# My Boyfriend's Parents are Coming to Visit...

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriends-parents-are-coming-to-visit/573399>\
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [March 3, 2011, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriends-parents-are-coming-to-visit/573399 "2011-03-03T19:41:34Z")\
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**Author:** ![rekkah](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ee59a6/32.png) [@rekkah](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rekkah)\
**Post date:** [March 7, 2011, 7:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriends-parents-are-coming-to-visit/573399/41 "2011-03-07T19:12:51Z")

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> [@sandra\_nz](#):
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> Did Mom have a screaming fit because Dad offered him milk? Or were the two events unrelated?

I thought her Dad offering milk was an example of how he wasn’t too bad and that it was her mother causing the problem. Hence Dad was “one thing” - OK, whereas her mother was quite another (not OK).

And I too am very grateful for my in-laws who are lovely, welcoming and have treated me like family from day 1.

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**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\
**Post date:** [March 8, 2011, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-boyfriends-parents-are-coming-to-visit/573399/42 "2011-03-08T19:44:23Z")

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> [@rekkah](#):
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> I thought her Dad offering milk was an example of how he wasn’t too bad and that it was her mother causing the problem. Hence Dad was “one thing” - OK, whereas her mother was quite another (not OK).

Yes. Like, he came in the door - my parents had been warned he was coming, and had accepted his coming at first, that is the level of my mom’s craziness at the time - and my dad took one look at him and then me and kind of gave me a “sorry, sorry” look, before he offered him milk.

My parents and him and I sat down and tried to talk for a few minutes, but my mom was in a simmering rage which soon built up to a screaming fury.

Nava translated it properly. As for the Indian bit, that was my hope that it would help them accept him - that I wasn’t really dating that unusual of a guy, he was Indian. It never mattered because a) I was dating, which was a complete no-no. Would you believe I never really understood that? I blame Bollywood - my mom loved sappy love stories and I guess I kind of figured when my time came it would be OK. Not. At. All. Dating was completely taboo.  
B) He was South Indian, and  
C) He was a Protestant.

In hindsight, I think my mother might have been bipolar, but she never would have gotten diagnosed. I come from a culture where mental health is perceived as a switch - it’s either “on” and you’re sane, or “off”, and you’re the crazy aunt in the attic.

Mom had a screaming fit because he existed and because I dared to bring him into the house. Let me remind everybody here I was twenty at the time! :eek:

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