what a pitching coach would say when his pitcher throws a particularly nasty curveball. Take care before punctuating anal penetration with “_OW!_ That’s gotta _HURT!_” ---
**Author:** ![Gorsnak](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gorsnak/32/7587_2.png) [@Gorsnak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gorsnak)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2010, 2:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/83 "2010-02-12T02:29:19Z")
I recommend breathless whispers in the style of golf commentators: “That’s a bit of an awkward lie.” “He’s taking his time lining up this stroke.” “He’ll want his wood for this shot.” These should be interspersed with occasional shouts of “IN THE HOLE!” ---
**Author:** ![Askance](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/askance/32/8281_2.png) [@Askance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Askance)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2010, 3:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/84 "2010-02-12T03:58:03Z")
> [@fubbleskag](#): > > Why do you insist on humouring him when he does this? She’s not insisting. She’s looking for advice on what might a/ further excite her lover at his specific request and b/ sit comfortably with her. If you have a problem with that, well, you have a problem far more fundamental than she. ---
**Author:** ![drachillix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/48db29/32.png) [@drachillix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drachillix)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2010, 5:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/85 "2010-02-12T05:12:48Z")
> [@tdn](#): > > “Faster, baby!” > > Yeah, faster! > > “Harder!” > > Um… OK. > > “Deeper!” > > 😕 Just avoid yelling “bigger” Unless of course you were asking for me 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Perciful](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/b38774/32.png) [@Perciful](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Perciful)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2010, 5:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/86 "2010-02-12T05:30:06Z")
How about just starting with small noises. Mmmm, etc. Then work up to something you feel ok with. It is actually a turn on for me to talk dirty. I think because it is erotic. You could always play some good music like Bolero or Sade. I like music but can’t concentrate when the tv is on. ---
**Author:** ![Inter\_Alia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/258eb7/32.png) [@Inter\_Alia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inter_Alia)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2010, 7:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/87 "2010-02-12T07:16:00Z")
**Perciful** , I have no problem with noises. It’s words I have a problem with. Okay, when I see him this weekend, I’m going to at least say, “I love when you do that.” And no, I’m not going to tell you pervs what “that” is. If I don’t feel like an idiot, I might throw out a “Don’t stop” or “Right there.” ---
**Author:** ![Voyager](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voyager/32/133_2.png) [@Voyager](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Voyager)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2010, 7:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/88 "2010-02-12T07:50:45Z")
> [@CalMeacham](#): > > Or you can do soliloquys from Shakespeare. Pepper Mill is partial to reciting “The Quality of Mercy is not Strained” Now is the winter of our discontent Made glorious summer by this filthy, veiny weenie. And after I read “I thought they smelled bad on the outside” my wife thought I was dying. Curse you! ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2010, 7:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/89 "2010-02-12T07:57:05Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > I think one of the problems with dirty talk is that we men don’t really get what women mean when they say, “right there!” or “that feels great!”, etc. > > You want us to keep doing whatever we’re doing. We think, “well if she likes it now, she’ll love it if I do the same thing faster/harder”. But generally you won’t (or so I’m told). Speaking only for myself, “there! therethereTHEREEEEE!” means “go on doing exactly what you’re doing please baby please just like that you got it right that’s perfect go on ooooOOOH DDIOOOOOS!” If I want it faster or harder I’ll say “bit faster!” or “bit harder!” (I think the bit part comes from this guy who understood “harder” as “don’t just lick, try to bite a chunk off” - which was definitely not the intended message). ---
**Author:** ![stolichnaya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bcef8e/32.png) [@stolichnaya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stolichnaya)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2010, 12:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/90 "2010-02-12T12:42:08Z")
I was a slow starter on being verbal during sex. Early on if you were listening at the door you might think that my partner was by herself. But I would not go back now, I think it’s great and dirty and fun. At a certain level it is about making yourself vulnerable, sharing your more animal side with someone that you care about- that’s what makes sex in a relationship good- if things go wacky or someone says something odd or bumps their head, well it’s just the two of you fucking around and that is hot and also kind of sweet. ---
**Author:** ![Death\_of\_Rats](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a6a055/32.png) [@Death\_of\_Rats](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Death_of_Rats)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2010, 4:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/91 "2010-02-12T16:46:14Z")
> [@Hypno-Toad](#): > > If he’s a Star Wars fan, all you have to yell is, “FASTER” and “MORE INTENSE!” Just avoid “Pull out Wedge! you can’t do any more good back there!” or “At that speed can you pull out in time?” unless they are pertinent to the current situation. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2010, 5:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/92 "2010-02-12T17:29:13Z")
“You’re all clear, kid. Now let’s blow this thing and go home!” ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2010, 5:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/93 "2010-02-12T17:42:55Z")
Darling, I don’t mean to worry you, but [your sex is on fire](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zufcRi0dPTs). ---
**Author:** ![Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b38774/32.png) [@Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Attack_from_the_3rd_dimension)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2010, 5:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/94 "2010-02-12T17:56:52Z")
> [@Death\_of\_Rats](#): > > Just avoid “Pull out Wedge! you can’t do any more good back there!” or “At that speed can you pull out in time?” unless they are pertinent to the current situation. I keep looking up Jar Jar quotes for sex. I may never be able to have sex again, particularly if I ever, ever say anything in a Jar Jar voice. "Ooh mooey mooey I love you! " ---
**Author:** ![KneadToKnow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kneadtoknow/32/3999_2.png) [@KneadToKnow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KneadToKnow)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2010, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/95 "2010-02-12T18:11:44Z")
> [@Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](#): > > I keep looking up Jar Jar quotes for sex. “Monsters out there, leaking in here.” You know, if you’re into that. ---
**Author:** ![LiveOnAPlane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/3d9bf3/32.png) [@LiveOnAPlane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LiveOnAPlane)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2010, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/96 "2010-02-12T18:37:21Z")
I seriously need to take some notes here. Because our sex talk lately has been going something like this: She: “Ohhh, LOAP, it feels so good when you do that.” Me: “Mmmmmmph.” She: “What?” Me: “Mmmphggle.” She: “Damn it, LOAP! Spit out that titty and talk to me!!” ---
**Author:** ![Kaio](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c68b51/32.png) [@Kaio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kaio)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2010, 9:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453/97 "2010-02-13T09:06:15Z")
> [@Inter\_Alia](#): > > **Perciful** , I have no problem with noises. It’s words I have a problem with. > > Okay, when I see him this weekend, I’m going to at least say, “I love when you do that.” And no, I’m not going to tell you pervs what “that” is. If I don’t feel like an idiot, I might throw out a “Don’t stop” or “Right there.” I’ll also suggest “Here,” while guiding his hand to wherever “here” is. And just remember no one’s scoring you on your elocution. 🙂 Monosyllabic is perfectly fine. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriend-wants-me-to-talk-more-during-sex/528453.md?page=4)